Anne Berube - The Burnout Antidote: A Spiritual Guide to Empowerment for Empaths, Over-givers, and Highly Sensitive People

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The Burnout Antidote: A Spiritual Guide to Empowerment for Empaths, Over-Givers, and Highly Sensitive People 2022 by Anne B rub .

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Names: Brub, Anne, author.

Title: The burnout antidote : a spiritual guide to empowerment for empaths,

over-givers, and highly sensitive people / Anne Brub.

Description: First edition. | Woodbury, Minnesota : Llewellyn Publications,

[2022] | Includes bibliographical references.

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aspects. | Caregivers. | Empathy.

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Disclaimer

The exercises and advice in this book are not intended to replace the care of licensed medical or mental health professionals. Please consult a doctor if you are experiencing a mental, emotional, or physical crisis.

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Contents

List of

Burning Out

Redefining Burnout, Service, and Empathy

Step One: Embodiment and Core Essence

Step Two: Guilt and the Inner Childs Fear of Losing Love

Step Three: Who Were You Before You Were Needed?

Step Four: Find the Great Mother and Father Within

Step Five: Reclaim Your High Sensitivity and Set Boundaries

Step Six: Realize the Power of Your Core Essence

Step Seven: Embodied Leadership and Your Emergent Future

: Beyond Burnout

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Exercises

Burnout Antidotes Step One:

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Burnout Antidotes Step Two:

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Burnout Antidotes Step Three:

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Burnout Antidotes Step Four:

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Burnout Antidotes Step Five:

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Burnout Antidotes Step Seven:

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Introduction

Burning Out

This book is for anyone who over-gives and depletes themselves in the process of serving their families, clients, patients, or communities. It is for those who find it difficult to ask for or receive the care and protection they need. Its paradigm-shifting, promising a new way of engaging the spirit of service that is energizing, fulfilling, and meaningful. Rather than feeling drained, you will find emotional freedom and empowerment through your innate gifts.

To know where we are going, we need to understand where we came from.

We have come to know ourselves not through the essence of our core, but as a series of fragmented representations of who we think we should be. We lose ourselves as we strive to meet expectations that are not our own, and our point of reference shifts from internal to external. Living outside of ourselves, we are disembodied. We have disconnected from our spiritual spring of unlimited energy and are operating from a finite source.

When we engage in selfless service from a place of disconnection we cant truly be fulfilled. This is the root of our suffering. We will be hounded by the feeling that something is missing in our life. We might also feel alone and unsupported, and the lack of reciprocal care leads to feelings of resentment and betrayal.

Why do we tolerate this? Why not change our behavior and environment when faced with mounting evidence that were being harmed? Why do we not allow ourselves to heal? Over the past decade, through coaching and workshops, I have had the privilege of accompanying thousands of people on their journey to soul-realization. Time and again, I have seen women and men who are on the cusp of personal progress or emotional healing, only to find themselves held back by the erroneous belief: I am not enough.

Combined with our innate impulse for selfless service, this limiting belief becomes incredibly damaging. People who are highly sensitive and predisposed to over-give become resentful, discouraged, disillusioned, and even ill. Others, more prone to putting up protective walls, might adopt narcissistic tendencies as they disconnect from others feelings entirely.

I am not enough implies that I am not worthy of love, and therefore my needs and desires are not a priority. For many of us, this belief has been ingrained in our bodies since childhood. Different circumstances, which we will explore more in depth this book, brought us to put our needs aside to tend to the needs of our caregivers and people around us who needed us. This has brought us to place our reference points for our identity outside of ourselves, leaving traces of this disconnection from our core in the tissue of our bodies. We have carried these patterns with us into adulthood and our unconscious habits keep this self-neglect intact. This pattern can also be passed down through generations. Sometimes it is the conditioned belief of our ancestors, various form of I am not worthy of love , that is passed down, that we are called to examine, heal, and eradicate from our lineage going forward.