Donna McCallum - The Fairy Godmothers Guide to Getting What You Want

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First published 2013

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Publication Zebra Press 2013
Text Donna McCallum 2013

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PUBLISHER: Marlene Fryer
MANAGING EDITOR: Ronel Richter-Herbert
PROOFREADER: Laetitia Sullivan
COVER DESIGNER: Lynne Hosking
TEXT DESIGNER: Natascha Olivier
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South Africa a country of magical possibility and transformation that gave me strong roots

Argentina a land of creativity, my muse that guided me to realise I have wings

My mother, Sylvia McCallum, who is the embodiment of Spirit having fun in the world. You had the wisdom to give me solid roots and the love to allow me the freedom of my newfound, spectacular wings

I am so grateful for the wonderful supporting cast I have in my life and for the people who have been instrumental in making this book come together.

To the Sensational Six Michelle Jacobs (MishKala), Emma Kaye (Em-Em), Timea Kulcsar (T-sparkle), Jacqui Davies (Jax) and Crystal van Ryneveld (Crys) who held the space for me while I was writing. You all provided scintillating conversations that inspired many of the ideas and stories in this book. I am grateful for your honest and useful feedback on the manuscript. Thank you for sending me love, energy and SMSes, for engaging in phone calls when I was in delight and phone calls when I was in despair, and for your constant support while I was giving birth to this baby. You are brilliant midwives! I couldnt have wished for better.

Jaco Delport, my wise friend and mentor. I am so grateful for your friendship and support. You provide a shoulder for me to weep on and an ear to listen to my triumphs. Your advice and thoughts mean so much to me.

Thabang Skwambane for taking in a failing Fairy Godmother and enveloping me in love and support so that I could have the time, space and freed energy to write this book. I am so grateful to have learnt how to receive from you.

Simon Tzu for being a light in my life and for constantly reminding me of my greatness. Liezel Strauss for being a non-stop voice of enthusiasm and love. Kerry Kronenberg for channelling Spirit to guide me and for holding beautiful space for me. Brendan Hughes, thank you for being my legal eyes and ears. The Eglins, my second family, thank you for all your love and encouragement.

Pablo Finnochio y Marcello Prestianni para tus creencias en hadas y tus energias en Argentina.

I am grateful for the fun and laughter with you, Wiggles-Magoo (Andrew Ludwig). My cuz, Colleen, I am grateful for your love and SMSes to check how I was doing.

I am grateful to the whole team at Random House Struik and Zebra Press. Ronel, for having the inspired idea to approach a Fairy Godmother and for helping me to be ruthless with words; Marlene, for having supreme patience with me.

I am grateful to the inspired teachers I have learnt from: Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, John Demartini, Oprah Winfrey, Ben Zander, Barefoot Doctor, Madonna, Don Miguel Ruiz, Bruce Muzik, Mike Dooley, Rob Brezsney.

And finally, I am grateful for you, Mom, for our exquisite relationship a meeting of two Spirits who love and respect each other beautifully.

DONNA MCCALLUM

And you want to get what you want!

You want all your dreams and goals to come true and to live a life you love? And you want to have fun doing it?

Oh, and it should be as easy as possible, right?

Then what you are looking for is a quick-fix, make-my-dreams-come-true type of Fairy Godmother, who, with a brief flick of her wand, will turn everything in your life into happiness, bliss and showers of rose petals raining down upon you wherever you walk.

Well, I have good news and bad news. Normally people request the bad news first, so lets get it over and done with on the first page of this book. The bad news is ... drum roll ... there is no happiness pill!

Lets get this straight: If you bought this book for the key to eternal and everlasting happiness, you have the wrong book and your life is going to be one long search for something that doesnt exist.

The promise of eternal happiness is something we all crave. It is the new opiate of the masses. We have been bombarded with the positive-thinking movement, the happily-ever-after philosophy and the promise from marketers that X or Y, or maybe Z, is the secret to perpetual happiness and bliss in life. Hogwash! Theres no such thing.

All of us have a deep-down longing for some kind of happiness pill, which, when taken ta-dah! will ensure that everything will be pleasurable for the rest of our lives. Some of us seek this in material things: When I get that house, then Ill be happy. Others look for it in careers and achievements: When I become CEO, Ill feel good. There are those who believe relationships and family hold the key to happiness: When I get married and have children, then Ill be content. Spiritual seekers believe that once they have stretched their consciousness and become enlightened, they will live in eternal bliss. Some people pop a pill to get the everlasting happiness buzz, and crash when the comedown pounces on them. There are endless examples of our attempts to seek eternal happiness.

It is time to smash this 24/7/365 happiness myth: There is no happily ever after! If perpetual bliss is what you want, it is my duty as your Fairy Godmother to tell you that this is a fairy-tale lie that has been sold to us for centuries through myths, fairy stories, Hollywood. After Cinderella married the Prince, they had their tiffs and disagreements, he had some habits that irritated her and, of course, there was the laundry to be done!

Anyone who tries to sell you the secret to happiness is just another drug dealer in the world of pop psychology and personal development.

We live in a physical world. We are a species of six billion flesh-and-bone beings, spinning at high speed around the sun on a ball of rock with a centre of molten lava. There is no doubt we live in a world of matter hard objects and things we can see, touch and feel. We live in the physical realm. There is a context to this physical world we live in conditions we live under that form the environment: the rules of the physical plane. We generally take these rules for granted. Imagine you woke up tomorrow morning and the law of gravity had ceased to exist. Your face would be plastered to the ceiling and your bed would have floated up to the roof. What a shock! There are many laws that govern the physical world time, space and, most importantly,