This book would have never seen the light of day were it not for amazing help from the following people. We send out a huge thank you to all of them for their support, suggestions and hard work in making this book possible.
First to our agent, Robert Kirby, for his phenomenal support, hard work and belief in this book. Robert is a true professional, and his patience, insights and advice proved incredibly valuable.
Thanks to the wonderful team at HarperCollins, especially Carole Tonkinson and Victoria McGeown, who have been superb in their support and their faith in the book.
And last but not least, we thank all of our colleagues, the seminar attendees, support staff and Society of NLP trainers all over the world. Without you, there would be no life-changing seminars.
From Richard
I would like to thank my wife, Glenda, for her help, support and magical smile.
My thanks also go to 40 years of clients who faced the worst and taught me so much.
Thanks also to John and Kathleen La Valle for their friendship and ongoing assistance and encouragement.
From Alessio
I would like to thank Dr Richard Bandler, whose creativity and generosity in sharing his fabulous discoveries have made a significant contribution to my life and the entire field of personal change.
I owe an incredible debt of gratitude to John and Kathleen La Valle, who have supported, encouraged and championed my work so far. Their continuing feedback has helped me develop my NLP and coaching skills.
Thanks to the co-director of the NLP Italy Coaching School, Antonella Rizzuto, whose dedication helps more than 10,000 people every year to discover their potential.
And thanks to Mattia Bernardini and Alice Rifelli, whose professional and diligent work makes life-changing books possible.
Finally, I would like to thank the two most extraordinary people in my life, Cinzia and Damiamo, my world of love.
From Owen
I would like to thank my parents, Marjorie and Brian Fitzpatrick quite simply the greatest parents one could wish to have and the people I look up to most in life.
Thanks to my gorgeous goddaughters, Lucy and Aoife, whose beauty makes me smile every day.
And to my incredible friends, including Brian, Theresa, Cristina, Sandra, Gillian, Elena, Kate and Rob, for their advice and support with the book.
My thanks also go to all my trainers and mentors over the years, particularly John and Kathleen La Valle for their invaluable advice. They have, quite simply, changed my life.
Lastly, thank you to Dr Richard Bandler. Meeting Richard as a teenager, I found his genius, advice and belief in me literally turned my world around. Im blessed to have him as a teacher, mentor and friend in my life.
A workshop between two covers, this is Richard Bandlers most accessible book to date. Its the story of a man named Joe who attends a one-day introductory course on NLP with Dr Richard Bandler, listens to Richard teaching, practises the techniques he teaches, meets other participants and learns as they all share their thoughts and insights on how to apply the content of the course in different areas of their personal and professional lives.
By reading this book, you too can become one of the participants of the course, hearing what they hear, seeing what they see, experiencing what they experience and learning what they learn!
We decided to write a story in which the participants of a course were the protagonists because its the participants who are at the centre of our training, each with their own needs, ambitions, problems, and desires, each looking for new ideas, tools and solutions.
For many years we were ourselves participants on Richards courses. We then both became trainers, working as assistants on Richards international courses for more than a decade. Nowadays, we are lucky to have become international trainers, sharing what we have learned from Richard all over the world. So, its a great pleasure and honour for us to co-author this book with him and share what weve learned from him and our students so far.
We have written this book because we believe there is a huge need for the core message of these pages to be shared globally. The world is changing rapidly and bringing with it the paradoxical realization that we have been given more and more resources than ever before and modern technology has allowed us to do amazing and wonderful things, yet depression, anxiety, fear, panic and stress are all still on the rise.
The core message of this book is that there are precise tools that can help you to take control of your life. In it, Richard is going to teach you how you can change your thinking and change your life and how you can help others change their lives too.
We began writing this book in Rome, continued it in Dublin, worked on it in London and New York, and got feedback from people in Los Angeles, Tokyo and even Australia. It is the result of 20 years of interviewing thousands of people who have attended NLP workshops, the product of participants who shared their own experiences with us. It is an international project focused not on NLP but on how people can learn to use NLP to change their lives.
There is a huge need in the world today for a change in mentality. There is a huge need to inject hope for a better world. We stand at an important crossroads between letting ourselves be pushed along by the accelerating momentum of challenging circumstances or deciding to steer ourselves to where we want to go. We need a change of direction. We need a change of consciousness. We need to know that we can have a say in how the world turns out.
NLP is a movement. You can be part of it. Start now its your time!
Alessio and Owen
Chapter 1
Joe put his phone back into his pocket, took a deep breath and composed himself. Having just had an argument with his girlfriend, he certainly wasnt in the best of moods. That said, he knew it was really important to get the most out of the day. He walked into the lobby of the hotel, where he immediately noticed a familiar face among the assistants taking care of registration.
Joe smiled. Seeing Alan cheered him up a bit.
Joe! Alan called out. Fantastic to see you again.
Likewise, Joe replied. Yeah, Ive been really looking forward to today. Finally I decided to find out more about this NLP stuff.
NLP stood for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Having seen many books on the topic, Joe had a sense of how popular it was. Hed understood it was an attitude and methodology that allowed people to think and communicate more effectively, and he needed to do both. Up until a year before, he had resigned himself to the idea that he was the way he was and his life was what it was and there was nothing he could do about it. But then he had learned that things could change, and now he really wanted to work on himself and make some improvements.
Just to give you the heads up on whats in store, Alan began, youve already seen Richard in action. Today, youll learn about the field of NLP itself.
Alan was referring to Dr Richard Bandler, the co-founder of NLP. Joe had met Richard at a course he had attended a year previously. At the time, he had been alone and depressed. To help out, his sister, Maria, had given him a flyer for a three-day course entitled Choose Freedom, which had involved a workshop with Dr Bandler. That was where he had met Alan, who had been an assistant at the course.