Georgia Ivey Green - How To Set Up An FLR: A Couple’s Guide To Female Led Relationships

How To Set Up An FLR

A Couple's Guide To Female Led Relationships

by Georgia Ivey Green

Copyright 2013 by Georgia Ivey Green

Published by Georgia Ivey Green

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Table of Contents

Foreword

Today, more and more couples are turning to female led relationships (FLRs) as a means of improving their lives together. Switching roles is not all that is required and so many of these relationships are doomed to fail because they ignore the sexual aspects of such a relationship. If you want your FLR to succeed, you must be ready to commit to it. This book will show you how to make the transition successfully.

Forget what you 'think' you know about FLR's. If your only knowledge comes from the Internet, you may have been seriously misled. The Internet presents dominant women as cruel, sadistic, whip-carrying, leather clad, women in spiked heels. And the men a sniveling worms who spend their time groveling at the feet their Mistress. But that is NOT reality! The reality is that most couples engaged in an FLR are normal people just like you and me. The only difference is that there is a woman leading her husband (or family) through life. Yes, there may be a degree of BDSM involved, but it may be nothing more than a little bedroom bondage or the fact the male partner wears a chastity device part of the time. So, before you reject this book simply because of the stereotypes you see on the Internet, give it a chance. You may be surprised.

The whole point of this entire book is to help couples (married, co-habitating, or just dating) to find a way to improve their overall relationship. It is not the goal of this series to dictate to anyone that one type of relationship is better or worse than any other. It is assumed that you are reading this book for much the same reason, you want to make things better. Whether you are a man or a woman makes no difference as this book has been designed to help you find whatever it is that is missing, lost, or you never knew existed. It is best if both partners read this book. Whether you read it together or individually makes little difference. Once you have both read and understand the principles in this book, it is hoped that you will be able to move forward in your own relationship avoiding the most common mistakes.

As I said before, it is assumed that you are reading this book because you are either curious, or you seriously want to improve your relationship, and one or both of you would seriously like (or think you would) a female led relationship. It is also assumed that, at some point in your relationship, everything was wonderful. You and your partner seemed so completely compatible, rarely disagreed about anything, and could almost read each others thoughts. We call that love. Though love is not necessary for two people to form a lasting and healthy relationship, a loving bond of one form or another, generally develops. This book is about loving relationships.

Your relationship may have started out, as most couples do and have for thousands of years, as a male dominated relationship, but because of certain biological (and/or mental) differences between men and women, that relationship isn't working the way it is supposed to work. Or, at least, not the way you thought it should work. Maybe you thought you were going to have one of those idyllic relationships where both partners share in all the decision making. That is to say, you were equal partners. But that did not work out so well either. But that doesn't mean that you can not work things out and improve your relationship for the better by moving a little more toward an FLR type of relationship.

There is no one answer for everything or everyone. This book will guide you, as a couple, or as an individual, to find exactly what it is that you need (or desire) in order to form a more perfect, loving relationship. You will be shown variations that you may have never thought of on your own. It will help you increase your communication skills, build confidence, and hopefully, guide you down whatever path is best for you as a couple. Once you complete this book and honestly answer the questions, you will be armed with all the information you need to improve your life and set up a whole new way of life in a female led relationship.

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Chapter 1: Types of Relationships

Whether your current relationship is male or female led makes no difference at this point. What is important is what type of relationship it is. Basically there are four types of relationships as outlined below. It is not really important what type you currently have if it is not really working as well as you would like, but where you ultimately end up is important because the ultimate goal is to bring you both closer together so that you can lead happier, healthier, lives. I won't get into particulars but happier people are generally healthier people.

Though this series is aimed at those who want to explore a female led relationship, the information you will obtain from the questionnaires will help you in creating whatever type of relationship that best suits you and your partner, whether that be female or male led or an equal partnership.

Basically, the ideas laid out in this book can be applied to any relationship between two partners whether straight, gay or lesbian, male led or female led. Even if you just want some pointers on how to improve the relationship you already have, this book can help. Honesty, fidelity, and open communication are the foundation of any strong, healthy relationship. The establishment of a well thought out, negotiated, agreement can certainly improve the stability of any type of relationship no matter who leads it.

One thing you should keep in mind while reading this book. Even though it was written by a woman, the things (yes, including chastity) that I discuss can be adapted to work in any Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship. Though a woman can't very well wear a male chastity device, there are female chastity devices that she can wear. So even though this is written from a female prospective, and is basically aimed at those who want to try an FLR, it still applies to any type of relationship. As far as the BDSM parts go, you are only as kinky as you are. No one says you have to do anything. In fact, I recommend doing only those things you are personally comfortable doing. As your relationship grows, so may your desire to experiment with other BDSM activities. Thus, you have something to which you can refer in the future.

If you think you would not want to be involved in a D/s relationship, let me assure you that you already are, in one form or another. If either you or your partner takes a leading role in your relationship, then you are in a D/s relationship. If you have children, you are in a D/s relationship with them. They are (or should be) submissive to you. If you have a job with a boss, you are in a D/s relationship. I hope you can see where all this going. Almost everyone in the world is in a D/s relationship of one kind or another. So don't fail to read the parts of this book that deal with D/s simply because you think you don't want that kind of relationship.

As I said before, there are four basic types of relationships and I have outlined them below.

The Co-op:

In a Co-op, both partners have an equal say in what happens. That is to say, neither partner would run out and purchase a car without first consulting the other. There would be discussions about where the money was to come from, how much they are both willing to spend, and what the car is to be used for. In addition, there might even be discussions about the brand of automobile to purchase, the exact model and even the color it should be. In a Co-op, most of the household chores would also be divided taking into account such things as who has the most free time, how long is each chore expected to take, and who is better suited to doing certain chores. Things like mowing the lawn, trimming the weeds and shrubs, raking leaves, etc. might be left to the stronger of the pair. While chores such as washing dishes, taking out the garbage, and sweeping and mopping floors, take less physical effort, and are usually done more often. Things like the preparation of meals might be equally shared.