Charlotte Kane - Good Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Losing Inhibition

a womans guide to losing inhibition

by

Charlotte Kane

Good Sex

a womans guide to losing inhibition

by

Charlotte Kane

New Tradition Books

ISBN 1932420541

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Copyright 2006 by Charlotte Kane

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Disclaimer: This book is not intended to replace medical advice or be a substitute for a psychologist. The author and publisher expressly disclaim responsibility for any adverse affects of this book. Neither author nor publisher is liable for information contained herein. It is up to the reader to take precautions against sexually transmitted diseases. Always practice safe sex.

For the lovers.

We all know the saying, better than sex. Some people say that chocolate is better than sex. Others say that bungee jumping is better than sex. Still others claim that drugs are better than sex. Supposedly, there are a lot of things out there that are better than sex. However, I never use this phrase because, to me, there is nothing better than good sex. And in my opinion, people who use this phrase probably have never had good sex.

Isnt it time you did?

Sex to me is about getting off and doing whatever feels good, which, in turn, releases tension and makes life good. When the sex is good, everything is in tune, and everything is engagedyour soul and your heart and your body and just everything. You feel every single part of your body at once and theres nothing like it.

Whats also great about good sex is that when you are having it regularly, life seems a little less heavy and a bit easier to deal with. Your problems are just problems and not the sum-total of who you are. This is why everyone loves sex; it just makes a person feel so good.

However, good sex isnt that easy to come by. If it were, wed all be having it right now instead of reading books about having it. Things get in the way of good sex. For instance, we get stressed and push sex to the back of our minds. After all, sex rates low on the totem pole of important matters, doesnt it? Its not that important. Its not something we have to do. Its not something we need, right? Its just something we do from time to time that feels good and then we usually forget about it until next time.

But we dont really forget about it, do we? For many, it can be weeks or even months between sex. During those weeks or months, we start to feel funny, different. We start to wonder whats wrong with us, why we dont want it like we used to. Our inhibitions start to rear their ugly little heads and after a while sex becomes nothing more than a chore. Why bother? Theres always something else we can do instead.

And thats what this book is about. Its about freeing yourself to get to that better sex and having that better sex. During the course of this book, I am going to talk about some things that usually arent discussed. I believe the most inhibiting factors for most people with sex are repression and the distractions of everyday life and not lack of ideas or positions.

However, in addition to the talk of inhibition and repression, I am going to give suggestions about things you can do to rev your sex life up. Hopefully, this will be an instructional book for you. It might open a new door or two for sexual adventure, but then again, it might open your eyes as to why your sex life isnt where you want it to be.

One last thing, I am not going to spend time on sexual diseases and pregnancy. I assume youre an adult if you bought this book and most adults already know about this stuff. If youre one of the very few that doesnt, just know that you can contract diseases from sexAIDS, etc Also, women can get pregnant when they have sex. Always use a condom and/or some other form of birth control. This is important stuff, so be aware. And always be careful. And its never a bad idea to get an AIDS test with or without your partner.

Keep in mind that I am just an ordinary person and not an expert and these are only my experiences and opinions. You do not have to replace your opinions for mine. What follows are just suggestions that you might choose to incorporate into your sex life. Its up to you what to do with the information. For me, sex has been an ongoing learning experience. I have learned how to enjoy it and lose my own inhibitions bit by bit. Its about the stuff that I needed to know and work through that no one ever told me about. These experiences are what I want to share.

In the end, its not really about how you do it; its just about doing it and having a good time while youre doing it. Once you can sort through the murk that muddles up your mind, you can get to the better sex that surely awaits you. And once you can do that, not only will your sex life improve, but your life as well.

I am just an everyday, ordinary married person who wanted to write a book on good sex. One of the reasons was because in my earlier days, I didnt have good sex. In fact, the sex was somewhat mediocre. And it wasnt anything my partner was doing or not doing; it was what I was doing or, rather, not doing. Sex never appealed to me in the way it appealed to the characters I had read about in trashy novels and it didnt make me weak in the knees. Sex was just sex and it was, at best, something I did a few times a month with my husband. I didnt look forward to it and I certainly didnt daydream about it. In fact, I just didnt care that much about sex, period. Moreover, if I could get out of it, I would.

I didnt know that things were about to change and they changed when I discovered sexual freedom. It was a gradual change but quite an effective one. And all it took was me confronting my issues and dealing with them. Once I did that, my mind opened up. Not only did I want to have sex with my husband more often, but I found that the sex was unbelievably hot. I finally understood what all the fuss was about. Sex was good! Sex was great! Sex was worth putting the effort into! It was so good, in fact, that I began to wonder if others had gone through what I had gone through and if they, perhaps, might benefit from my findings.

When I first began contemplating writing this book, I thought about the reasons why I should and how I had gotten to the point in my life that I am at now. I also wondered what I could accomplish with a book about good sex. One of the first things that popped into my head was the fact that none of the so-called good sex books out there ever touched on subjects that were hindrances in my own life. They never talked about the issues behind the lack of libido or the reasons why we need good sex books to begin with. It was all about the proverbial different position or the strawberry in the champagne. It was more about putting on a show than about digging deep.

I didnt want to do that. One reason why is because everyone has done that. I also thought that these books glossed over issues. They never seemed to get to the root causes of why we develop a lack of passion once were in a relationship or, more importantly, why we never developed a passion for sex in the first place. Therefore, I wanted to write a book that would not only give suggestions to good sex, but help with underlying issues that are relevant but always seem to get overlooked.

Thats when I came up with the gist of what would become Good SexA Womans Guide to Losing Inhibition. When I discuss the things that I do in this book, Im coming from a very personal place as these are issues Ive dealt with. For instance, when I was growing up, I had a very controlling mother who didnt teach me about sex but who taught me that sex was bad. After I got married, I found myself in a severe sexual slump and didnt know how or why I had gotten there. Not surprising, Ive found that there are a lot of other people out there who have dealt with the same issues Ive dealt with. It was only through years of personal introspection did I come to the conclusions that are in this book.