Vex King - Healing Is the New High

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Text Vex King, 2021

Illustrations Kate Warinsky (starkissedstudio.com), 2021

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In memory of my nan, Tara, who I lost in the process of writing this book.

We live in a world in need of more heroes, wisdom and love.

Amid the tectonic change, relentless disruption and new ways of being, it becomes so easy to wish for lights and luminaries to show up who will guide us forward. Through the good times and the unfortunate. Into the beauty of a better future.

And yetthere is no doubtthat you are the wayshower that you seek.

You have the strength, insight and bravery to handcraft the life you deserve.

You have the potential to make your promise real and the gorgeous ability to push your stardust into society.

You have the mental toughness and spiritual genius needed to help make our little planet a better place to inhabit.

And you have what it takes to truly be an inspirational force to everyone that you meet. So people leave you bigger than you found them.

When Vex asked me to write the foreword to this book, I was delighted to say yes. Because he gets it.

He gets that the only real guru resides within yourself.

And that everyday people are the truest of all heroes.

And that for our world to grow better, each of us must stop excusing and do the work required to make our selves better. And stronger. And wiser. And immensely more caring.

So, I pray that you savor this book. Read it with an open mind and with a careful heart. Consume the lines slowly, intentionally and embrace the offering in ways that allow them to touch your center.

So that when youre done, you walk out into the world. Born anew.

Robin Sharma

Author of the #1 worldwide bestsellers

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari and The 5AM Club

This book has been a long time coming. Ive written it (at last) because my life hasnt always been easy and because I know that your life hasnt always been easy. Ive written it because through developing and using the inner healing techniques I share in these pages, Ive been able to let go of my troubled past and heal my emotional pain, or trauma. Ive also helped others move forward on their own healing journey.

You dont need a guru to do inner healing work. Nor do you need to spend a huge amount of money on courses, or quit your job and find hours and hours each day to practice it. You can heal from your trauma and other emotional wounds in a long-lasting way by using the practical exercises in this book. Simple, accessible, and with the power to produce exceptional results, theyre underpinned by the principle of raising your vibration (this is the energy that courses through you and that you radiate out into the world around you).

If youve read my first book, Good Vibes, Good Life, youll know that vibrating on a higher level can help you manifest great things and change your life. In this book Ill show you how you can become your own healer to raise your vibration.

Thats not to say that your healing journey cant be hindered, or that results will always be immediate and clear. One of the biggest obstacles to inner healing work is a desire to cling on to the past our inability to let go of whats been prevents us from moving forward into what could be. Thats why the first chapters of this book focus on developing our ability to let go. And then we step into the present, before looking to the future.

Inner healing is the act of letting go of past conditioning, creating a new, empowering belief system for ourselves, and embracing the unknowns of the future with the confidence that were strong and capable no matter what comes our way. Youll come to realize that you have the ability to move forward with confidence, and with a steady belief in your own resilience and strength.

Trauma is the enduring emotional and psychological pain that often results when we live through an experience that our brain is unable to process properly for some reason. Sometimes, that lack of effective processing occurs because the experience was deeply disturbing, shocking, upsetting, frightening, or hard to understand, or because it happened to us when we were very young and our brain hadnt developed sufficiently to work through it fully. But trauma can be more subtle, too experiences that confuse us, or that make us feel ashamed or humiliated, can settle into us as deep emotional wounds, even though no one else notices them.

Heres the thing about trauma: weve all suffered it in some form or other, but almost none of us were taught from a young age how to handle it. As a result, a vast number of people turn to a method of self-medication to manage their pain, whether theyre struggling emotionally, physically, or spiritually.

Certain highs, produced by taking synthetic or natural drugs, or alcohol, or feeding an addiction to food, sex, work, or social media (to name but a few), make us feel as though weve transcended our struggles. But that feeling is temporary. At best, it leaves us needing more of that high just to get through the days; and at worst, the high is followed by a low thats deep, dark, and may feel intensely desperate.

So, Im striving to let go of false highs, however they show up in my life, and instead to access a more truthful, sustainable, and less tumultuous high: the high of genuine inner healing. This doesnt disappear and leave you feeling empty and lost. It builds, and it builds you, until you see everything with new clarity.