Amanda E. White - Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating a Sober Life You Love

Not Drinking Tonight is a wonderful guide to setting healthy boundaries with alcoholand yourself. Amanda helps you dig into the root of your struggles to better understand why you drink and why you might want to stopsetting you up for a more fulfilling life all around, even if you dont choose full sobriety. Readers will gain the self-awareness, compassion, and confidence to make choices that better serve them.

Nedra Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

A knowledgeable, compassionate, and supportive guide. With a wealth of examples, tools, practices, and new ways of relating to both alcohol and the self, Not Drinking Tonight will be an accessible and revelatory balm for anyone questioning the kind of life they want to create outside of drinking.

Lisa Olivera, LMFT, founder of @lisaolivera and author of Already Enough

I truly believe that anyone will benefit from reading this book, regardless of their relationship with alcohol. This book is such a great, relatable resource that will help us cultivate more self-awareness and compassion while gently examining our relationship with alcohol, and ourselves.

Caroline Dooner, author of the bestselling book The F*ck It Diet

In this gentle, forthright, and actionable book, Amanda White busts the myth that we need to be at rock bottom to ask for help. She challenges us to heal beyond the label we tie to our struggles and creates space for us to shed layers of shame, which keep us shackled to narratives of low self-worth. Whether youre newly sober, not-yet-sober, toying with the idea of sobriety, or never even contemplated a life beyond sobriety until this very moment, this book has gems of wisdom to offer you on your journey.

Jennifer R. Wolkin, PhD (Dr. Jen), neuropsychologist and author of Quick Calm: Easy Meditations to Short-Circuit Stress Using Mindfulness and Neuroscience

As a therapist, this is the book about drinking I have been waiting for. Not Drinking Tonight offers a fresh perspective on substance misuse and gently guides you, with relatable examples, how to choose to stop drinking tonight, tomorrow, andif you wantforever. Finally, a book on drinking that I truly believe in and am excited to recommend to my clients.

Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, relationship expert, founder of @lizlistens, and author of I Want This to Work

Written in a smart, relatable style, and rooted in actual therapeutic expertise, Not Drinking Tonight is the self-help resource manual that we need. Amanda walks readers through a journey of gaining a deeper understanding of their relationship to alcohol, regardless of addiction status. I especially appreciated the education provided around trauma and reparenting. Amandas book is a resource that I know I will use for both myself and my clients for years to comean absolute gift.

Dr. Colleen Reichmann, clinical psychologist and author of The Inside Scoop on Eating Disorder Recovery

Not Drinking Tonight is an of-the-moment book that brings the #quitlit genre to the next level. Whites writing about mental health and sobriety is just as helpful and accessible as her popular Instagram account.

Tawny Lara, sober sex and relationships writer

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Copyright 2022 by Amanda E. White

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Names: White, Amanda, author.

Title: Not drinking tonight : a guide to creating a sober life you love / Amanda White.

Description: First edition. | New York : Hachette Go, 2022. | Includes bibliographical references and index.

Identifiers: LCCN 2021036037 | ISBN 9780306925856 (hardcover) | ISBN 9780306925863 (ebook)

Subjects: LCSH: Women alcoholics--Social conditions. | Women alcoholics--Psychology. | Women--Alcohol use. | Temperance.

Classification: LCC HV5137 .W55 2022 | DDC 362.292082--dc23

LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2021036037

ISBNs: 9780306925856 (paper over board); 9780306925863 (ebook)

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This book is dedicated to my parents, who never gave up on me even when I wanted to give up on myself.