Marina Pearson - Goodbye Mr. Ex: A Womans Guide to Moving On

Goodbye Mr Ex

First published in 2013 by

Ecademy Press

48 St Vincent Drive, St Albans, Herts, AL1 5SJ, UK

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Book layout by Neil Coe.

Edited by: Wendy Millgate from Wendy With Words.

Printed on acid-free paper from managed forests. This book is printed on demand to fulfill orders, so no copies will be remaindered or pulped.

ISBN 978-1-908746-62-7

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Copyright 2013 Marina Pearson

I want to dedicate this book to my close family: mum, dad and my two sisters and to all of those women going through heartbreaking times.

Marina has found the ideal way to support you in transforming a painful ending of your marriage into a great start for the rest of your life. For all the women out there that just turned single, it is the most practical and inspiring book to get your life back on track and to find happiness again.

Marie Diamond, Transformational Leader and Feng Shui Master, featured in The Secret

The book is so refreshing it feels like its part of a growing school of modern thought in the grand tradition of the Stoics, my favourite philosophers! I love the blend of gentle yet firm support. Its not tough love to me; its nurturing necessity. I thought the combo was magic.

Natasha Phillips, Researching Reform

An honest and plain-English guide to how to stop your ex or how you react to your ex getting in the way of a beautiful life. Just like her workshops, Marinas book is engaging and accessible, yet does not dumb down the powerful effects of a break-up on the heart and spirit, nor the good that can come from learning how to shift through your divorce and break-up, leaving bitterness way behind you.

Suzy Miller, Founder of Divorce In A Box

Ever wondered what keeps most women struggling in the pain and anger of their ex-relationships and why they keep having their buttons pushed? This book identifies what these factors are and will give you a pro-active approach to free you from your past in a quick and painless fashion, giving you back your inner mojo and a sense of peace, so you can move on without looking back.

Why struggle and go it alone when you dont have to? Free yourself of the past today and create your new life!

I would very much like to acknowledge all my teachers such as Doctor John Demartini and Clinton Swaine who have taught me so much along my personal development journey and have been key players in furthering my growth, even though it may have felt VERY uncomfortable for me.

I also want to acknowledge my mentor, and somebody that I can now call a dear friend, Deri Llewellyn-Davies, who has had the patience of a saint while seeing me through the journey of my business. And Marie Diamond for believing in me, seeing my potential and for clearing the energy in my home so that the words would flow.

I would also like to thank my good friends Christiane Pedros, Angelique Tsang, Emma Cummings, Richard Cash, Andrew Gray, Stephanie Burton, Sidra Jafri, Natasha Caton and Caroline Ainslie for believing in my work and being there for me professionally and personally when challenges have come my way.

To my Key Person of Influence accountability group for cheering me on when I got somewhat distracted and off-track. And to Mindy and her teamNeil and Emmawithout who I wouldnt be able to actually get this book out there and deliver what I believe is a message that needs to be heard. I would also like to say a thank you to Wendy my editor who was incredible during the whole process and Andrew Priestley for the fabulous illustrations in the book. To Kim Jobst for guiding me towards my purpose and for keeping me in good health so that I had the energy to write the book.

And to all my lovely ladies that contributed their personal stories to provide the books content so other women could be inspired to take action.

And finally to my beloved Marcmy soulmate and best friendwithout who I dont know where I would be. Thank you sweetie.

I have created this book with the intention of reaching out to women who, like I once did, are struggling to get over their past relationships, possibly because of a messy divorce or a heart wrenching break-up. Having been through a divorce back in 2006 and a significant number of break-ups, I struggled for many years to get over most of them, while not understanding why it was taking so long. I often played out very negative emotions and patterns of behaviour towards myself and others to block out the pain. Each break-up left a tiny bit of myself behind, to the point where I didnt really know who I was anymore, or what I wanted. I would go into new relationships and the same old patterns would just happen again.

Now that Im at the other end, finally content in my own skin, in a place of gratitude for my past and have found myself in a fantastic relationship, I want to help you find the same, if thats what you want!

I wish this book had been around when I was going through each of my break-ups and divorce. I might have saved myself the years of unnecessary pain, of addiction, self-abuse and suicidal tendencies. However, that was not the path that I was supposed to follow. Instead, I struggled month after month, year after year, to let go of my pain and the relationships with each of my exes.

I have studied countless courses and programmes in my quest for knowledge to empower me and other women to move on from our exes and create a new story. But the best learning has been through my own experience. In this book I am transparent about my own course with my exesyes, there were a fewso yes, I get you and yes, Ive been there. Ive dealt with cheating (from both sides), break-ups by email, divorce, depression, suicide attempts and being left on my own to fend for myself. Now, thankfully, Im on the other side with great relationships with my exes, my family and my dream partner.

It took a long time of learning for me to know what I know now, and that is that I wouldnt be the person I am today without my experiences with each of my exes. Each of them pushed me towards loving myself more and more. The more challenging it got, the more I grew and the faster I moved towards being happy, confident and successful. I would even go as far to say that each and every one of them was my spiritual teacher.

Now, I know that might be hard for some of you to swallow. My ex, my spiritual teacher? Him? What a load of crap... But bear with me here...

Did my exes give me some tough love? Yes! ... But without that, I believe I would never have grown the way I have.