Anders Martinez - DAYGAME: The no-bullshit guide to meeting women in real life and mastering the art of daygame (daygame, seduction, get girls, pick up, game, truedaygame)

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We are not scientists or psychologists, just ordinary men with a passion for women. Everything in this book is based on our own experiences. The methods and strategies that we describe has worked for us and a lot of men around us. While we do not take responsibility for someone else's actions inspired from this book. The book should be read with an open mind. It does not appeal to everyone, and we are aware of that. The book is aimed for heterosexual men, to help men who want to be better at attracting women. With that said, of course, everyone is welcome to read the book. We hope to contribute with new insights in an area few people know about.

Youre walking around town, running errands and what not, and suddenly that feeling in your stomach that you know too well comes to life and in an instant you know exactly whats going on.

But if youre not like most men - If youve chosen to act on the opportunities that life gives you - then you gently stop her and tell her the truth of your feelings and, god willing, leave her with a plan to meet again.

Lets make one thing clear; life is rough, were all born with some advantages and disadvantages, some more than others, and on top of that life itself hands us plenty of blows as we grow up and god only knows what horrors awaits us after that.

Its no wonder then that many people reach their 30s and 40s (and so on) with resentment and bitterness over dreams that never came true and for settling for a life far below that of their plans.

To live is to fail. But we can learn and grow, change and adapt. We can never avoid failure, but we can increase our wins. In fact, if youre reading this, you already know this and have decided to take action to learn and do better. Youre awesome.

Courting women is hard. Its designed to be hard by nature, because nature doesnt want you to procreate unless youre worthy. And so evolution, in particular our branch in the evolutionary tree, have come up with the concept of gendered courtship as an extra mechanism for filtering out those who arent worthy. It might sound cruel, but given that natures first trick to filter out the unworthy is to kill them, casting unworthy males into unwanted celibacy is quite the step up.

Of course this is simplifying evolution (and later on well be dabbling with ideas from evolutionary psychology, so we might as well add that to the list, too) to an embarrassing degree but were not giving you a biology lesson but telling you a truth you already know: its not easy to court women.

Thats actually good to know, because once you accept it as fact, as part of natures way of testing whether youre worthy, you can stop wallowing in self pity and instead focus on passing the damn test.

Well get to how to do that later, for now we want to focus on the reality for most men. Courting women is a test of ones character and so the easy thing to do is to aim low and avoid challenges that might expose your ego to the world.

Exposing your ego to the world is another thing that well talk about later, but for now all you need to know is that if youve ever had the misfortune/opportunity of doing something or having something done to you that made you feel like a complete, irredeemable loser, then that was your ego being exposed to the world.

Women rejecting you is nature telling you that youre not enough, that you need to grow and change. Its mortal stabs at your ego. Most men avoid that, and instead of working to become all that they can be, they settle and find themselves women who are avoiding their need to change in order to become all that they can be.

Again we must stress: Life is tough, our time is limited and our capacity to learn is restricted. We must all make compromises and prioritize what we spend our energy on. Were really not blaming anyone for their misfortunes and regrets.

The reason why were stressing this point is because you must be ready: if youre looking to change then you must embrace the burning fires of rejection. You must accept reality as ranking higher than your ego. Which means your ego will be demolished over and over again, like waves crashing against a cliff. Most people want reality to conform to them, but it never does and so they close their eyes to it. But those who want to change understand that they must conform to reality and change and mold themselves until they are fully accepted.

Which, to add even more to the negative, never happens. You will never be fully accepted by nature. You will never reach a state of perfection where all your wishes and dreams come true. But if you accept the reality of change, work hard to improve yourself and have the luck of good health you will reach peak moments where all the forces of nature seem to finally be conspiring to make your life as awesome and wonderful as it can be. But those moments never lasts because the world is constantly changing and, as the Red Queen in Alice in Wonderland* says you need to run as fast as you can, just to stay in the same place.
As such, in order to embrace change you need to grow comfortable with it and fall in love with the process of learning and adapting, because you will never be a finished product, you will never be perfect because perfection is a rainbow: something to aim at but which can never be reached.

It might seem dull, but these are your only options: forever exposing your ego to the painful process of death and rebirth, but in turn getting moments of glory and meaning and a real shot at achieving your dreams, or; living in a safe bubble where your ego is never exposed to danger, but in turn seeing yourself fall behind and having your dreams and goals fail on you. Pick your poison.

Nobody expects you to change, because nobody expects you to go through the trials of flame, and, for most of the time, theyre absolutely right. Most men dont change. Most men dont adapt. Most men dont act.