Michelle Skeen - Love Me, Don’t Leave Me: Overcoming Fear of Abandonment and Building Lasting, Loving Relationships

Michelle Skeen, PsyD, is a therapist who lives and works in San Francisco, CA. She has provided brief and long-term therapy for individuals and couples utilizing schema, cognitive, and behavioral therapies to address interpersonal issues, weight management, anger, depression, anxiety, disabilities, and trauma. She is author of The Critical Partner and coauthor of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for Interpersonal Problems. Skeen hosts a weekly radio show called Relationships 2.0 with Dr. Michelle Skeen on KCAA 1050 AM. To find out more about Skeen, visit her website at www.michelleskeen.com.

Foreword writer Wendy T. Behary, LCSW, is founder and clinical director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and a faculty member at the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York. She is also a distinguished founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. She maintains a private practice, specializing in narcissism and high-conflict couples therapy.

The way out of the woods is to find a path througha way to walk through deep-seated fears of abandonment and emerge with the ability to build, maintain, and enjoy lasting, loving relationships. In Love Me, Dont Leave Me, Michelle Skeen has expertly crafted one such path. With skill and compassion, Skeen guides readers through a journey that facilitates self-knowledge, self-discovery, and ultimately, the personal transformation needed to enjoy lasting, loving relationships.

Lissah Lorberbaum, MA, coauthor of Anxious in Love: How to Manage Your Anxiety, Reduce Conflict, and Reconnect with Your Partner

Love Me Dont Leave Me ventures into the rough terrain of your most challenging relationships. Michelle Skeen provides you with an indispensable map and clear direction toward a new pathway to heal yourself and develop smart and healthy ways to interact with others. This book will offer you clear tools to realign with your core values. Reading this book feels like you are sitting across from a deeply caring therapist. Pull up a chair and experience Skeens warm and compassionate guidance for yourself.

Rebecca E. Williams, PhD, clinical psychologist and coauthor of the award-winning The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction

In this insightful and compassionate book, Michelle Skeen has illuminated two crucial aspects that govern relationship issues in todays world: She asks the readers to delve deeply into themselves to resolve what they may be contributing to repeated unsatisfactory relationships, understanding fully that significant change happens first within the self. She then clearly states what traps lie in wait for those who unwittingly recommit to partners who continue to evoke negative triggers from past relationships. Her writing is concise and wonderfully clear, with many excellent exercises to give the reader the opportunity to make actual positive changes.

Randi Gunther, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Relationship Saboteurs and When Love Stumbles

Love Me, Dont Leave Me is the perfect book for anyone who is tired of the dark shadow of abandonment. Its a powerful resource for those who feel as if no one could ever really love them. And its ideal for anyone who is exhausted from chasing partners who are unpredictable, unreliable, or just plain unavailable. With her trademark style of compassion and clarity, Michelle Skeen will quickly help the reader identify the heart of his or her abandonment patterns. This book provides robust tools for change, with plenty of self-score inventories, cognitive techniques, meditations, and case studies. Love Me Dont Leave Me offers an escape from the gravitational pull of abandonment and offers real answers for creating loving, relaxed, and satisfying relationships.

Shawn T. Smith, PsyD, author of The Womans Guide to How Men Think and The Users Guide to the Human Mind

With compassionate and loving clarity, Michelle Skeen guides us through our labyrinths of unworthiness and fear to discover in our own deep being that we have always been enough and we no longer need all the barriers to love that we have created in our lives. This book is for everyone that would find and live in the joy and fulfillment of lasting, loving relationships.

Steve Flowers, MFT, author of The Mindful Path through Shyness and coauthor of Living with Your Heart Wide Open

This book offers elegant pathways toward the self-understanding that creates lifelong, loving relationships. I wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone who has ever suffered in the name of love.

Jason B. Fischer, MA, LPC, author of The Two Truths about Love: The Art & Wisdom of Extraordinary Relationships

Michelle Skeens Love Me, Dont Leave Me is a smart book. She uses sound exercises and worksheets to help anyone suffering from abandonment find their triggers and develop mindfulness skills for communicating in healthier relationships. Anyone who wants to understand their own needs and learn how to change their relationships with their thoughts and emotions should read this book.

Tammy Nelson, PhD, psychotherapist, international speaker, and author of The New Monogamy, Getting the Sex You Want, and Whats Eating You?

Finally, a book that skillfully addresses an all-too-often overlooked aspect of relationship struggles: the fear of abandonment. This book will invite you on the journey of embracing the most elemental aspect of our humannessour sense of connection to one anotherand what can happen when this connection becomes disrupted. Michelle Skeen masterfully walks you through a comprehensive exploration of looking into how your experience of connectednessor various lacks thereofcontribute to your relationship struggles. So much of the suffering experienced in relationships stems from this fear of abandonment, yet very little is offered to help those who confront this in their lives. In Love Me, Dont Leave Me, Michelle Skeen offers powerful insights, and, most importantly, tools to help successfully navigate how this fear plays out in relationships. Now, get a pencil and start to read and follow the instructions. You will be glad you did.

Thomas Roberts, LCSW, psychotherapist; clinical hypnotherapist; mindfulness and meditation teacher and retreat leader; and author of The Mindfulness Workbook

Publishers Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

The Cost of Your Coping Strategies adapted from THE DIALECTICAL BEHAVIORAL THERAPY SKILLS WORKBOOK by Matthew McKay, Jeffrey C. Wood, and Jeffrey Brantley, 2007 Matthew McKay, Jeffrey C. Wood, and Jeffrey Brantley. Adapted by permission of New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Mindful Focusing adapted from THE INTERPERSONAL PROBLEMS WORKBOOK by Matthew McKay, Patrick Fanning, Avigail Lev, and Michelle Skeen, copyright 2013 by Matthew McKay, Patrick Fanning, Avigail Lev, and Michelle L. Skeen. Adapted by permission of New Harbinger Publications, Inc.