Andy Stanley - Up to You. Its Your Life, Choose Wisely

UP TO YOU
published by Multnomah Publishers, Inc.

2005 by Andy Stanley
eISBN: 978-0-307-56331-6

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

Stanley, Andy.
Up 2 U / Andy Stanley with Heath Bennett.
p. cm.

I. Christian life. I. Title: Up two you. II. Title: Up to you. III. Bennett, Heath. IV. Title.
BV4501.3.S733 2005
248.4dc22
2005006383

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CONTENTS

H ave you ever found yourself trying to justify something you really want to do but youre not sure you should? But whats wrong with it? you ask yourself. What can it hurt?

Or how about this one: If its not wrong, then it must be right. Right?

You arent alone. Most of usno, all of ushave used this line of reasoning at some point in our lives to talk ourselves into making a questionable choice. These questions come up frequently during our teenage years and into adulthood when so many of lifes decisions become our decisions and not Mom and Dads anymore. And thats the way we want it, right? But these questions dont get any easier to answer as we get older. The choices are just different.

So what do you do when the answers arent clear? When you want to do whats right, but the right choice is not so obvious. When you have to choose between a and b, but youre not sure what to do. Should I stay home or go to the party? Should I say yes and go out with him or not? Should I have fries with that or a salad? Questions that you deal with every week, many of which seem innocent but can have lasting repercussions.

So what is the answer? How can you know which direction to take, especially when both options seem right? Its hard, right?

Maybe youre asking the wrong questions.

I think Ive found a better one.

Not just better. The best.

The great thing is, its just one question.

Once you ask this question, then its all up to you.

L OOKING B ACK

We all make choices every day that determine what direction we are heading and where were coming from. Sure, some things we have no control over, but too often we point a finger at other people for our own dumb mistakes when we should be pointing back at ourselves. We make a bad choice and we pay the consequences.

Maybe theres one particular incident or even a whole year of your life that you want to forget about, to wipe away. You want to forget about it, you try to forget about it. But the consequences are still there. And for some reason you keep making the same mistakes over and over.

And yet your greatest regret could have been avoided had you asked yourself just one question and then acted on your conclusion.

A bit strong?

To think that one question could radically change the outcome of your choices may seem ridiculous. But I truly believe that regardless of whether it is a single event you regret or an entire chapter of your life that you wish you could do over, had you evaluated your options by asking this single powerful question, you would have avoided what may be your greatest ongoing source of pain. As you move through the pages that follow, you may find that this one question could change the trajectory of your entire life.

In fact, I believe this question is so important, I call it the Best Question Ever.

It is a question I ask more than once every day. It is a question that guided me through my late twenties as a single man. It is a question that has served me well through sixteen incredible years of marriage. It is a question I have taught my three kids to ask about every option that comes their way. They know it is the lens through which we evaluate every decision we make as a family.

Over the past twenty years I have had the opportunity to teach this principle to thousands of middle-school and high school students. Many of them are adults now with children of their own. Letters, e-mails, and conversations assure me that the Best Question Ever continues to serve as a decision-making filter for scores of these young adults.

When I share this one question with adult audiences, the response is nearly always the same: I wish I had heard this years ago. Translated: I could have avoided some regret if only

The Best Question Ever serves as a lens through which you can evaluate your options. It is a filter that casts things in their actual light. It is a grid that provides context for every decision. It is a question that will give you a whole new perspective on your dating life, your friends, and your stuff. And it will shed some light on issues the Bible doesnt specifically address.

But the Best Question Ever is not always an easy question to ask. It can be a bit threatening. It exposes so much about our hearts and our motives that it is, well, its just not an easy question to ask. Thats just one more reason why it is the Best Question Ever.

L OOKING A HEAD

Heres where were headed. The book is divided into six sections. First were going to talk about why this question is so important, and then look one by one at the areas of your life that will benefit from asking this one question. Take your time and really think about each of these sections. Each piece of your future is up to you and no one else, so dont cheat yourself by skipping parts. At the end of these sections there will be some questions to help you look at how your life has been up to this point and where you want