Cyndi Dale - Energetic Boundaries: How to Stay Protected and Connected in Work, Love, and Life

Introduction

Though imperceptible to the naked eye, our energetic boundaries mean the difference between experiencing an enjoyable, prosperous, and loving life or suffering through a sad, limited, and unhappy existence. They separate what we need from what we dont, selectively letting into our lives only those energies, people, guidance, thoughts, situations, opportunities, and healing that bring our spiritual essence further into our real lives. They also go a step further and purposefully seek out and draw in everything we need to achieve our hopes and dreams.

Our energetic boundaries border our spiritual selves and promote our true nature, which is one of the reasons I often call them spiritual borders. We long to express this inner identity, and establishing the correct energetic boundaries will help us do just that. When created and managed correctly, they make sure that our real selvesnot the ideas, thoughts, and beliefs that arent usare in charge of our lives. And they share information with the world, telling everyone exactly who we are, what we want, and how they can treat us.

Maybe you didnt even know you needed to craft invisible parameters to keep yourself safe and intact. As you read this book, youll discover that not only must you have these boundaries, but also that having them improves your life dramatically. Youll come to rely on your new force field to the point that you wont leave homeor come homewithout turning it on.

Those of us lacking these boundaries or operating with damaged boundaries often fall prey to marauders: people who, wittingly or not, take advantage of us; situations that fell us over and over; and depressing behavior patterns that leave us feeling much less happy, loved, supported, fulfilled, respected, and provided for than we deserve. Quite simply, without boundaries, we cant share who we are with the world. We wont receive the bounty the world has to provide, either.

The symptoms of energetic-boundary issues range from the irritating to the traumatic. They can include:

At least two-thirds of the individuals Ive seen in my intuitive-counseling practice have lacked energetic boundaries or had damaged boundaries. But by erecting and/or healing these borders, they have grown leaps and bounds.

One woman, unemployed for two years, received three job offers within a month.

A good-looking young man who hadnt been in relationship for five years met a woman within a week. He wrote me after six months and told me that they were now living together in total bliss. (Yes, bliss!)

A young mother of three autistic or attention deficit disorder (ADD) spectrum children reported that she was able to maintain her cool, and that all three children, whom she had helped set energetic boundaries, were now attending a normal school.

A young child who couldnt sleep was suddenly able to get a full nights sleep. Her teddy bears and scary things under the bed stopped talking to her.

An elderly man with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS) transformed the illness and began living symptom free.

And every person reported a greater ability to make more personally satisfying decisions; avoid or transmute bad-energy situations; establish and maintain healthier relationships; create more wealth and abundance; eliminate or mitigate addictive, depressive, or anxious tendencies; discern and follow their intuition; and enjoy life to the max.

I know that every time I generate an appropriate energetic boundary, I not only feel better, but my life also improves. People treat me better. Im struck with flashes of insight. The words I need flow through me. My parenting improves. I attract the money or opportunity that creates a joy out of a struggle. My health gets better, or at least Im led to the solution for my health concern. I even make more effective stock and investment decisions, because Im able to tune out others negativity and stick with my own inner wisdom.

Setting healthy energetic boundaries for yourself will take some work, but the effort is well worth it. Every stage of the work increases your exposure to light and joy and decreases your exposure to sources of negativity and exhaustion. The ultimate goal is to align your spiritual borders so they more elegantly reflect your true spiritual essence. This alignment ensures that every layer and level of your being lets in supportive energy and keeps out negative energy.

Before getting to specifics, well briefly discuss the purpose, formation, and functions of energetic boundaries. Well also investigate seven boundary syndromes, common conditions that result from absent or damaged energetic boundaries, and Ill help you pinpoint the ones that might be inhibiting you. This discussion will help you pinpoint the reasons you have boundary issues, so you then know how to change your boundaries for the better. Along the way, exercises will help you establish healthy spiritual borders.

By the time you are done reading this book, you will be well on your way to safely building and creating a life thats nourishing and plentiful. In the end, to create our energetic boundaries is to claim the life we always knew that we should have, the life ready to share with those we love, the life secure in the good graces of the Divine. This is the life of our dreams; this is the life we guarantee ourselves through healthy energetic boundaries.