Durgadas Allon Duriel - Worthy As You Are

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vi Worthy As You Are: Weed Out Unhealthy Beliefs and Nourish Your Authentic Self 2022 by Durgadas Allon Duriel.

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Names: Duriel, Durgadas Allon, author.

Title: Worthy as you are : weed out unhealthy beliefs and nourish your

authentic self / by Durgadas Allon Duriel.

Description: First edition. | Woodbury, Minnesota : Llewellyn Publications,

2022. | Includes bibliographical references. | Summary: How to

healthfully process difficult emotions and experiences around shame and

guilt, chronic illness, anxiety and depression, self-sabotage, and

aging. The book also explores spiritual bypassing and teaches techniques

that help promote well-being like mindfulness practice and connecting

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For everyone who was ever told they

were less than for being themselves.

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Acknowledgments

Thanks to the healers, teachers, mystics, and friends I have known in my life, who have all contributed to this book to some degree, large or small. Specifically, thanks to my editors Elysia Gallo and Lauryn Heineman, whose input was invaluable in polishing this work. To my first spiritual teacher and three degree mentors in my spiritual training, who helped me discover the power I had. To my second spiritual teacher, who taught me how to open my heart and kneel within it. Finally, to the wonderful city of San Francisco, where this book was written and I found my home, and whose spirit contributed much to it.

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Disclaimer

The material in this book is not intended as a substitute for psychotherapy from a licensed professional, nor is it intended as psychiatric, psychological, or medical advice for the treatment of any individual person or health condition. Readers are advised to consult with their personal healthcare professionals regarding any mental or physical health conditions they have. The publisher and author assume no liability for any actions that may occur from the readers use of the content contained herein.

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Contents

: Foundations and Preparations

: The Basis and Basics of Our Work Together

: Centering Spirit in the Process

: Preparing Ourselves for the Journey

: The Affirmative Talks

: Body Image and Body Positivity

xvi : Romantic Relationships

: Self-Love

: Gender

: Sexuality

: Career and Productivity

: Money and Material Goods

xvii : Family

: Home

: Navigating Some of Lifes Difficulties

: What Is Spiritual Bypassing?

: Listening to Anger and Guilt

: Chronic Mental and Physical Health Conditions

: Self-Sabotage and Transitions

: Gardening Together

Introduction

I ts not okay to be you. You are not good enough as you are.

These messages exist in one form or another in so much of the world today that we may not even register them most of the time, but they are there, whether intentionally or not. We might see an airbrushed and edited photo of a model that makes us feel self-conscious about our bodies or a parade of luxury that we cant afford in a film. Perhaps theres a gross lack of representation of a group were a part of in popular media or an advertisement for a new product that promises to revolutionize our lives, which are painted as less than to some degree without it. If we change ourselves in the ways were being guided to though, buy the novel item, or make ourselves more like what we see that is presented as valuable, maybe well arrive at okay or good enough. If not? Too bad for us.

Many if not most of us received messages about not being okay as ourselves or good enough as we are from family members too, who themselves likely received messages like these from others in a cycle sometimes going back centuries. It is also common to hear some version of this messaging from our peers while growing up, and to implicitly and sometimes explicitly be exposed to it in school and other community settings. Even if no one has ever said words like these to us outright, most of us have experienced and internalized these sentiments in some fashion because of popular media and advertising, as in the examples shared above. I think people often dont even realize that this messaging is part of what theyre saying or implying, as it is such a subtle, constant element in our world.

The impact of these sentiments on our lives, that we are not okay as ourselves or good enough as we are, is profound, particularly the more we feel targeted by them, which can vary from group to group, family to family, and so on. I believe these kinds of sentiments and the ramifications of them are among the root causes of much of the low self-esteem and insecurity we see in the world today.