Gerald G. Jampolsky - Teach Only Love: The Twelve Principles of Attitudinal Healing

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Originally published as Teach Only Love: The Seven Principles of Attitudinal Healing, copyright 1983 by Gerald Jampolsky

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Jampolsky, Gerald G.,

Teach only love: the twelve principles of attitudinal healing / Gerald G. Jampolsky.

p. cm.

1. Mental healing. 2. Attitude (Psychology). 3. Love. I. Title.

RZ401 .J34 2000

615.89dc21

99-087651
CIP

ISBN-13: 978-158270-033-5

eISBN-13: 978-1-45166-303-7

The corporate mission of Beyond Words Publishing, Inc.: Inspire to Integrity

This book is dedicated to my dear friends Ted and Vada Stanley,
for being there for me, and whose friendship, love, and support
throughout the years continues to be cherished.

I wish to express my deepest gratitude to Gayle and Hugh Prather for all of their help with both editions of this book. And for her loving support, invaluable reflections, and because she is always there for me, I thank my wife, Diane Cirincione.

For their editorial assistance with the first edition, I wish to thank William Thetford, Jules Finegold, Mary Abney, and Patricia Hopkins.

I am very grateful to Judy Skutch Whitson and Robert Skutch of the Foundation for Inner Peace for their permission to quote from A Course in Miracles. The quotes are noted with asterisks. And, above all, I am grateful for the inspiration and influence of A Course in Miracles on this book. A Course in Miracles is published by the Foundation for Inner Peace, P.O. Box 598, Mill Valley, California 94942-0598.

I t has been twenty-four years since the first Center for Attitudinal Healing was established in Tiburon, California, and seventeen years since the first edition of Teach Only Love was published. What has happened in the ensuing years? For me personally, many miraculous events have occurred that were beyond my imagination twenty-four years ago.

The principles of Attitudinal Healing, and the stories in this book that demonstrate them, continue to stand on their own as a testament to the power of Attitudinal Healing, not only for those facing catastrophic illnesses, but for all aspects of our lives. However, since this book was first published, the original seven principles have been expanded to twelve, and these new principles will be discussed in this new edition. I have also added a section on death and dying as well as one about my perceptions of God.

The original Center in Tiburon continued to grow and finally had to move to a larger space in Sausalito, Californiaa vacant school building that has proven to be an ideal home for us. We now have over three hundred volunteers and one hundred facilitators for the more than twenty-nine different groups that meet each week. There is a large Home and Hospital Division with over one hundred volunteers, and our Center is also working in elementary and high schools where children and staff are utilizing these principles in their everyday lives.

Since 1982 we have been working with adults and children who have AIDS, as well as children whose parents have AIDS. We created a poster that is used internationallya cartoon by Jack Keeler of a boy saying, I have AIDS. Please hug me. I cant make you sick. We have loss and grief groups for both children and adults. The Center is also actively working in prisons.

My wife and I, often accompanied by members of our staff, have traveled to such places as Russia, Croatia, Argentina, Chile, Australia, New Zealand, and Hawaii to give workshops and to consult with hospitals and other facilities. With other centers, we have responded to disasters such as the Oklahoma City bombing, establishing support groups as well as loss and grief groups.

We have a large volunteer training program, not only for our own Center but also for other agencies. Almost half of the people who now come to our Center participate in our Person to Person program. These people do not have catastrophic illnesses, but they come to learn how to apply the Attitudinal Healing principles of love and forgiveness in their own lives. The Center also continues to offer three-day workshops on Attitudinal Healing throughout the year.

To my amazement there are now more than 150 Centers or groups all over the world, including such diverse places as Ghana, West Africa, New Zealand, Australia, the Netherlands, Belgium, Switzerland, Italy, Argentina, Brazil, Russia, Germany, Croatia, as well as many more. As with the Sausalito Center, all of their direct services are free.

There is now a separate organization, the Network for Attitudinal Healing, International, that serves as a bridge connecting the various autonomous Centers and as a source for the exchange of information and ideas. This organization also helps coordinate an international conference on Attitudinal Healing that is held every two years. It is located at the Sausalito Center.

At our Centers we do not believe it is our function to change people or fix them up. We are all there for our own healing and to learn to let go of what blocks our experience of love and prevents us from having peace of mind. We believe that by first healing our own hearts and minds, we then bring healing to the world we see. It is our absolute conviction that the most important gift we can give another person is our own inner peace and unconditional love. We believe that it is through forgiveness that our self-imposed blocks to love are removed and that we achieve this peace.

Gerald Jampolsky, M.D.
December, 1999

A s we emerge from the birth canal, we enter the world desperately struggling for breath. Most of us travel through life continuing to struggle, feeling unloved and alone. All too often we are afraidafraid of sickness and death; afraid of God; even afraid of continuing to live. Often we leave the world the same way we entered itdesperately struggling for breath.

I believe there is another way of looking at life that makes it possible for us to walk through this world in love, at peace and without fear. This other way requires no external battles, only that we heal ourselves. It is a process I call attitudinal healing, because it is an internal and primarily mental process. Properly practiced, it will, I believe, allow all of us, regardless of our circumstances, to begin experiencing the joy and harmony that each instant contains and to start our journey on a path of love and hope.