Praise for The Sacred Ego
The Sacred Ego is a gema beautiful and vitally important book. Jalaja Bonheim is the voice of the essential feminine wisdom without which we cannot heal ourselves and our planet. Her work is a rare and wondrous amalgam of earthy pragmatism and visionary inspiration.
M ARCI S HIMOFF , #1 New York Times best-selling author of Love for No Reason and Happy for No Reason
With an authority that grows from years of experience, Jalaja Bonheim helps us understand how we can be the change we hope to move toward. Absorbing, inspiring, and practical, her book is grounded in psychology, anthropology and neuroscience.
J EAN S HINODA B OLEN, MD, author of Goddesses in Everywoman and The Millionth Circle
Jalaja Bonheim has written a lucid, inspiring vision, based on her direct experience of how to unlock the potential of the human heart for the benefit of all. The Sacred Ego shows how we can awaken the deep wisdom already inside us. A deeply insightful and important work.
J AMES B ARAZ , coauthor of Awakening Joy: 10 Steps That Will Put You on the Road to Real Happiness and cofounding teacher of Spirit Rock Meditation Center
The Sacred Ego is a brilliant, wise, profoundly grounded and practical guide to transmuting the selfish ego into one that serves joyfully and humbly the divine truths of love, compassion, and justice. All seekers and sacred activists should read and integrate the wisdom Jalaja Bonheim unfolds here with such seasoned pragmatism and grace.
A NDREW H ARVEY , author of The Hope: A Guide to Sacred Activism
What a powerful book! Revealing a path to peace within and without, The Sacred Ego is a much-needed offering to the world.
D OROTHY F IRMAN, E D D, coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Mother and Daughter Soul and Chicken Soup for the Father and Son Soul
This penetrating and deeply kind book, based on Jalaja Bonheims invaluable experience of working with circles of people from around the world, shows how we can create a sane and peaceful world for ourselves and the children of the future.
S HERRY R UTH A NDERSON , coauthor of The Cultural Creatives and author of Ripening Time
With beauty, grace and insight, Jalaja Bonheim peels away layers of encrusted cultural conditioning to reveal a shining jewel: the evolutionary potential of the human race when it taps into its own heart. Read this book and it may change your way of thinking.
L IZ W ALKER , cofounder, executive director of EcoVillage at Ithaca and author of Choosing a Sustainable Future
THE SACRED EGO
THE SACRED EGO
Making Peace with Ourselves and Our World
JALAJA BONHEIM, P H D
North Atlantic Books
Berkeley, California
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Whoever you are... from The Book of Images by Rainer Maria Rilke, authors translation.
Take an axe to the prison wall... excerpt from Quietness from Rumis These Branching Moments. Copyright 1988 by John Moyne and Coleman Barks. Used by permission of Copper Beech Press and Coleman Barks.
The Small Ruby from Kabir: Ecstatic Poems by Robert Bly. Copyright 2004 by Robert Bly. Reprinted by permission of Beacon Press, Boston.
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Bonheim, Jalaja.
The Sacred Ego : Making peace with Ourselves and Our World / Jalaja Bonheim, Ph.D.
pages cm
Summary: Stories and lessons from the authors work with leaders and peacemakers from around the world. Includes exercises for individuals and groups seeking inner and outer peace-- Provided by publisher.
ISBN 978-1-58394-943-6 (pbk.) ISBN 978-1-58394-944-3 (ebook)
1. Peace of mind. 2. Peace. I. Title.
BF637.P3B657 2015
158dc23
2014025289
The knowledge of the heart is in no book and is not to be found in the mouth of any teacher, but grows out of you like the green seed from the dark earth.
C. G. Jung
GRATITUDES
Heartfelt thanks to the Institute for Circlework, its board of directors, and all those who have supported my work in the Middle East. Without you, I couldnt do it.
Deep gratitude to my mother, Jean, for her tremendous kindness and generosity, and to my late father, Helmut, who gave me his love of books and ideas. Heartfelt thanks also to Sherry Anderson, Liz Walker, Megan Shull, Randy Cash, and Kevin Quirk for their help in midwifing this book, and to Andrew Harvey for his encouragement, enthusiasm, and kindness.
A deep bow to all my beloved friends in Ithaca, New York, especially my dearest soul sister, Helena. You are the greatest blessing in my life!
CONTENTS
In the hearts of people today there is a deep longing for peace. When the true spirit of peace is thoroughly dominant, it becomes an inner experience with unlimited possibilities. Only when this really happenswhen the spirit of peace awakens and takes possession of mens hearts, can humanity be saved from perishing.
A LBERT S CHWEITZER
Im ten years old. Were in whats supposed to be math class. But math is the last thing on our minds. Our teacher, a young woman with curly black hair whom we all adore, has just informed us that in the case of a nuclear attack, we are to hide beneath our desks.
An eerie silence descends on our class as we stare at her with wide eyes. Clearly uncomfortable, she darts her eyes anxiously from one child to the next as if looking for reassurance in our answering gazes.
I study my desk doubtfully, assessing its viability as a bomb shelter. Its a beat-up old thing, with a rough wooden surface, a thick base, and a top that lifts for storage.
Im not really sure what a nuclear bomb is. But I know only too well what ordinary bombs can do. It hasnt been long since I moved to the United States from Germany, a country recently reduced to an enormous heap of rubble.
I think about my best friend in Germany who was born during the bombing of her family home. Huddled in the basement, her mother screamed the baby into life as the walls crumbled around her. I think of the mutilated men that walked the streetssad, defeated-looking men without arms, legs, or jaws, men in whose eyes the light seemed to have gone out.
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