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Originally published in French as Toutes les familles heureuses in 2017 by ditions Jean-Claude Latts, Paris
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English translation copyright 2019 Other Press
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The Library of Congress has cataloged the printed edition as follows:
Names: Le Tellier, Herv, 1957- author. | Hunter, Adriana, translator.
Title: All happy families : a memoir / Herv Le Tellier; translated from the French by Adriana Hunter.
Other titles: Toutes les familles heureuses. English
Description: New York : Other Press, [2019] | Originally published in French as Toutes les familles heureuses in 2017 by ditions Jean-Claude Latts, Paris.
Identifiers: LCCN 2018031467 (print) | LCCN 2018056732 (ebook) |
ISBN 9781590519387 (ebook) | ISBN 9781590519370 (paperback)
Subjects: LCSH: Le Tellier, Herv, 1957Family. | Le Tellier, Herv,
1957Childhood and youth. | Authors, French20th century
Biography. | Authors, French21st centuryBiography. |
BISAC: BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY / Personal Memoirs. |
BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY / Literary. |
BIOGRAPHY & AUTOBIOGRAPHY / Women.
Classification: LCC PQ2672.E11455 (ebook) |
LCC PQ2672.E11455 Z46 2019 (print) | DDC 843/.914 [B]dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2018031467
Ebook ISBN 9781590519387
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CONTENTS
ONE
DIALECTIC OF A MONSTER
Listen to your father, who gave you life,
and do not despise your mother when she is old.
PROVERBS 23:22
So, apparently its scandalous not to love your parents. Scandalous to wonder whether you should be ashamed becausedespite your youthful effortsyou failed to find in your heart such a commonplace feeling as filial love.
A childs indifference is forbidden. Children are forever imprisoned by the love they spontaneously feel for their parents, whether the latter are good or cruel, intelligent or stupid, in a word, lovable or not. Behaviorists call these widely acknowledged, indisputable manifestations of affection imprinting. An absence of filial love not only is an insult to decency, but also stabs in the back the edifice of cognitive sciences.
I was twelve years old. It must have been eleven oclock in the evening and I was not yet asleep, because it was one of those very rare nights when my parents had gone out to dinner. Left alone, I was meant to be reading, probably Isaac Asimov, or Fredric Brown, or Clifford D. Simak. The telephone rang. My first thought was: its the police, theres been a car crash, my parents are dead. I say my parents to simplify (you should always simplify), because I actually mean my mother and stepfather.
It wasnt the police. It was my mother. They were running late; she wanted to reassure me.
I hung up.
It occurred to me that I hadnt been worried. Id imagined their demise with no feelings of panic or sadness. I was amazed to have so quickly accepted my status as an orphan, and appalled by the twinge of disappointment when I recognized my mothers voice.
Thats when I knew I was a monster.
I was informed that Serge had died one sunny afternoon. Serge was my father, my actual father. I was being driven to the Manosque literary festival. I remember that, as well as the driver, the car contained at least the poet Jean-Pierre Verheggen and the writer Jean-Claude Pirotte.
My cell phone rang; I didnt recognize the number and picked up. It was my sister. I say my sister when she is in fact my half sister, even though Ive never been definitively conscious of having a half sister. She is seven or eight years younger than I am, the fact that my stepfather has adopted me means we dont have the same family name, and we must have met half a dozen times in our lives. Still, I did at some stage realize that she had burdened me with the heroic, mythologized mantle of the faraway big brother, an imaginary ceremonial garment that made me her brother while nothing succeeded in making her my sister. But Id decided against pointing out this deceptive and elementary psychological truth to her. It was several years since wed last spoken.
Our father is dead, she said.
I watched the Provenal landscape spool past along the freeway, and found nothing to say in reply.
She and I both experienced a form of paternal absence, because I had never really known him, while she had left our fathers house when she was fifteen to move in with her mother, and had rarely seen him since. In fact, this missing father compartment in both our lives was the only concrete subject of our very sporadic conversations. The difference between us was that Id ended up resigned to his absence but she, who had spent her childhood with him, had never managed to come to terms with it and it pained her. On this particular morning, what she had actually lost was our absence of a father.
Our fathers dead, she said again.
Really? When did he die?
I was aware of silence settling over the car. Thats often the effect you get with the word die.
She told me briefly that he had been taken to the hospital for breathing difficulties, that his condition had deteriorated and he had died of an embolism in the night.
I made inquiries about practical details, the date and place of the funeral. I thought of offering her my condolences, but that seemed rather indelicate. I feigned sadness for another good minute, then hung up. Jean-Pierre Verheggen was watching me with some concern.
To reassure him, I said, Its nothing. My fathers dead.
Jean-Pierre laughed and thats when I knew I was a monster.
I was informed that my stepfather had died when I was called by Bichat Hospital while I was at the PEN Festival in New York. Id set off for the United States when hed already been in intensive care for a week. Still, his condition was not deemed to be life-threatening, and it didnt strike me as vital to stay in Paris to visit a man in an induced coma and pretend to support my mother. I called once a day and grasped that Guys condition was deteriorating, with an endless round of alternating antibiotics and anti-inflammatories proving ineffectual and ultimately lethal. I was happier not being there. It would have been even more ignominious simulating affection than revealing my indifference to medical staff who have seen it all and cant be fooled.