Stressed-Less LIVING
Stressed-Less LIVING
Finding Gods Peace in Your Chaotic World
Tracie Miles
STRESSED-LESS LIVING
Finding Gods Peace in Your Chaotic World
Copyright 2012 by Tracie Miles
ISBN 978-0-89112-335-4
LCCN 2012016102
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Unless otherwise noted, all Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright 1996, 2004. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved. Scripture quotations noted NIV are from The Holy Bible, New International Version. Copyright 1984, International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Publishers. Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (ESV), copyright 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Scripture quotations noted MSG taken from The Message. Copyright 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group. Quotations in Chapter Eight were written by Patrick Lencioni, used by permission. Mr. Lencioni is the author of ten business books including the new release, The Advantage: Why Organizational Health Trumps Everything Else in Business, and the national best-seller, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team. He is founder and president of The Table Group, a management consulting firm focused on organizational health. Quotations from Holman Illustrated Bible Dictionary, Lifeway and B&H Publishing Group, used by permission.
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Miles, Tracie, 1967
Stressed-less living : finding Gods peace in your chaotic world / by Tracie Miles.
p. cm.
ISBN 978-0-89112-335-4
1. Christian women--Religious life. 2. Stress management--Religious aspects--Christianity. 3. Stress management for women. 4. Anxiety--Religious aspects--Christianity. I. Title.
BV4527.M4395 2012
248.843--dc23
2012016102
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To my husband Michael,
whom Ive shared the past twenty- two years with and
who has supported me in my calling in more ways than one.
To my children, Morgan, Kaitlyn and Michael,
the greatest joys of my life,
who have brought more blessings to my heart than they will ever know.
To my mother, Barbara,
the most amazing woman I know,
who has always been my biggest cheerleader.
... you are worried and upset about many things,
but only one thing is needed...
Luke 10:41b42a NIV
Foreword
by Stephanie Clayton, MEd
I wish Id had this book the day I walked into the counselors office. I kept asking myself, Why am I here? I had recently completed my masters degree in counseling and been accepted into the doctoral program. Shouldnt I be able to handle the stress-induced panic attacks that paralyzed me and filled me with shame? I wondered what my future would look like. Was I doomed to be dependent on a counselor to manage my stress?
I spent the better part of two years in counseling, dealing with baggage and pain from my past. Heart palpitations, night sweats, teeth grinding, stomach pain, headaches, and depression ruled my days. I was stressed. Facing my past seemed terrifying, my present was uncertain at best, and my future appeared dim. Stress was strangling me and threatened to never let go.
Although Id studied stress reduction techniques in school, I had not learned to apply them to myself. The demands of life set the bar high and I set the bar even higher. I beat myself up for struggling under the weight of it all. It was not until I completely offered my heart and mind to the Lord, like Tracie helps us do, that healing began to wash over me.
Do you struggle with stress too? Have you tried countless remedies only to end up defeated and overwhelmed? Speaking from a personal and a professional viewpoint, stress can be dangerous. Prolonged stress can lead to high blood pressure, asthma, skin conditions, diabetes, depression, anxiety, and more! In fact, many long-term mental health concerns can be traced back to chronic and unaddressed stress reactions. As a counselor, I work with individuals to help them develop healthy coping skills and stress reactions. We also work to address the issues that lie underneath stress, such as pain from the past, present circumstances, time management concerns, and environmental factors. However, the most important thing we can do while attending to the stress in our lives is to take it to the Lord.
Matthew 11:28 (NIV) tells us, Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.
Anxious thoughts and tendencies can steal our joy. The Lord, however, came that we might have abundant life. His plan for us includes peace and rest in his presence. Even if all the deep breathing techniques in the world continue to leave us feeling breathless, we can turn to the Lord.
Thats why Im so excited about this book! Tracie shares Gods transforming truths with you from a vantage point of having lived each and every word she shares. Shes felt bound by stress and life circumstances and understands what stress can do to our bodies. Best of all, she has found freedom in Christ. If you have lived the last few days, months, or even years bound by stressthis book is for you. You will see yourself in the stories Tracie shares, find hope in the Word of God, and be challenged towards growth by the questions at the end of each chapter.
The day my confidence walked out on me, God stayed by my side and did not leave me there alone. He wants to do the same for you, too! If you feel wrecked by stress and circumstances, its time to move forward and embrace Stressed-Less Living in Christ.
Stephanie Clayton has a passion for integrating Bible teaching with professional counseling. She has a masters degree in counseling and a bachelors degree in psychology. She serves on the Online Bible Studies team and Gather and Grow team with Proverbs 31 Ministries and writes at www.stephanieclayton.org.
Introduction
Do you ever feel like life has you by the jugular, choking out your every breath? Do you wake up each morning feeling exhausted emotionally and physically, wondering whether you can make it through another demanding day? Do you ever struggle with feelings of hopelessness or helplessness?
Do you sometimes feel like you are a ticking time bomb, liable to explode or implode if one more stressful thing happens in your life? Do your friends and family walk on eggshells around you, in fear that they may say or do something that will set you off?