Sameet M. Kumar, Ph.D., is a Buddhist psychotherapist who works at the Memorial Cancer Institute of the Memorial Healthcare System in Broward County, FL. His areas of expertise include mindfulness-based therapies, palliative care, spirituality in psychotherapy, stress management and relaxation, and grief and bereavement. He has trained with many leading Hindu and Tibetan Buddhist teachers and has traveled extensively in India, China, and Tibet. Read his blog at sameetkumar.blogspot.com and get regular updates at twitter.com/sameetkumar.
Kumar integrates science, Buddhism, and therapeutic tools to create an insightful and useful guidebook for people stuck in rumination. This book can help people free themselves from brooding and live fuller, happier lives.
Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Yale University
This wise and thoughtful book addresses the deep suffering of worry and helplessness. It is written lucidly and kindly.
Roshi Joan Halifax, Upaya Zen Center
The Mindful Path Through Worry and Rumination is well-written and quite accessible. It helps us understand how our minds work, and in turn, how to work with our minds. I found it extremely helpful.
Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness
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Copyright 2009 by Sameet M. Kumar
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Quote on pages 28-29 Sarah Harding and Thrangu Rinpoche, 2002. Reprinted from Creation and Completion: Essential Points of Tantric Meditation with permission from Wisdom Publications, 199 Elm Street, Somerville, MA 02144. Wisdompubs.org.
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ePub ISBN: 9781608826957
The Library of Congress has Cataloged the Print Edition as:
Kumar, Sameet M.
The mindful path through worry and rumination : letting go of anxious and depressive thoughts / Sameet M. Kumar.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN-13: 978-1-57224-687-4 (pbk. : alk. paper)
ISBN-10: 1-57224-687-1 (pbk. : alk. paper) 1. Anxiety. 2. Worry. 3. Anxiety--Treatment. 4. Meditation--Therapeutic use. I. Title.
BF575.A6K78 2009
152.46--dc22
2009044374
First and foremost, this book is dedicated to all of the patients, clients, and readers I have met over the years who have taught me so much about human resilience, compassion, and potential. Each of your lives is indeed precious, and I am grateful for the privilege of having been present for moments of insight and awe in your lives.
This book is also dedicated to the fruits of your journey through life and to all of the joy within your capacity.
The Buddhas teaching, the Dharma, is as vast as the grains of sand on the seashore. Though my knowledge is limited and my practice is far from ideal, I hope that my understanding will help further your development and help you to actualize your inner potential.
Sarve mangalammay all beings be happy!
acknowledgments
I would like to thank all of my spiritual teachers, particularly His Holiness the Fourteenth Dalai Lama of Tibet, for illuminating the path to freedom. I would also like to thank Shri Das Gupta for being my first meditation teacher, Swami Nityananda, Swami Muktananda, Shree Shastriji (Guruji), Lama Norla Rinpoche, Jamgn Kongtrul Lodro, Chgyam Trungpa Rinpoche, and Glenn Mullin for the wisdom they have shared in person and from a distance.
This book wouldnt have been possible without my best friend, teacher, and editormy wife Christina. Without your patience and support, none of this would have been possible. I thank our two shining lights, Javier Amrit and Miguel Anand, for being the cutest, smartest, and most loving little boys anywhere and for providing much needed play during the writing process.
I would like to thank Christinas and my families for helping with the hours of research, writing, and revision by babysitting, and providing delicious meals and welcome distraction.
I would also like to thank my colleagues at the Mount Sinai Comprehensive Cancer Center for teaching me skillful means and compassion, and for providing clinical coverage on the many writing days when I was away from the office.
I must give special recognition to the musicians who helped me by providing hours of inspiration and motivation. In particular, artists such as the Birds of Avalon, the Grateful Dead, the Doors, Pink Floyd, Fela Anikulapo Kuti and the Africa 70, Thievery Corporation, Tool, and Black Sabbath helped the writing flow during difficult moments. Starbucks Coffee provided the setting, energy, and stamina for many of the chapters as well.
I would like to thank the organizers of the World Gathering on Bereavement in Vancouver, British Columbia, for allowing the power of loving-kindness to manifest in ways I hadnt thought possible. I would also like to thank MAPS for their continued support and dedication to finding creative solutions for healing the human mind.
I would also like to thank the staff of New Harbinger Publications for trusting me once more with the opportunity to spread hope and wisdom to others.
introduction
As I sit at my desk and write, our world is in peril; our global environment, economy, security, and health all seem uncertain. Theres plenty to worry about and plenty of reason for anxiety, depression, and rumination. Because of all the uncertainty in our world, theres no better time to seek a more meaningful, positive way to live. History has shown that from times of great distress are sown the seeds of opportunity, promise, and renewal.
To facilitate such discovery in these distressing times, this book is here to help show you the way out of your current state of mind and into the potential of your future. This book does not ask you to ignore your problems or to become passive in the face of lifes challenges. This book asks you to make meaningful, deliberate choices that will lead to your continued joy and well-being, to take control of the choices that influence how your brain and mind work, and how you feel.
whom this book is for
If your mind feels like a burden, this book is for you. Ruminationthinking about the same things over and over again, worrying about the future or the past, or staying up at night with your fears and anxieties to the point where youre led into periods of depressioncan feel like the weight of the world on your shoulders, stifling the air you breathe and obscuring clarity of thought and action.
Despite the burden of rumination and worry, youre still capable of great thingsincluding feeling better. The mindful path this book teaches doesnt pass judgment on you or your thoughts. Instead it offers you a different relationship with your mind and with your world. This mindful path is here to help you achieve your minds highest potential and avoid getting dragged down by its unhelpful habits.
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