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I dedicate this book to my husband, Mike, who
has been so supportive and helpful in writing
this book, and to our beautiful children,
Joanna and Matthew, for their love and
support. I also dedicate this book to my Law
of Attraction and Law of Forgiveness students
who have taught me as much about these
amazing universal laws as I have them.
FOREWORD
The book you are about to read will change your life.
In fact, if you asked me to identify the quickest way to change your life, my answer would be just one word: forgiveness. Forgiveness is the key to moving beyond your past and unlocking the treasures of the future. It transforms you and moves you into a brand-new world that is beyond your wildest dreams. Love, prosperity, peace... its all there for you. All you have to do is reach out and grab it.
How do I know? Because this is exactly what happened to me when I met Connie Domino.
Simply put... forgiveness changed my life.
To properly explain my journey of forgiveness, let me briefly explain where I came from. I was raised in New York City by an upper-middle-class family. Anger, fear, greed and alcoholism were daily visitors in my house, while love and respect were rarely seen. It was an extremely dark childhood and I fled from it as soon as I was old enough. I wont go into what happened, but anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional family can fill in the blanks. Lets just say that it was a very dark world for me.
By my eighteenth birthday, all the garbage that had gone on in my family started to make me angry. However, unlike most people who let their anger come out, I stuffed my anger inside and presented a neutral face to the world so that I could pretend everything was all right. I swallowed my feelings and continued to go on. Not a very healthy thing to do.
By the age of twenty-five, the anger inside me started to affect my posture as my shoulders started to curve and stoop, making me look like an old woman. It was almost as if the weight of the anger was literally wearing me down, which of course it was. It got so bad that when I walked down the street I would look down at my feet, rarely looking anyone in the eye. It was amazing that I didnt bump into things!
By the age of thirty-five, I had so much pent-up anger stored in my body that I was starting to get sick all the time. Every week I had something newcolds, flu, bronchitis, pneumoniayou name it, I seemed to get it. The dark years (as I affectionately refer to them now) had worn down my self-esteem to almost nothing, and I became quite adept at dredging up the past and wallowing in it. I looked at the world through negative glasses, and saw it as a hard and cold place. I had been deeply wounded to the very core of my being, and I didnt know how to move past it.
The anger even affected my business, as the company my husband and I were trying to start was struggling to get off the ground. We had clients, of course, but every day was a struggle to survive. By the time I hit my forties, money was tight and bankruptcy was knocking on our door.
It was about this time that I began to understand that the anger was eating me alive. So began my journey of self-discovery, a journey that lasted for the next several years. I learned how to get in touch with my intuition, and then I learned how to listen to it and trust it. I read books, attended workshops and really started to listen to my inner voice/intuition. In 2001, I even wrote a book about it called God, Is That You? I learned to trust the guidance that I was being given, and I learned to follow my heart. My journey had begun.
Life got better, our finances started to improve, and I began to understand the past and those dark years of so long ago. I couldnt forgive my family for what they had done, but I understood it and was able to move beyond it. And by following my inner voice, I was able to get our finances straightened out, and our company started to move forward.
What I didnt understand back then was that there was still some anger stuffed deep down inside myself that I consciously didnt know was still there. I was healing, but that little core of hurt was preventing me from reaching my full potential in my business and in my life.
The following year something incredible happened that changed my life forever. It allowed me to finally move beyond the past and into a world of love and peace. Since then, our business has taken off like a brushfire. We never filed that bankruptcy that wed been considering, and we are now debt-free. And my childhood family is a piece of history that I can calmly look back at (and even write about) with no anger at all. Its as if the hard drive in my brain has been erased and a new program filled with love, respect, peace, integrity and kindness is running in place of the old program. I am filled with an unbelievable amount of love now, and I look at the world positively. The anger that was inside of me for over forty years is gone forever.
What happened?
It was the spring of 2003, and I was at an exposition exhibiting one of my books when my intuition/inner voice nudged me to go over to meet a woman who was talking about the workshops she gave. It was Connie Domino. About a week or so later, Connie taught me about the Law of Forgiveness. It was the last piece I needed in my journey of self-discovery, and I was finally ready for it.
Even though most of Connies forgiveness students progress more quickly, for me the forgiveness lesson took more than a year to complete because it was like peeling back the layers of an onion. One layer led to another, which led to another, and so on. Every layer brought up a few more memories, causing me to forgive a few more people each time. Eventually, I reached that inner core of anger and the onion was gone, but it sure took a while. Connie encouraged me by saying that persistence pays, because even if it takes some people longer than others, its so worth it.
After attending Connies class, I sat down on my bed and decided to start with the easy grudges from my past, leaving the harder ones for last. Why? Mostly because I wasnt ready to forgive my parents right at that momentthat leap was just too huge for me.
So I closed my eyes and a name immediately formed in my mind, which was interesting because I hadnt thought of this person in a very long time. It was an old friend of mine from high school. We had had a falling-out years ago and hadnt spoken to each other since. Looking back, I could easily see what had happened between us and found that I could finally forgive her completely. I immediately (out loud in the empty room) said the forgiveness affirmation that I had learned in Connies class, and then I went downstairs for a cup of tea.
Two hours later, my friend called me on the phone! I hadnt heard from her in years. After we patched things up, I got curious and asked her why, after all these years, shed decided to call me today. She said that two hours before (which was the exact time that I was saying my affirmation), an earring that I had given her in high school fell off of her bureau and it made her think about me, so she decided to call.