Books by John F. Westfall
1. What If There Was No Yesterday?
2. Fuhgeddaboudit! Theres No Future in the Past
3. Its All about Freedom
4. The Power of (Positive/Negative) Thinking
5. Binocular VisionSeeing with 20/20 Distortion
6. How to Make Yourself Miserable
7. Why Am I Worrying about Worrying?
8. Living beyond Past Trauma
9. It Takes Ten Atta-Boys to Make Up for Every You Jerk
10. What We Need to Know to Live Like Theres No Yesterday
11. The Power to Change
12. Plan Your Past Today
13. Renewed Mind = Transformed Life
Acknowledgments
Writing may sometimes feel like a lonely exercise, but Im very aware that Im never alone. Im grateful for the many friends who have hung in with me through the ages and stages of life. Thank you for sharing the gift of your stories, wisdom, and encouragement.
Whether in printed words or unspoken influence, Eileen Westfall has lived most of this book over the fifty years we have been married. In addition to having the same birthday, we have also shared a lifetime of joy and sorrow, sickness and health, and richer and poorer. Since we were labeled the couple least likely to stay married one year, I guess we proved them wrong.
Damian Westfall, our son, has kept pushing me to not give up writing and living. He is a prolific author and a courageous trauma survivor, as well as a researcher for this book. Im proud of him and grateful to be his dad.
Im grateful for the input and help of David Pardee, John Langham, Pam Proske, Bob Marlowe, Gary Winkelman, David Meharg, Sheila and Walt Gustafson, Daniel Castillo, Diane Rocha, and David Doherty.
Im also thankful for the insight and assistance of Rachel McRae, who guided me with her gentle persistence and editing skills at Revell Books.
What If There Was No Yesterday?
Its no use going back to yesterday, because I was a different person then. Lewis Carroll
The sign on the hallway wall said, Live Like Theres No Tomorrow! I could hardly resist the urge to pull out a marking pen, cross out the word Tomorrow , and scribble under it Yesterday! I dont even remember what made me almost turn into an older version of an urban tagger, spraying graffiti and messages on our city walls. That afternoon I managed to control my impulse, but it got me thinking about what could happen if we learned to live like theres no yesterday.
Letting Go of Looking Back
Tomorrow was never much of an issue for me. I didnt worry or feel anxious about what was just up ahead. I wouldnt even know how to regret the future, since I hadnt messed it up yet. In fact, I rather liked the idea of the future because Id get a fresh start. I guess I just didnt want to live like there was no tomorrow. Anyway, if today was all we had, and there wasnt going to be a tomorrow, I didnt know where hope would come from.
Yesterday , on the other hand, is definitely something I could live without. There have been times I dwelled in the past or looked back with both longing and regret. Sometimes the past haunted me, held me, or defined, limited, and frustrated me. Of course, the past also held victories, celebrations, and happy memories. But it seemed like I needed to dig around to find them in the pile of broken dreams and hurt feelings.
If our goal is to live each day with freedom and joy, we have a chance to learn from our past experiences without allowing them to interfere with the happiness and confidence that come from living intentionally today.
A lot has been said, thought, written, and sung about yesterday. After all, according to the Beatles, isnt it a place where all our troubles appear to be far away? If so, why wouldnt we want to dwell in the past?
Ive probably spent way too much time looking over my shoulder, ruminating on things that have happened, or didnt happen, in my past. Its not like I mean to do it, but those yesterdays creep up on me and pretty soon the memories that get rekindled start burning bright, and its hard to turn away.