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2018 by Becky Kopitzke
Published by Bethany House Publishers
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Library of Congress Control Number: 2017961596
ISBN 978-1-4934-1345-4
Unless otherwise identified, Scripture quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version. NIV. Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc. Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com
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Scripture quotations labeled ESV are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (ESV), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2011
Scripture quotations labeled GW are from Gods Word. 1995 Gods Word to the Nations. Used by permission of Baker Publishing Group.
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Endorsements
If you dont want to make the world a better place, dont open this book. But if youre ready to take part in a global revolution, read on. Beckys powerful message will remind you that the biggest world change often begins with the smallest acts of love. And each of us can change the world right where we are.
Alicia Bruxvoort, Proverbs 31 Ministries writer, speaker, and abundant-life seeker
Beckys timely book is a healing balm for a broken world and a cynical heart. The stories and practical applications have been forged in her life and leadership among our faith community. This book is sure to encourage you to love generously and discover Gods redemptive purposes.
Judy Episcopo, womens ministry director, Appleton Alliance Church, Wisconsin
Encouraging and practical, Generous Love is the perfect how-to guide for loving well in day-to-day life. Beckys words and stories highlight the powerful impact made by even the smallest acts of kindness, and her insight leaves me feeling both equipped and inspired.
Jen Weaver, author of A Wife s Secret to Happiness
I want to get this dynamic book into the hands of every single person I know. Becky Kopitzke is taking us back to the basics of loving others well, which in turn revolutionizes the world with the love of Christ. She reminds us that loving others doesnt have to be hard or dependent upon complicated gestures. Rather, it is the simple things such as looking each other in the eye, gifting a heartfelt compliment, and saying thank you. I am certain Generous Love will take the world by storm as readers apply its biblical, practical, and fun wisdom.
Sarah Philpott, PhD, author of Loved Baby: 31 Devotions Helping You Grieve and Cherish Your Child After Pregnancy Loss
Dedication
For the Stoffels
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Endorsements
Dedication
Introduction: It Starts with One
1. What Is a Blessing, Anyway?
2. Why Are We So Stinking Selfish?
3. The Me Weeds
4. The Blessing Toolbox
5. Four Ps of Blessing #1 Presence
6. Blessings Near and Far
7. Four Ps of Blessing #2 Possessions
8. Olivias Heart
9. Four Ps of Blessing #3 Perspective
10. Loving People Who Arent Like You
11. Four Ps of Blessing #4 Prayer
12. A Church on Every Corner
13. Why? Because God Says So
14. And Because It Benefits You, Too
16. About That Golden Rule
Epilogue: A Life Well-Lived
Bonus Materials
Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Author
Back Cover
Introduction
It Starts with One
We sat at her dining table, stabbing plastic forks into Chinese takeout. My sweet friend spoke gentlyabout her health, her spirit, her sleepless nights. I listened, nodded, and let my heart swell with each word.
We had just spent the morning on the second floor of Erins home, organizing clutter and assembling new shelves for her childrens bedrooms. We rearranged picture books and collected a small pile of stray Legos that had been left stranded under beds and on dressers. Simple chores, really, but important steps toward creating a fresh space for this beautiful family in this house that held a presence so thick you could feel it prickling on your skin.
Earlier that morning, I had arrived at her back door with two lattes in my hands, and she led me upstairs to a closet. I forgot about this one, she said, then opened the door to reveal a small space packed tight with cardboard boxes and a row of mens shirts on hangers. In a moment my brain registered the scene, and a gasp of breath caught in my throat.
These were her husbands shirts.
Jon .
Gone, eight months ago, into the arms of Jesus.
And I tried not to let her see my eyes fill with tears.
Quickly, I grabbed a Rubbermaid bin and set to work. She pulled shirts from the closet, and I folded them into neat stacks. This one was from high school. That one he wore to work. How long has he had these overalls, anyway? Now, this sweatshirttheres a story behind this one.
We chatted and folded and cleaned out that closet until it became clear we had more stuff than space to put it. I dont think were going to fit all these, I saidand then I volunteered to run to Walmart to buy a few more bins, mostly out of a heart to serve, but also, I confess, so I could let the tears leak down my cheeks as I drove to the store to call my own husband just to hear his voice.