Joey Lott - The Best Thing That Never Happened

The Best Thing That

Never Happened

Joey Lott

Non-Duality Press

THE BEST THING THAT NEVER HAPPENED

First edition published April 2014 by N ON -D UALITY P RESS

Joey Lott 2014

Non-Duality Press 2014

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Contents

Welcome to This

Reality is much stranger than anything I could ever have imagined. I had lots of elaborate fantasies about what reality might be. What had never truly occurred to me is that this is already reality.

This . Including whateWelcome to Thisver happens. Including the apparent resistance. Including the apparent anger, frustration, sadness, and everything else that I had assumed shouldnt be part of reality.

Fantasies about reality are usually very one-sided. They include what we think we want, but they exclude what we think we dont want. We want orgasms and money and love and health. But we dont want rage and anxiety and hatred and death.

So for me, finally, the stress of trying to maintain that belief in a fantasy me and a fantasy reality, fantasy time and fantasy good and bad, became totally unbearable. I fell apart. I was too beaten down and exhausted and sick to keep it up.

In my experience, when all that is not the truth of what is falls away or can no longer be maintained or believed in, then there is the possibility of discovering reality as it is. Which is so much more wonderful and terrible than I could have imagined. In my experience, reality is the discovery that what I am is the endless capacity to welcome it all. In fact, there isnt even a findable boundary between me and all.

There is just this.

Why we suffer is a great mystery. But how we suffer isnt so difficult to understand. Upon discovering the utter simplicity of being, absolutely nothing changes. Rather, it simply becomes clear that there is no possibility of finding anything separate. There is no past, no future. Theres not even a now. Theres just this !

So the how of suffering is in the unexamined assumptions and the resultant resistance (or the resistance to resistance!) of what is which, by the way, is insane. Because eventually it becomes clear that there is nothing separate from what is. There is no me separate from what is. There is just this. So to resist or reject this is totally futile and horribly painful.

Along the way, we tend to pick up a lot of ideas about life. We develop all of those fantasies about what reality will be like as if reality is some object to be found in the future.

At least that was my experience.

In this book, my hope is to help remove some of those fantasies. And as you read, I hope that you will receive the invitation to begin to question all your fantasies and assumptions about what reality will be and to begin to welcome whatever happens in this endless discovery of what is already here.

What youll likely find is that this book is unlikely to satisfy your expectations. Its not a self-help book nor a spiritual book. Its not a guide to levels or cosmologies. Its not a four-step process to achieve enlightenment. Here you wont find a rosy picture of what your life will be like after you awaken. Because, from my perspective, all of that is just more fantasy.

So if you are lucky, if you accept the invitations extended to you throughout the book, then hopefully youll be left with less, not more. Youll begin to discover that life can be so much simpler than youve imagined because, finally, it may become apparent that this is all there is. There is nowhere else to go. There is nothing to attain or achieve. There is only ever just this.

This is not a thing. Its not a special state. Its just this. Precisely what youve dismissed and denied and believed to be not enough or not good enough. This. Right now. Exactly this.

And I dont believe that you need anything special to discover this. I believe it is available to all of us when we cease to look for something else, something special, something exclusive. Reality is not something else. It is not something special. And it is totally inclusive.

In fact, it includes this. This exactly as it is.

Being Yourself

The what should be never did exist, but people keep trying to live up to it. There is no what should be, there is only what is.

Lenny Bruce

I searched for many years to find myself. I looked everywhere I could to find myself. I searched in nearly every U.S. state, several Canadian provinces, throughout Europe, and in Japan. I searched in books, in audio tapes, and in workshops. I searched in psychedelics. I searched in sex. I searched in yoga. I searched in meditation. I searched in food. I searched in money. I searched in relationships. I searched in fame. I searched in career. I searched in accomplishments. I searched and searched and searched.

Even after I became extremely sick and couldnt move I kept searching searching for better thoughts, feelings, sensations, and experiences. And only when I became so thoroughly exhausted that I couldnt move even enough to follow a thought or to try to avoid an emotion did I discover myself.

I discovered myself in the last place I ever thought to look. I discovered myself in what I had tried to avoid. I discovered myself to be the infinite capacity to welcome everything. So at last it became evident that escape from myself is impossible because all that is, is myself. This is already it. This right now. Including everything . Including what I dont like.

And that is my essential message to you here. You cannot be other than yourself. Try as you might, you cannot escape. But you can search for yourself, which means avoiding or denying or rejecting what is here, which is yourself. So when you stop searching then the opportunity presents itself to discover yourself as you are which is the infinite capacity to welcome everything.

It sounds so simple. And it is. But it is also subtle and nuanced. So we tend to misunderstand.

This is, in many ways, a radical message, so people often seem to misunderstand it. I know I did. I had heard this message plenty of times. But I never really let it in. I had thought I understood it, and so I dismissed it and would set off to find myself again.

So right now, see what happens if you welcome everything. In my experience the revelation of reality as it is continues. And it seems to grow deeper and richer. Yet it always seems to start and end with simply welcoming everything. It begins and ends by becoming very, very simple.

So right now, notice what is happening in this moment. You dont need to think about it. You dont need to try and analyze it. Just be simpler than that. Just notice what is unavoidable. Notice your direct experience. Are there sensations? Smells? Sounds? Feelings in your body? And just for this moment, welcome it all.

As you do this, if you are really honest, you may notice how you habitually reject aspects of what is. There may be particular sensations that you dont like or that dont seem to be good enough, and so you subtly try to avoid them in search of something better.