Louise Allen - 20 Steps to Successfully Passing as a Woman in Public: A Crossdresser’s Companion

Welcome to our guide to successfully passing as a woman in public. And congratulations on your decision to live your life out of the shadows. We've helped so many people just like you, we're happy that we can offer some assistance in what can be one of the most challenging and yet rewarding things you may ever do.

We have combined years of training, expertise and experience of helping transvestites and transgender people to bring you the information, support and encouragement you need to live happy, fulfilled lives.

We can take on the role of your sister, your mum or your aunt - the friend who can guide you down the path towards womanly beauty. Biological women grow up with this support and take it for granted. But without it, you are likely to find your path strewn with difficulties. This is just part of a programme of support that can help smooth the way for you.

Our combination of talents works so well for you because we focus both on the inside and the outside. Jane's speciality is empowering you from the inside.

As a Clinical Nurse Specialist, specialising in sexual health needs, Jane has spent years working with transvestite and transgender people, then established her own support group, which has been running successfully since 2005. Jane's focus is on teaching you how to feel good about yourself, how to build the confidence and self-esteem that are crucial to success.

Louise's background is in fashion, and for many years she has run her own image consultancy, working primarily with transvestites and transgender people to develop their self-image, and establishing a specialist reputation in the field.

From Louise, you can learn not only how to dress as a woman but how to really flatter your body shape, how to choose the right colours and styles so you develop your own individual look - and it looks great.

This concise ebook covers the most important components of a truly feminine presence, appearance and beauty, distilled into an easy-to-read 'companion'. It will help you to cultivate the subtle feminine cues: the power of submissiveness, the charm of vulnerability and the guidance of your feelings.

You'll find easy-to-follow exercises, like visualisation, to enhance your feminine presence, and we'll show you how to access the confidence-boosting potential of positive thinking.

But this ebook is only a small taster of the help, advice and support we can offer you in our complete programme: 1001 Secrets of Feminine Cross Dressing.

You'll find out more about this comprehensive ebook and what it can do for you on our website www.transcafe.net. Drop by in your coffee break and find out how we can help you live a life of joy and happiness by releasing your inner woman.

If you're anything like most of the transvestite and transgender women Jane and I have worked with over many years, you dread the thought of going out as a woman and not passing.

The thought of leaving the safe haven of your own home to go out in public as a woman for the first time can be absolutely terrifying. Many of the women we've worked with have shared their experience of that first time, and the fear they felt, with their beautifully manicured hand on the front door, trying to open it and step outside.

Much of the anxiety the women experience when thinking about going out is a result of media stories, reporting assault or abuse from people who are, at best, rude and ignorant. That anxiety makes it so much more difficult to take your first step.

Another common factor is the concern many t-girls share about how to cope with those looks they are likely to receive from people who have noticed that the body underneath does not match the clothes. This can be an agonising time.

You worry that they are going to laugh at you or that you will run into someone you know and they will ridicule you in some way, which can be really painful when it occurs.

So whether you cross dress, are a transvestite or transgender, passing as a woman is a real concern. But the first thing to reassure you is that you are not alone: one in ten men is estimated to cross dress at some point in their lives. And there's plenty of support at hand.

After all our years working with many transvestites and transgender people from all walks of life, we've discovered there are some key things that really affect every t-girl's appearance in public.

The good news is that we've identified these main areas that can make all the difference between a failed misadventure and your wonderful passing. These are key secrets that you can use today, out in public, to help you pass more effectively as the beautiful woman you want to be.

You see, Jane and I have worked within the trans community for years now. You'd be amazed how many trans women do struggle with the fundamental issue of passing as a woman. So with all our work on image construction we felt it was important to offer a book to help as many people as we could with this process.

The definitive prize for a cross dresser is to achieve that feminine status and be taken as a genetic woman in the wider community. Passing is a real buzz; it means you have achieved the ultimate goal. You're a woman now!

This book is intended for the trans community in general so will be equally useful for anyone who is looking for support with passing as a woman, whatever their reasons. That includes all kinds of different profiles, and each one is individual.

Cross dressing in female clothes can involve anything from a man dressing in women's clothes all the time to someone who simply enjoys cross dressing occasionally. It may be in public or only in private. Many transvestite men just like the feel of something soft against their skin and find it calming and reassuring.

Wearing women's underwear underneath that business suit could be enough to help you get through a difficult day. Or perhaps your idea of relaxation may be slipping into a silk nightdress when you get home in the evenings. At the other end of the scale, there are men who choose to dress as a woman all the time. Whatever your preferences, you'll find helpful advice here.

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Think about why you dress as a woman and how it makes you feel. Focus on the positives, not the negatives.

Your success rate in passing as a woman in public is, perhaps not surprisingly, dependent on your femininity. But contrary to what some men understand, being feminine is much more than just the clothes you wear.

It encompasses everything from body language and voice pitch to how to conduct yourself socially - and a number of other factors that we will cover in this booklet.

So what are the crucial things to remember? How do women behave? How do you get outside the front door for the first time dressed in female clothing?

If you are forty, would you need to act and dress in the same way a forty-year-old woman would when out in public, so as to not bring any unwanted attention to yourself?

We'll help you answer these questions, beginning with a look at what femininity is all about and how to achieve it.

The first thing to learn is that one of the most crucial elements of your femininity is your psychological 'posture'.

Although gender roles have changed drastically over the past few decades, it remains true that society still defines some characteristics as essentially masculine or feminine.

Much of it dates back to the Victorians (men don't cry, for example) but some of it is just plain cave man - or woman. Even so, you'll recognise a great deal of truth in these generalisations.