A big thanks to my mum, dad, and the rest of my family for always supporting me even if you dont always agree with me, and adapting to me changing over the years! I love you.
Thanks also to my best friend George who always has my back, Tony Hurst at www.organicwebdesign.eu for the artwork, and to Sazmick books for your support and help throughout.
Introduction
So are you living or just existing? Powerful question I had to ask myself around 5 years ago. That one sentence triggered a multitude of feelings inside me and an array of thoughts and questions, many of which I didn't necessarily like the answers to. With that question other questions splintered off in my mind. Who runs the World? Why do I feel like Im on a treadmill day after day? Deep introspection followed, the answer was that I was existing and I had been for many years. Stagnating yet at the same time, an inner knowing just driving me on to find the answers. I wanted to break free of whatever cacoon I had been in all my life, I wanted my life to have meaning, a purpose, a mission even, and I intuitively felt that we all have that. The big question for me was that I hadn't even discovered mine, I was in my mid thirties and life was passing me by, I was somewhat 'successful' in my career but I never made it too far up the corporate ladder because looking back now, I understood that it was bullshit. Shmoozing and brown nosing my way up the ladder was never my style, I preferred to get results, yet even when they came because I wasn't patting the right backs and speaking up about things I never made it too far.
It was the first time in my life that I had really and truly questioned my own existence, or maybe I had but I just wasn't being honest with myself. I think we can tend to lie to ourselves the most about a whole host of things. So at the time of questioning I decided I was going to be brutally honest with myself to get some real truth and understanding. So it was an interesting time for me because no sooner had I started to ask these questions I would stumble across information, researchers, documentaries, and books that really started to paint an honest picture about the World around me. What I was to discover was the World I thought to be real along with sitations and events, when I studied and delved deeper were in fact a lot different. This then arose other questions and so on it went, and in many ways it is still going on today. The amazing thing was that after I shed the layers of not only myself and what I had been taught I actually found myself, and from that poiint although it hasn't been easy, especially as other people see you change so much, it has been worth it. Mainly because I am no longer lying to myself, and I see things with a rawness I hadn't done previously.
The title of the book can be quite over arching, I mean many people will read that and think well yes I am living, they may have a great job doing what they love, family, a good social network etc But my point is even from that percpective are they living from, and are their beliefs about themselves, coming from a position of raw truth and honesty? Because for me that is the underlying message that this question poses. When I mean honest I mean brutally honest. I strongly feel unless we are brutally honest with ourselves first then how can we say we are being authentic and TRULY 'living'? So its a multifaceted question, yes you can be happy, fulfilled etc but is there true authenticy there?
Now you could be in the other camp, the camp that I was in ''just existing' which in that case the book will hopefully be a real eye opener. Either way whatever camp you're in there is no right or wrong here, we are all on different parts of the road we call life. But whichever camp I hope that this book will raise an eyebrow or two and maybe just enable you to question your own reality.
I must also point out that I am not trying to make friends or create followers with this book, I didnt write this to get good reviews or anything like that. Some of the information might be challenging, its supposed to be. It is raw, unapologetic, and it is from my heart because ultimately I have written this book to encourage people to become a better version of themselves, and thus in my own small way, help to make the World a better place. I am also not saying Im perfect myself or that I have it all figured out, I am like everyone else, a work in progress. But I know one thing I am unrecognisable from 5 years ago, and I am thankfully now living. Truly.