Robbie Rogers - Coming Out to Play

My name is Robbie Rogers. My sister Alicia calls me Robber, but only when shes being affectionate and wants to make me smile. Mom calls me Robbie or Dearheart and a lot of other embarrassing things. Grammers and Grandpa call me Obbie Ogers, not because they have a problem with their rs but because I used to and they still like to think of me as their little grandson even though I long ago made peace with the entire alphabet. Most everyone else calls me Robbie.

Until recently I was best known as a professional soccer player who dabbled in fashion. (I have a mens clothing line.) Ive played soccer in one form or another for twenty-two of my twenty-six years and during that time Ive done what Ive had to in order to fit in and excel in the game I love.

My fans know that I played for the Columbus Crew in Ohio for five seasons, was voted All-Star, and was named to the MLS Best XI, one of the biggest honors for a player in Major League Soccer, when we won the 2008 MLS Cup. They also know that I played for the U.S. Olympic soccer team in the 2008 Beijing Summer Olympics (one of the highlights of my life), that I left the United States in 2012 to play football in England for Leeds United, and in May 2013 joined the LA Galaxy.

What Im best known for now is having blazed a trail, as NBA player Jason Collins said, when I returned to soccer after a very brief retirement and became the first openly gay male athlete to play in one of the top five team sports in North America.

Those are the bare outlines of my life. And while the various media have filled in some of the details since I came out publicly in February 2013, Ive been uncomfortable with the shorthand versions of my life that Ive seen and read. So in the pages that follow Ill tell you the story of my life behind the headlines, how I lived with a secret that just about destroyed me, how I came to free myself from that secret, and how, despite all my fears to the contrary, I found the kind of acceptance, support, and love that I never believed was possible.

My hope is that by reading the story of my life in greater depth you will learn something from my experience. While I wouldnt change anything about my life as Ive lived itbecause I wouldnt be where I am today if not for all the experiences Ive had, both good and badI wish Id known the high price you inevitably pay when you choose to keep a secret that compels you to live a lie.

Its a clich to say that the truth will set you free. But as youll see, thats exactly what happened to me. And its that wish to live an open and honest life that inspires me now to share my story with you.

Robbie Rogers
February 2014