2017 by Christopher A. Sonksen
P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
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Endorsements
When Your Church Feels Stuck delivers practical solutions to difficult challenges. Its a guide to reignite your churchs growth.
Andy Stanley, senior pastor at North Point Ministries
Chris Sonksen has a heart for stuck churches and stuck pastorsand a plan to help them get unstuck. In his new book When Your Church Feels Stuck , he walks church leaders through the process of moving from stuck to kingdom impact. Its not easy. But it is doable. I encourage you to read it and find out how its done.
Larry Osborne, senior pastor at North Coast Church, author of Sticky Church
Chris Sonksens new book can help your church get unstuck. He offers very practical and helpful exercises and tools to get your team moving in the right direction very quickly.
Dave Travis, president of Leadership Network
Chris Sonksen tackles an important issue facing many pastors who want their church to grow but feel stuck. In his latest book, When Your Church Feels Stuck , he walks you through a simple yet challenging process to help your church find the focus and strategies it needs to experience continual, sustainable, and healthy growth.
Brad Lomenick, speaker and coach, author of H3
Its never about the answers. Its always about the quality and relevance of the questions. Powerful questions are stronger than the best answers. Questions invite you on a journey, provoke your thinking, and engage you in the solutions. In his latest book, When Your Church Feels Stuck , Chris Sonksen will do the same for you. He will invite you on a discovery expedition, resource you for the desired destination, and celebrate with you Gods movements in your life.
Sam Chand, leadership consultant, author of Leadership Pain
Chris Sonksen has just written the manifesto on pastoral leadership. In his book, When Your Church Feels Stuck , Chris pulls the reader through a fascinating sequence of exercises and questions all designed to set the foundation for growth. I know Im a leadership and ministry junkie, but I couldnt put the book down. Trust me. Youll feel the same.
Dick Hardy, president of The Hardy Group
Chris Sonksen is a leader, coach, pastor, and trusted friend. When Your Church Feels Stuck is a practical and helpful book for any pastor who wants to grow a healthy church. It candidly deals with the realities of local church leadership. Get a copy today!
Dan Reiland, executive pastor at 12Stone Church
Chris Sonksen is a fantastic leader who has given his life to raising up other leaders. His work and insight is field-tested in the trenches of ministry and seasoned with experience. In this book, he tackles the most important questions every leader must face to be as effective as possible in ministry.
Jud Wilhite, senior pastor at Central Christian Church, author of Pursued
Chris Sonksen is a pastor, leader, and entrepreneur who writes with the wisdom of a seasoned practitioner, honed in the crucible of local church ministry. Every pastor will be a more effective leader and every church will produce greater fruit when they wrestle through these unavoidable questions.
Gene Appel, senior pastor at Eastside Christian Church
Dedication
This book and all the work behind it are dedicated to my mom. She always stood in my corner, rejoiced with me, and responded with a confident pride when I would tell her about my latest and greatest news. As this book is released, I can still hear her voice telling me, You can do it, son. Thank you, Mom, for always believing in me and establishing that belief in myself.
Shirley Jean Sonksen
September 4, 1941 August 16, 2014
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Endorements
Dedication
1. My Church Is Stuck
2. God Determines the Talent, We Determine the Choices
3. Making Excuses Will Keep You from Winning
4. The Six Phases of a Church... What Phase Are You In?
5. Question 1: Mission
What Do We Do?
6. Question 2: Strategy
How Do We Get It Done?
7. Question 3: Values
What Are the Guiding Principles We Live By?
8. Question 4: Metrics
How Do We Measure a Win?
Do We Have the Right People in the Right Seats Moving in the Right Direction?
10. Question 6: Culture
How Do We Change the Culture of Our Church?
11. Question 7: Services
How Do We Match What We Say Is Important and What We Really Do?
Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Author
Back Ads
Back Cover
1
My Church Is Stuck
It was Tuesday morning and the alarm began to make that annoying sound that screamed at me to get up. I typically jump out of bed pretty quickly, but this specific morning I must admit I was a little tired. As I began to get myself ready to head to the airport, I started to think about Pastor Jeremy. Today was going to be the first day we met face-to-face. Wed talked a few times on the phone, but today was the first official day of his church becoming a South Hills Church affiliate. Translation: our team at South Hills was going to come alongside him to help take his church off pause and move it toward a pattern of growth. The affiliate strategy is something that was birthed several years ago. It was a result of our team coaching churches toward change but realizing that they needed more than just a monthly phone appointment. They needed someone to walk alongside them and to help them build strategies that would lead them to momentum and move them toward becoming a growing and thriving church.
I finished getting ready, grabbed my worn-out, black carry-on bag, and headed to the airport. As I arrived I went through the security lines as I have hundreds of times before and boarded the flight fairly quickly. Doesnt always work out this way (on-time flight, short lines, and a quick takeoff), but man, it sure is nice when it does. Despite hoping for an emergency exit row, I was stuck in the last row near the freshly scented restroom. I removed my laptop from my backpack and started to review the notes and church history information that Pastor Jeremy had sent me.
The report seemed fairly typical. It read like most of the churches we have partnered with. Pastor Jeremy had been at the church for almost ten years. The church had very little debt (he inherited the church and its building from a pastor who had been there for several years) and was located in a small to midsize town. Attendance was roughly 200 to 250 and the bills were current. The website wasnt exactly the best, but overall it was okay. They had some fairly successful programs in place and a few part-time staff to help carry the load. Nothing too extraordinary, but nothing out of the ordinary. As the flight prepared to land, I put away my work. Soon enough I got off the plane, rented a car, and was headed to meet Pastor Jeremy.