David Bennetts page-turning writing gripped me from beginning to end, and I feel sure that his perspective on what it means to give our sexuality to God is something that every Christian of our generation needs to consider.
Dr. Amy Orr-Ewing, director, Oxford Centre for Christian Apologetics
This is an incredibly raw and authentic book! David paints a beautiful and compelling picture of what it looks like to desire Christ above all else. His affections for Jesus make me excited to be a Christian.
Preston Sprinkle, president, Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender
A refreshing and powerful book. This is one of the top books I will recommend to Christians who want to know how to better love their LGBTQI friends and also to seekerswhether gay or notwho are open to considering Jesus invitation.
Sean McDowell, professor, Biola University; speaker; author, Same-Sex Marriage
A timely, thoughtful, and often moving story which will be hugely helpful to a lot of people. Davids honesty and humanity shine through these pages, even as he handles difficult questions through the lens of his experience. This is a gift to the contemporary church.
Andrew Wilson, teaching pastor, Kings Church London
Here is a voice as countercultural as it is compelling, capable of engaging the whole Christian community, whether gay or straight, in a vital debate. I have no doubt that David Bennetts story is going to become an essential part in a complex jigsaw for many.
Pete Greig, 24-7 Prayer International and Emmaus Rd, Guildford
Many lesbian, gay, and bisexual people feel they cannot be true to both their sexuality and the Christian faith. David demonstrates that integrity and authenticity are possible for gay Christians, sharing beautiful insights about love, friendship, and following Jesus too.
Rev. Dr. Sean Doherty, Christian ethicist; author, The Only Way Is Ethics
This book is designed to make all of us think about our ultimate love and to work through how we should engage in a long debated area, whether inside of the church or outside of it. It is well worth the read.
Darrell L. Bock, Senior Research Professor of New Testament Studies, Dallas Theological Seminary
David Bennetts book presents a particular lived Christian experience which deserves hearing. I am grateful to all who are contributing their learning, experience, study, and prayer to help us all to proclaim afresh the gospel of Jesus Christ.
Sentamu Eboracensis, Archbishop of York
One of the most significant books on one of the churchs most pressing subjects by one of todays most inspiring young thought leaders. David Bennett is a prophetic witness, a truth teller, a tender pastor, and a faithful follower of Jesus. This generation needs to hear this man.
Rev. Simon Ponsonby, author; pastor of theology, St. Aldates Church, Oxford
This is the searingly honest story of one romanced by God against all expectations. Bennetts example of giving his whole self, including his sexual self, to the Christ who died for him is an act of Christian witness for our time.
Rev. Dr. Michael P. Jensen, rector, St. Marks Darling Point, Sydney; author, Martyrdom and Identity
Riveting, extraordinaryquite extraordinary! I really think I could give this book to any contact I have and theyll be fascinated. I do wonder whether it will become a Christian classic of our time.
Rico Tice, All Souls Church London; author, Christianity Explored
I am particularly pleased to commend this book. It is an important contribution to the conversation. In a day when so often emotional story trumps thinking, David Bennett matches careful theological thinking with a truly compelling story.
Charlie Cleverly, rector, St. Aldates Oxford; member, General Synod of the Church of England
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A War of Loves
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To my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, whose love radically transformed my life in that pub almost a decade ago
And to my father, Paul, who, after a stroke that almost took his life this last year, received Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior
And to my mother, Anne-Marie, who believed in Jesus before I did, lovingly accompanied me in my search for truth, and whose steadfast love instilled in me the hope that carried me through the harder times
CONTENTS
PART 1:
The Search
PART 2:
The Encounter
PART 3:
Wrestling with God: Sense and Sexuality
PART 4:
The New Identity
PART 5:
Reflections on Homosexuality and Christian Faithfulness
Sacrifice Regained: Salvation and Holiness
The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.
The apostle Paul to the Galatians
M any of the stories I tell in this book are deeply personal, and so in most instances (except where permission has been given), to protect the privacy of those involved, I have altered names, places, and details while maintaining the storyline and events. The opinions in this book are my own and do not necessarily reflect those of the organizations, churches, people, or groups mentioned.
T his is a brave and wise book. The territory into which it leads usin shockingly clear detailis perhaps the most contested moral, social, and cultural issue of our times: the question of same-sex desire and practice. None of the issues is shirked here; no soft answers are on offer, no easy fudge to let us slide around the problems. David Bennett has lived for several years at the heart of the questionsor perhaps we should say that the questions have lived in his heart, like a wasps nest buzzing angrily inside a room that ought to be a safe place. He has felt the pain of raging and unfulfilled desire, and also the pain of desire fulfilled but strangely unsatisfied. He has felt the anger of being patronized and dismissed by unthinking Christians, as well as the anger when, having discovered for himself the reality of Jesus as a living, loving, and challenging presence, he has often then been patronized and dismissed by the very people whose cause he had earlier, and loudly, advocated.
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