Destin Gerek - The Evolved Masculine: Be the Man the World Needs & the One She Craves

Praise for The Evolved Masculine

With his book The Evolved Masculine , Destin Gerek, has created a masterpiece the world needs. Compelling storytelling and timely content help us all to evolve our relationships and sexuality. Reading this book will help you not only to become a being with more depth, compassion and sexual prowess, but will help you to evolve to the deepest truth of who you are, without the conditioning and social constructs that have created the destruction of our relationships and sexual health. Read It!

Jaiya , 4x author and creator of the Erotic Blueprint Course

Destin Gerek is THE most informed and skillful educator of conscious masculinity today. During a daunting era for the modern man, he fearlessly leads them out of confusion and into clarity, power, and purpose. His wisdom is the guidance every man should have if he wants to play a bigger game.

Eva Clay , LCSW, Clinical Sexologist and Founder of the Institute of Intimacy Arts

Destin has created just what every modern man needs! There is so much confusion and unclarity of what it takes to be a man of real depth, character and passion. Destin having worked with 1000s of men has cracked the code of dialing you into the essential wisdoms, practices and mindset that truly will make your life stand out and excel! The Evolved Masculine takes out all the fluff and serves up exactly what you need to be sexually powerful, emotionally free and spiritually aligned. Dont just read this...absorb and implement it fully to watch your personal and professional life soar .

Satyen Raja Founder, WarriorSage Trainings

When I met Destin Gerek, he was the Erotic Rockstar. He pranced into any room he entered, made a scene, and could easily be found in any crowd with his unique laugh. From those early moments, I felt his passion, his deep reverence, and his dedication to the mission to educate men on how to be better friends, lovers, and allies to women. Since those days, Ive watched him evolve into the man he is now. While hes changed many things from those early days, his dedication has never shifted which is found in spades in this highly valuable book for men in the 21st century.

Robert Kandell , The Modern Mantor Author of unHIDDEN - A book for men and those confused by them.

Publisher: Archetypal Publishing
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ISBN: 978-1-7341441-0-9 (print)
ISBN: 978-1-7341441-1-6 (ebook)

Printed in the United States of America
Website: http://EvolvedMasculine.com
Developmental & content editing by Gillian Pothier
Editing by Jessica Vineyard, www.redletterediting.com
Cover design by Laura Duffy
Cover photo by David Gueringer
Author photo by Akira Chan
Interior layout by Deana Riddle

To my ever-supportive and loving wife, Elie.

I couldnt have done it without you.

Table of Contents

She was raped by her boyfriend on her fifteenth birthday, three months before we met. I was the first person she told. The moment she told me, I was overcome with a wide range of emotions. The strongest: rage. From time to time, images would flash through my mind of throwing this unnamed, faceless boy against the wall and hammering nails into each of his testicles. At sixteen, this experience was more than I was emotionally equipped to handle.

Anjali and I went on to have a multi-year relationship. Her rape trauma was ever-present. As deep and intimate as we were emotionally, it always felt like there was something in the way between us. The trauma also manifested physically: I have distinct memories of sitting on the bathroom floor at two oclock in the morning, holding her hand while she was on the toilet screaming in pain from near-constant UTIs and bladder infections.

Unconsciously, I began to internalize the idea that men and maleness are dangerous, especially mens sexuality. As a result, I cut off the connection to my own masculinity. The pain of my confusion, anger, and helplessness haunted me. From this place, at eighteen years old, I made a choice that would alter the course of my life: I would devote my life to creating a world in which men wouldnt dream of committing such atrocities.

Fast forward ten years, and at the age of twenty-eight, I was struggling. My tumultuous relationship with my long-term girlfriend at the time was a wreck. On top of that, I still had the strong sense that I was supposed to do something big in the world, and yet I wasnt doing much of anything. I was living at around the poverty line, barely making ends meet, each month afraid I wouldnt be able to pay my very minimal rent. After a while I got the sense that these two thingsthe powerlessness I felt in my relationship and in my lack of movement toward doing something meaningful in the worldwere somehow interconnected.

It was at this time that I came across David Deidas book, The Way of the Superior Man. Initially, I was triggered by the things I was reading; his ideas around masculine-feminine dynamics seemed to fly in the face of the feminist education I received at university. The ideas he wrote about seemed so absolute. I had learned that concepts of masculinity and femininity are social constructs. Theyre not real. We make them up. You can do anything, be any way you feel like.

I had spent the previous ten years railing against any notion of gender, asking myself, Why must it be masculine and feminine? Cant we all just be human? And here Deida was presenting a very particular way of being, which he called the superior man. Deida presents men and women as inherently distinct from one another and proposes that we treat women and men quite differently, especially within romantic relationships. I had learned to treat men and women the same; were more alike than we are different.