Matt Spielman - Inflection Points: How to Work and Live with Purpose

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How to Work and Live with Purpose

Matt Spielman

Copyright 2022 by Matt Spielman. All rights reserved.

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Names: Spielman, Matt, author.

Title: Inflection points : how to work and live with purpose / Matt Spielman.

Description: Hoboken, New Jersey : Wiley, [2022] | Includes index.

Identifiers: LCCN 2022007593 (print) | LCCN 2022007594 (ebook) | ISBN 9781119887386 (cloth) | ISBN 9781119887409 (adobe pdf) | ISBN 9781119887393 (epub)

Subjects: LCSH: Satisfaction. | Success.

Classification: LCC BF515 .S65 2022 (print) | LCC BF515 (ebook) | DDC 152.4/2dc23/eng/20220303

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COVER DESIGN: PAUL MCCARTHY

COVER ART: GETTY IMAGES | AERIALPERSPECTIVE IMAGES

This book is dedicated to those who want to get more out of each day.

Matt Spielman and I met in 1997 in one of the first meaningful exchanges I ever had over email. I had been accepted to business school, found an apartment, and was looking for a roommate. He, in turn, had recently been admitted and was looking for a place to live.

Not long after, I remember sitting on the steps of Harvard Business School's Baker Library with Matt in the days before our first year. We looked out onto the sparkling Charles River and wondered aloud where the journey we were about to embark upon would take us.

A few years ago, my career hit a bump in the road. I had left an investment partnership and was struggling to figure out what would come next. I tried taking a step back to ponder the existential question of my why, but I couldn't figure out the answer. I began wondering if, as Matt describes, I had been living a professional life of quiet desperation all along.

Without a clear direction, I worked on consulting projects, started a podcast on the side, and day after day racked my brain to find important answers to big questions.

In my quest to move forward, I thought about asking Matt to coach me.

I had some reservations. I had already tried working with coaches in my transition, with little success. Matt had spent years training across disciplines to be a coach. But I questioned what he could offer that those other coaches hadn't.

At the same time, I believed that Matt was in his element as a coach. He has always been driven to help others achieve greatness. He is a dreamer who is in awe of others with vision. He is a feeler in a world of thinkers.

So, I asked if he would take me on as a client.

He said, No way.

Matt's coaching practice is predicated on listening and reflecting. He believed we were too close for that type of relationship and was concerned it might impact our friendship.

I persisted, he acquiesced, and we decided to give it a shot.

It was one of the best decisions I made on my path.

Matt began our work together from the ground up. Making no assumptions, he began easing into understanding where I was in that moment. He asked thoughtful questions, opened cracks that helped me find barriers in my path, and encouraged me to take small steps of progress.

By the time we created my first action plan, or Game Plan, I had a sense of where I would start heading. Of course, I had understood the importance of having a set of goals and an action plan to achieve them, but it was another thing entirely to visualize mine on the page. Matt and his Game Plan System guided me to that point.

When I achieved the goals laid out in the original Game Plan, we co-created another. The same thing happened. I took actions that worked in service of consequential outcomes. Then we co-created another. Each time I reached my objectives, I realized a vision I couldn't see before Matt began working with me.

I can definitively say that Matt's influence was the key inflection point that turned my unclear future into the business that Capital Allocators became. Most importantly, the business flowed from a guiding light of my own why that Matt helped me identify, articulate, and foster through the Game Plan System, or GPS.

As for the risk to our friendship, Matt and I are closer than we've ever been. He helped me move toward a potential I knew was within me. And in the 25 years we have been friends, I have never seen him more alive and in the flow than when he is coaching.

In Inflection Points, Matt offers not just the what of the Game Plan System, but also the why and how it comes together. He applies that same holistic approach to the book that he does to his coaching practice. It wasn't until I read Inflection Points that I understood why my prior attempts with coaching had failed and why Matt's workalthough seemingly magical and deeply individualizedwas an application of a repeatable process.

Within, Matt describes the tools to help you create flowing moments in your life. He shares the simple-to-incorporate framework that can help make each day count in service of your personal and professional mission. It's a heartfelt and actionable approach that can support many others on their own journey toward, as Matt calls it, an ignited career and an energized life.