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2017 by Kay Warren
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Dedication
To four pastors wives whose lives inspire me...
Amy Warren Hilliker,
Bobbie Lawson Lewis,
Dorothy Armstrong Warren,
and Chaundel Warren Holladay
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Dedication
A Personal Tribute from Rick Warren
Preface
1. The Story of a Church Girl
2. Sharing the Dream
3. Accepting Who You Are
4. Adapting to Change
5. Helping Your Children Survive and Thrive
6. Sharing Your Life
7. Taking Care of Yourself
8. Valuing Seasons and Moments
9. Protecting Your Private Life
10. Dealing with Criticism
11. Adopting an Eternal Perspective
12. Finishing Well
Acknowledgments
Notes
Recommended Resources
About the Author
Also by Kay Warren
Back Ads
Back Cover
A Personal Tribute from Rick Warren
Before you read this book, I want you to know
that none of my lifes contributions would have happened
without Kays enormous influence on me,
her belief in me,
her prayers for me,
her grace toward me,
her advice to me,
her support of me,
and her partnership with me.
Without Kay, there would have never been a Saddleback Church,
there would be no Purpose Driven Life,
no Global PEACE Plan,
no Daily Hope Broadcast,
no Celebrate Recovery movement,
no Daniel Plan or Orphan Care Initiative,
no HIV&AIDS or All-Africa Initiatives,
no Purpose Driven Fellowship of Churches,
or any of the other ministries and tools
that Saddleback Church has brought to the world.
Ive never known anyone more committed
to courageously facing personal faults and fears,
more determined to grow in Christ regardless of the cost,
and more devoted to treating everyone with dignity
than my wife.
She has made me a better man, husband, pastor, and leader.
And she is amazing .
[ Pastors ], love your wives just as Christ loved the church.
Ephesians 5:25 ( GNT )
Preface
W hen I began sharing this material with pastors wives almost thirty years ago, I was young in ministry with plenty of questions and not a lot of answers. I titled my message The Changing Role of the Pastors Wife. As Saddleback grew and our ministry expanded, I changed it to Growing with Your Church. Then life and ministry got pretty intense, which was reflected in the next title: How to Keep the Ministry from Killing You! Now at this pointafter decades of serving God in ministryIve realized its best titled Sacred Privilege: Your Life and Ministry as a Pastors Wife.
If you and I could sit down and have a cup of tea together and you felt comfortable enough to be vulnerable, I wonder what you would tell me about being married to a pastor and your life in ministry. I wonder how you would title your own talk or book.
Many of you knew before you married that your husband was headed for the pastorate, but some of you did not see it coming! Your hubby was actively working in another career when God called your family to radically shift direction and enter the ministry. Some of you are married to the senior or lead pastor, and some of you are married to a pastor in a staff position. Some of you are total newbies. Youre recent church planters on your own, or youre helping to launch a video campus in a location separate from the mother ship, or maybe you didnt grow up in a Christian home and absolutely everything about a life in ministry is still a mystery. Some of you are seasoned veterans. Youve been at this for decades and might even be approaching retirement. You know ministry like the back of your hand. Others of you are smack dab in the middle; youre not newbies, but youre not near the finish line either. Youve got a few years of experience under your beltenough to have a pretty good feel for what life as a pastors wife is going to be like for you.
Recently, I took a nonscientific survey of more than three thousand pastors wives who follow me or Rick on social media and heard four distinct responses to questions about life in ministry. There is a group of you that is genuinely excited. You consider ministry a privilege and an honor, and you love your life as a woman married to a pastor. Yes, there are some real ups and downs, but there are more positives than negatives to living a life of full-time ministry, and overall, youd choose it again.