Daniel Shapiro - Negotiating the Nonnegotiable: How to Resolve Your Most Emotionally Charged Conflicts

Praise for Daniel Shapiros Negotiating the Nonnegotiable

Dan Shapiro has written a masterpiececlear, insightful, and practicalabout the most difficult and emotionally charged of negotiations: those that revolve around identity. Highly recommended!

William Ury, coauthor of Getting to Yes and author of Getting to Yes with Yourself

Daniel Shapiros Negotiating the Nonnegotiable is a modern masterpiece. Bold and compelling from the first page, he shines a light on the dark divisive forces of conflict while describing pathways toward peace and harmony through the power of reconciliation and affiliation. It is the ultimate proof that addressing conflict requires a courageous head as much as a collaborative heart. Every leader should read it and live by it.

Katherine Garrett-Cox, CEO, Alliance Trust Investments

Negotiating the Nonnegotiable is one of the most important books of our modern era. Dan Shapiro gives us a whole new set of tools to tackle our toughest disputesthose that threaten our identity. This brilliant book is innovative, practical, and exactly what we need in todays world.

Jaime de Bourbon de Parme, Ambassador of the Netherlands to the Holy See

Negotiating the Nonnegotiable is a fascinating read that gets to the core of all kinds of conflicts. Daniel Shapiro draws on his lifetimes work to examine processes that lead from discord to harmony and from war to peace. His book is a gripping account of how people of every persuasion can come together and find a new beginning. Anyone with an interest in the work of reconciliation, peace building, and conflict resolution should read this book.

Bertie Ahern, Former Prime Minister of Ireland 19972008; conegotiator of the Good Friday Agreement

As Commander of the NYPD Hostage Negotiation Team for over fourteen years, I have been involved in many dangerous nonnegotiable negotiations, where a tactical resolution often had to be realized. In Negotiating the Nonnegotiable, Dan Shapiro unlocks the strategies to reconcile strained relationships and find the hidden possibilities for resolution. An extraordinary book that will change your life.

Lt. Jack Cambria, Commanding Officer NYPD Hostage Negotiation Team (Retired)

Dan Shapiro has written a book that is at once both profound and practical, heartfelt and hopeful. At a time when one of our worlds most alarming fault lines is the growing polarization between individuals and groupsdivided by race, ethnicity, politics, religion, or classimmersion in his wisdom is a must for anyone trying to prevent or resolve these conflicts.

Matthew Bishop, senior editor of The Economist Group; cofounder of the Social Progress Index

No one has thought more deeply and creatively about the impact of emotions on conflict than Dan Shapiro. In Negotiating the Nonnegotiable, Dan draws on that depth of knowledge to develop a workable method that enables us to deal effectively with emotional conflicts that all too often seem nonnegotiable.

Jeswald W. Salacuse, Henry J. Braker Professor, the Fletcher School of Law and Diplomacy, Tufts University; author of Negotiating Life

A wise bookfull of experience, heart, and intelligenceit will give every reader insights to consider and plans to enact. We can hope that no conflict is intractable, thanks to this book. And it has great stories.

Susan T. Fiske, Eugene Higgins Professor of Psychology and Professor of Public Affairs, Princeton University

What a powerful book! Negotiating the Nonnegotiable is both entertaining and deeply enriching, with a comprehensive content and a diversity of examples from daily life and global contexts. I wish I would have known much earlier in life about the ideas in this book, including my vertigo syndrome! Shapiro provides us with a fabulous invitation to consistently trade disharmony for harmony.

Alain Robert, Vice Chairman, UBS Wealth Management

This fascinating book tells us a lot about the role of identity in international conflicts and how to bridge the divide. It expands our understanding of the political reconciliation in the international system.

Professor Yan Xuetong, Dean of the Institute of Modern International Relations, Tsinghua University (China)

Welcome to Negotiation 3.0! Dan Shapiro gives us new eyes through which to understand even the most difficult negotiationsand a powerful new tool kit to overcome them. Negotiators from both my own country of Japan and from around the world will be inspired by this important new text and will benefit immensely from it.

Jiro Tamura, Professor of Law, Keio University, President, Negotia Club (Japan)

In Negotiating the Nonnegotiable, part manual and part memoir, Dan Shapiro offers insight into negotiation and identity culled from an extraordinary career working on critical conflicts around the world. Negotiating the Nonnegotiable is sure to be required reading for diplomats and peace builders alike seeking more effective practice and a broader toolbox for solving seemingly intractable conflicts.

Nancy Lindborg, President, United States Institute of Peace

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Margaret, Betsy & Peter, and Susan,

for teaching me about

lifes one nonnegotiable: love.