Wilde - Life was never meant to be a struggle

1987 Stuart Wilde

Published and distributed in the United States by: Hay House, Inc.: www.hayhouse.com Published and distributed in Australia by: Hay House Australia Pty. Ltd.: www.hayhouse.com.au Published and distributed in the United Kingdom by: Hay House UK, Ltd.: www.hayhouse.co.uk Published and distributed in the Republic of South Africa by: Hay House SA (Pty), Ltd.: www.hayhouse.co.za Distributed in Canada by: Raincoast: www.raincoast.com Published in India by: Hay House Publishers India: www.hayhouse.co.in

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Wilde, Stuart,

Life was never meant to be a struggle. Stuart Wilde.

p. cm.

ISBN 1-56170-535-7 (tradepaper)

1. Spiritual life. 2. Struggle. 3. Relaxation. I. Title
BL624.W545 1998

158dc21 97-53042

CIP

ISBN 13:978-1-56170-535-1
ISBN 10:1-56170-535-7

12 11 10 09 19 18 17 16
First Published in 1987 by Nacson & Sons, Pty., Sydney, Australia

2nd printing, January 1995, by Hay House, Inc.
16th printing, November 2009

Printed in the United States of America

Also by STUART WILDE

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Miracles

The Force

Affirmations

The Quickening

The Trick to Money Is Having Some!

Sixth Sense

Simply Wilde

Silent Power

The Secrets of Life

Weight Loss for the Mind

Whispering Winds of Change

Infinite Self

The Little Money Bible

Audio Programs

The Art of Meditation

Silent Power (audio book)

The Force (audio book)

Miracles (audio book)

Happiness Is Your Destiny

Intuition

Loving Relationships

All of the above are available at your

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Hay House Australia: www.hayhouse.com.au

Hay House UK: www.hayhouse.co.uk

Hay House South Africa: www.hayhouse.co.za

Hay House India: www.hayhouse.co.in

About the Author

Author and lecturer Stuart Wilde is one of the real characters of the self-help, human potential movement. His style is humorous, controversial, poignant, and transformational. He has written 16 books, including the very successful Taos Quintet, which includes: Miracles, Affirmations, The Force, The Quickening, and The Trick to Money Is Having Some. His books have been translated into 12 languages.

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The
Strugglers
Hall of Fame

D o you remember being told as a child that if you wanted to make it in life youd have to work hard? That life involves pain and struggle; that youd have to earn love and acceptance; and that, if you wanted to come out on top, youd have to put in an incredible effort? I certainly remember my mother saying to me, Struggle ennobles the soul.

But who says this is true? Look at nature. It expends a certain effort in sustaining itself, but it does not struggle. Does the tiger in the forest get up in the morning and say, Ill struggle like crazy today and hopefully by suppertime Ill get something to eat? No way. It just rises, has a little sniff under its tiger armpits or does whatever tigers do at breakfast time, and heads out. At noon, there on the path is lunch, provided courtesy of the Great Spirit. Okay, the last 30 yards involves the tiger in a bit of rushing about. But that can hardly be construed as struggle.

You, too, may have to cross town to pick up a check. But theres a great difference between struggle and effort. Our physical condition as humans involves effort, but struggle is effort laced with emotion and desperation.

Think of this: If you accept full responsibility for your life, youll accept that your destiny is created by you, and that your life is basically a symbol of your innermost thoughts and feelingsof what you believe about yourself.

Now if, over a period of years, youve laid down several hundred thousand thoughts in your subconscious that say, Life is a struggle, naturally youd project that from your inner feelings. Even if you werent consciously aware of that aspect of your inner self, the thought would still lie deep within you and show up constantly in your life.

Whenever a project starts to flow too well, or things become too easy, your inner self emits an energy that says, Warning! Warning! This is too simple. Let us self-destruct this project or relationship and come at it the hard way, so we can experience circumstances that are congruent with our inner belief that life is a struggle.

So things fall apart, and you feel like youre trying to push a peanut up Everest with your nose. Eventually, once youve suffered the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune for a while, the inner self pulls you to a watered-down version of circumstances that would have been yours anyway weeks ago and without effort.

This booklet helps you identify struggle, discover the reasons for it, and eliminate it. But first let us look at some of the characters in the Stragglers Hall of Fame. Im sure youll have fun recognizing them from among your friends and acquaintances.

The Hero: Men like struggling, but then so do some women. The male version goes something like this: If I bust a gut and run around trying hard, people will see me as a good man and treat me with respect. Whether I get results or not matters little, as long as I seem to be making a valiant effort. To make sure everyone acknowledges my heroism, Ill create an entire theater of frantic action, hectic schedules, meetings of earth-shattering importance, long hours, and constant pressure. Of course, this pantomime will make me a bit tense. But thats all part of the act, for the tension will be seen by others as my taking responsibility, and they will love and respect me for that. Wont they?

If the truth be known, the answer is no. In fact, anyone with perception will see this male as a complete idiot. His weaknessnamely a lack of personal acceptance, stands out a mile. He has chosen sacrifice as his fate in the hopes of winning affection or acknowledgment. His frantic actions only serve to underscore that he is out of control and hasnt a clue about what he is doing.

Another common struggler is