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Endorsements
After years of trusting her as our book whisperer, Anne Bogel has finally written a book for us! This is the book I didnt even know I was waiting for. I cant wait to share it with everyone I know.
Emily P. Freeman , Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Simply Tuesday
Anne Bogel is a smart, savvy, kindhearted woman of wisdom whose words continually have me nodding my head in agreement and saying, I thought I was the only one! This book, and all of her future books, will have a prominent space on my shelf. The world is better because of her insight.
Tsh Oxenreider , author of At Home in the World and Notes from a Blue Bike
As someone who loves analyzing myself, my family, and my friends and learning more about what makes each of us unique, I absolutely adored Reading People . This book hasnt just impacted me as a parent. Understanding more about how people are wired through the research, data, and examples Anne gives is helping me in every relationship. Truly, I feel like Im a better wife, mom, employer, friend, and person for having read this book.
Crystal Paine , New York Times bestselling author of Say Goodbye to Survival Mode and founder of MoneySavingMom.com
You possibly picked up this book because you want to understand someone around you who might be, how should I say this, difficult. This book will most certainly help you understand them better, but what I suspect might happen along the way is that you will begin to understand yourself better. Anne lays out so many different ways to view and understand our own personalities, as well as those around us. This book will help you be a better parent, spouse, friend, boss, employee, and more. Personal relationships are core to our existence, and this book in your hands will help your relationships go deeper and last longer because of the greater understanding you will have for yourself and those around you.
Jamie Ivey , author and host of The Happy Hour podcast
For years Ive been seeking out Annes impeccable advice on what books to read, and at first glance I thought this book was all about the people who readand it is. Surprise! Books arent the only thing we can read. Reading People is the perfect reminder that the most important reading assignment youll ever have might be sitting at the dinner table with you and staring back at you in the mirror.
Myquillyn Smith , author of The Nesting Place
Whether youre an Enneagram guru, a Myers-Briggs Type Indicator nerd, a StrengthsFinder coach, or a personality-test novice, youll find something in Reading People . In these pages, Anne examines the personality tests that measure our individuality, but more importantly, she uses those tests to highlight a beautiful truth: our personalities are what make us utterly unique, perfectly human, and ultimately beautiful.
Seth Haines , author of Coming Clean
Reading People is a game-changing book. It empowers us to see both ourselves and others in a more gracious manner and offers useful ideas for how to build stronger and healthier relationships. The wisdom Anne Bogel packs in Reading People is insightful, easy-to-understand, and life-giving.
Jessica N. Turner , author of The Fringe Hours
Anne Bogel delivers a fantastically useful and practical guide to personality frameworks that cuts through the hype, false promises, and personality parlor tricks. This is a concise, highly readable guide to the Enneagram, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, and other personality tools that draws deeply from stories of her own growth and extensive reading.
Ed Cyzewski , author of A Christian Survival Guide and Coffeehouse Theology
Dedication
For Will,
who gets me
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Endorsements
Dedication
Introduction: A Noble Pursuit
1. My Aha! Moment: Understanding My Personality Type
2. Communication Breakdown: Introverts and Extroverts
3. Too Hot to Handle: Highly Sensitive People
4. Love and Other Acts of Blindness: The Five Love Languages
5. Youre Not Crazy, Youre Just Not Me: Keirseys Temperaments
6. Type Talk: The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator
7. The Deck Is Stacked: The MBTI Cognitive Functions
9. Confront Your Junk: The Enneagram
10. Your Personality Is Not Your Destiny: How Much Can People Change?
Acknowledgments
Recommended Resources
Notes
About the Author
Back Ads
Back Cover
7
The Deck Is Stacked
the mbti cognitive functions
My friend Kim and I sat at my kitchen counter with an open laptop, two iced coffees, and a yellow legal pad.
Kim threw down the gauntlet. Im not getting up until you tell me my Myers-Briggs type once and for all. Shed taken every free test on the web and kept waffling between the types. I just cant decide if Im the entertainer or the entrepreneur, she said.
What types are those? I asked.
One is Madonna and one is Marilyn Monroe.
I mean, what are the letter combinations?
Kim had no idea, so we fired up the website shed been relying on. It turned out she was wavering between ESTP and ESFP.
All the descriptions start to sound the same after a while. Are you sure Im not both? she asked. How do I decide?
I reached for my pen. I strongly suspected that Kim was struggling because she hadnt identified her cognitive functions. When you skip over the cognitive functionsand most people dothe MBTI info wont be as helpful as it could be. It might even be grossly misleading. Thats because the only way to truly determine your MBTI type is to identify your functions and the order you use them in.
What You Need to Know about Cognitive Functions
I know the term cognitive functions sounds fancy, but its just a short way of describing all the different ways our minds are capable of workingthe ways our brains are wired. The functions identify the specific ways we process information and make decisions, depending on our individual personality types. Learning about cognitive functions is like learning a new language. It might sound like gibberish at first, but before long you wont have to give the shorthand notations a second thought. If you push through, youll get the hang of it. Your understanding of the MBTI and how it works will grow exponentially, making it a much more effective and fascinating tool. Understanding the cognitive functions is not super simple, but its worth it.