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2016 by Lacey Sturm
Published by Baker Books
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Praise for The Reason
Fresh. Passionate. Powerful. Lacey Sturm does in The Reason what she has done her whole careershe tells the truth, sings the truth, dances the truth. Her story will blow you away, and her heart will touch you. Read The Reason. Just like her voice and presence, Laceys writing compels and penetrates, and in the end she will change you.
Chap Clark, PhD , author of Hurt 2. 0: Inside the World of Todays Teenagers
In a time where the gulf between sacred and secular seems to grow incrementally, Lacey bridges the gap with her soul-baring candor, raw passion, and prophetic insight. She communicates the comedy, tragedy, and triumph of her life story with fluidity and grace, and her message is timelessly impactful. It screams of Jesus Christ, who is alive and active today, even in our darkest times, and the great news that no one is beyond his reach.
John L. Cooper , lead singer of Skillet
At its core Laceys story is one of hope. From desperation to redemption to victory, this is an amazing journey that, apart from God, would not be possible. Hers is a story that will encourage and challenge all who read it.
Michael W. Smith , singer and songwriter
I have been fortunate to witness Lacey grow from singer/songwriter to wife to mommy to now author. She is an amazing soul with a heart like no other. Her life and her story have been such an encouragement to me, and I know this book will also inspire and change you forever.
Sonny Sandoval , lead singer of P. O. D. and founding member of The Whosoevers
Lacey has touched so many lives around the world through her music. Her story will hit your heart.
Ryan Ries , cofounder of The Whosoevers
Lacey Sturm is a voice of hope to a hurting generation. In her book you will experience Gods unstoppable heart for you and for those in your life who need a supernatural reset. Laceys message is real, raw, and dripping with love. Dive in and be blessed!
Nick Hall , founder and primary communicator of PULSE
Dedication
To Papa Eric.
For revealing the mystery of how a father loves a daughter. And for being just a brother
who points me to Jesus.
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Praise for The Reason
Dedication
Part 1: A World of Broken Lovers
The Mystery of Being Royal: An Introduction
The Mystery of Needing to Be Needed
The Mystery of an Orphan Identity
The Mystery of Fatherlessness
The Mystery of a Fathers Heart
The Mystery of Our Deathly Freedom
The Mystery of Being Deceived
The Mystery of What Love Isnt
The Mystery of Freedom and Suicide
The Mystery of Rage and Questions
The Mystery of Memories
Part 2: Finding True Love
The Mystery of Silence
The Mystery of Renewal
The Mystery of Choosing to Be a Daughter
The Mystery of Many Crowns
The Mystery of Marrying Jesus
The Mystery of Heavenly Attraction
The Mystery of the One
The Mystery of Waking Up to Romance
The Mystery of Boundaries
The Mystery of Purity
The Mystery of Family
Conclusion
Afterword by Greg Laurie
Notes
Back Ads
Back Cover
PART 1
A World of Broken Lovers
Love ceases to be a demon only when he ceases to be a god. . . . God is love, but love is not God. . . . The rebellious slogan All for Love is really loves death warrant (date of execution, for the moment, left blank).
C. S. Lewis
The Mystery of
Being Royal
An Introduction
You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage, but [God] is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.
C. S. Lewis
S he always smelled like cocoa butter and summertime. My mothers arms were smooth and soft. I watched her jack up our car to change a flat tire countless times. Every time I saw her do this, I knew she could easily hold that car up on her own if she wanted to. Her strength was something supernatural, despite her petite frame. Her wrists, delicate. Her hands, graceful. Yes, her fingertips were calloused from playing her guitar, but this was the only hint of roughness on her body.
Her arms carried me. And along with my grandmothers and aunts, they were the only arms I ever remembered carrying me.
A womans embrace was all I ever knew for the first few years of my life.
One Halloween our family was walking in a neighborhood at dusk. Below the fluffy ballerina tutu, my short three-year-old legs hurried to keep up with the excitement of the miniature pirate I was following. I took three times the steps my older brother took on our long walk. My legs tired, so I asked my mom to hold me, over and over.
Up: walk. Down: trick-or-treat. Up: walk. Down: trick-or-treat.
Finally, my mother wearied.
Just walk. Stop complaining. Im tired too.
Thats when I felt his hands. They were large and warm under my arms. They wrapped all the way around mefrom my sternum to my spine. Gentle. Safe. Strong. He lifted me higher than Id ever been lifted before. He handled me like I was fine china.