Craig Hase - How Not to Be a Hot Mess: A Survival Guide for Modern Life

There is a story from the Buddhist canon wed like to share. It has to do with doubt and storms and taking your place in the middle of everything.

In this story, the Buddha is not yet the Buddha. Hes a young prince-turned-mendicant named Siddhartha. He has just spent six years meditating, pushing himself to the brink of death in his epic quest for the answer to everything. Now its the moment right before the tangle of his mind unbinds, the moment before he achieves full, complete awakening and leaves suffering behind for good.

But first things get crazy. Because as he sits down under a tree, as he closes his eyes to meditate one more time on the ultimate nature of things, as he drops deeper and deeper into the concentration that will finally end his questa demon appears. And not just any demon, but the demon Mara, who embodies delusion and doubt and obfuscation and who wields untold power over the capricious minds of mortals.

First, Mara sends his daughters to tempt the Buddha-to-be. But Siddhartha is unmoved.

Next, Mara sends armies of terrifying demons to shake the young prince from his seat. But their arrows turn into flowers.

Finally, Mara hits him with a final gambit. Who are you, he says to the thirty-six-year-old seeker who has abandoned everything in his search for truth, to think you can sit in this hallowed seat? Who is your witness?

Siddhartha pauses for a moment. Maybe he even hesitates. Who isnt prone to the sneaky messenger of doubt?

But then, sitting cross-legged in meditation, the young man begins to list for Mara his goodness. He remembers moment after moment of generosity, patience, serviceall the instances of standing upright in the middle of the storm. He steadies his mind. He places his hand on the ground. And he says, simply, The earth is my witness.

Mara is vanquished. The Buddha is awakened. And the rest is history.

Standing Upright in the Storm

Pretty cool, right? But most of us, most of the time, dont have that kind of clarity. Thats why this book is for those who are lost in the storm: blinded by the blizzard of information, the hurricane of stimulation, the typhoon of opinions and judgments and how-tos and must-dos. Those who feel, as we all often do, like a phenomenally dysregulated hot mess, one step behind it all, a storm within the storm, lavishly disorganized and exhausted and not-quite-with-it as the world somehow spins on, never quite sitting still while we never quite sit still, either.

This book is for all of us who would like to know exactly just what to do with life in its magnificent rush of pleasure and pain, gain and loss, its dreamlike phantasmagoria of web-based temptations and quasi-demonic forces. Its for all of us who would like to know, too, what to do with our anger, hopelessness, confusion, ideals, ideas, and big questions. How do we settle the hot mess of our own lives, anyway, when the world seems to be spinning off its axis?

Thats what this book is about. It draws on Buddhist advice because, believe it or not, Buddhism has been through it all before. Its seen wars, plagues, oppression, and ten thousand terrible haircutsand it has, along the way, developed dependable ways to stay steady in the roller coaster of family feuds, romantic vacillations, uncertain futures, and all the rest. This book offers six pieces of really good advice drawn from this 2,600-year-old wisdom tradition. These six pieces of really good advice can help you determine just exactly how you can settle the hot mess of your mind and stand in your uprightness smack in the middle of everything. Like the Buddha, when he touched the earth and decided he wasnt going to take Maras shit anymore.

Mindfulness Is Not Enough