Larry Titus - When Leaders Live Together: How Two Strong Personalities Can Thrive In Marriage

PRAISE FOR WHEN LEADERS LIVE TOGETHERz

Devi and Larry Titus are two of the strongest and most gifted leaders today. In knowing them for the past twenty-five years, I have never seen them in competition with each other or trying to dominate one another. In spite of the strength of their personalities as leaders, their marriage reflects a genuine submission and honor for each other. Truly, they have one of the best marriages I have ever seen.

JIMMY EVANS

PRESIDENT AND CO-HOST OF MARRIAGE TODAY TELEVISION

MINISTRY

SENIOR PASTOR OF TRINITY FELLOWSHIP CHURCH

AMARILLO, TX

I have personally been blessed and our congregation has corporately been blessed not only by their individual ministry strengths, but by their consistent and loving public support of each other. Devi and Larry Titus are revelations of the truthheadship, leadership and submission do not need to conflict. The marriage, the ministry and the message of their lives summarizes submitting ourselves to one another In this work, Devi and Larry Titus show us how to do it!

BISHOP KENNETH C. ULMER

SENIOR PASTOR/TEACHER

FAITHFUL CENTRAL BIBLE CHURCH, LOS ANGELES, CALIF.

When Leaders Live Together reveals that freedom can be achieved in our relationships as we understand Gods purpose for leadership. As Devi and Larry Titus explore the dynamics of personality and authority, they expose common misconceptions in light of Gods Word. Get a copy and learn to live well with your leader!

LISA AND JOHN BEVERE

MESSENGER INTERNATIONAL

COLORADO SPRINGS/UNITED KINGDOM, AUSTRALIA

In this exciting and practical book, Devi and Larry Titus clearly explain in real life language, how to balance Gods design for roles in marriage. Finally, couples have a usable tool that allows the husband and wife to flourish under Gods purpose for marriage.

DRS. LOIS AND TONY EVANS

OAK CLIFF BIBLE CHURCH AND THE URBAN ALTERNATIVE DALLAS, TX

WHEN LEADERS LIVE
TOGETHER

How Two Strong Personalities Can
Thrive In Marriage

How Two Strong Personalities Can
Thrive In Marriage

LARRY TITUSDEVI TITUS

When Leaders Live Together
By Devi TitusLarry Titus

Published by HigherLife Development Services, Inc.
400 Fontana Circle
Building 1, Suite 105
Oviedo, FL 32765
(407) 563-4806
www.ahigherlife.com

Copyright 2012 by Devi TitusLarry Titus

All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the ESV Version of the Bible.

This book or parts thereof may not be reproduced in any form, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form by any meanselectronic, mechanical, photocopy, recording, or otherwisewithout prior written permission of the publisher, except as provided by United States of America copyright law.

Copyright 2012 by Devi TitusLarry Titus
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ISBN 13: 978-1-93524-573-5

ISBN 10: 1935245732

Cover Design: Dave Whitlock

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By: Larry

DEVI AND I have been married 48 years. As happens quite often, we will again be away on our anniversary, this time in Brazil. When we got married, I told her that I would show her the world, and by Gods grace, Ive done a pretty good job. Of course, I didnt tell how opulent it would be, or how lavish the travel plans were, whether wed be riding in a limousine or a putt-putt; I just told her that I would show her the world.

The world has included sleeping on dirty sheets in India, boards for beds in Thailand, riding on an out-of-control bus as it careens down an icy road in Colorado, squeezed into the back seat of taxis with three other people in Nigeria, sharing rooms with creepy-crawly-critters in more than one place, and yes, having more than our share of beautiful hotels where we felt spoiled by God.

The bottom line is that Devi has always been by my side, whether with princes or peons. She has never complained, never has she tried to run an independent course, seeking her own professional agenda, nor tried to usurp my authority. And, one as talented as Devi would have no problem succeeding in just about anything she set her mind to.

So, our marriage has always been the two of us acting as one. We have chosen to act in tandem, with each one of us leading at times, rather than living together separately and independently.

This book is all about marriage, but marriage of a different kind. We have not tried to write the stock marriage book, addressing the usual problems. There are a plethora of good books on marriage, books that will answer about any problem that might arise in your marriage. But there seems to be a paucity of books written about headship and what it means, about how strong personalities can work together in unity, how each of the partners can lead in their area of expertise, and how couples can reverse the demonic trend of divorce and shallow relationships thats epidemic in our society, and present a healthy example of Jesus and His Church to a seeking and sick world.

As you will notice, there are more personal anecdotes than you might be accustomed to in such a book, but weve done that so you can see the practicality of what were prescribing. This book is both theological and practical. Its possible to put the biblical injunctions for couples into a template that allows them to live out their God-given marriage mandate in the modern world and succeed. After all, if our marriage doesnt function in harmony, how will people accurately see Jesus and His Church? For marriage is to be modeled after Jesus and His Church.

Lastly, this book carries a tinge of the unique in that Devis leadership skills are in many ways much superior to mine. When Leaders Live Together has not been written by a strong Choleric, dominate Alpha male type; Im just one of those ordinary personalities that make up nearly 70 percent of men. Yet I, like all men, have leadership skills in some area. The same is true of women. Regardless of her personality type, she still has leadership gifts in a specific area, whether great or small. So, this book inherently carries comfort for both spouses; no matter what percentage your leadership skills are, docile or dominant, passive or persuasive, you are still an effective leader in some area, and worthy of encouragement.

Because I constantly teach men, Im always concerned that the tear-down, condescending world theyve been born into will continue to devalue and emasculate them. I want you to know that youre not a whit inferior, and most likely, far more superior than you give yourself credit for. For the men out there who feel that youll never be a good head, let alone a good leader, Im writing to let you know that you already are. Your skills just need to be recognized, encouraged and released. God designed you for greatness, so, as I tell thousands of men, Youre Awesome and you cant even help it. We want to elevate both men and women in the understanding of how special they are and how they can release their leadership skills in the most elementary, yet profound, ways.

So, welcome to a book of a different kind.

LARRY TITUS

By: Devi

WRITING THIS BOOK has been a fun journey. Many years ago, Larry and I quickly wrote the first version and self-published it so I could distribute it at a conference where I was speaking. My assigned workshop topic to ministers wives was Living with a Leader.