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CHAPTER ONE

Advice From a Friend

Its not unusual for a couple to feel like their marriage has become stale after five or six years. Its also not uncommon for one or both of them to think the whole marriage is a mistake and to start asking recently divorced friends what lawyer they used. Thats what Vicki Harrow did. She made a lunch date with her best friend from college and asked her for her advice.

Vicki and her friend Carole sat in a small corner booth sipping their wine and happily chatting about nothing in particular. After a few minutes Vicki leaned forward and lowered her voice, Theres something I really need to talk to you about.

What is it? asked Carole.

Its Mike and me. I feel like maybe we made a mistake getting married said Vicki.

Are you serious? I thought you guys were fine. What happened? asked Carole.

Vicki started talking faster, I dont know really. Its more like nothing has happened and thats the problem. Theres just not any electricity anymore. Hes either working or watching sports on TV. He spends time with his buddies watching sports at our house or at theirs. I seem to be either working or doing housework or whatever. My life just feels unsatisfying or flat or I dont know, just sort of empty in a way.

Do you think hes cheating? asked Carole.

I thought of that. I went online to read about the signs a guy is cheating. You know, the stuff like being out at night or on weekends without explanation, suddenly trying to buff up, strange calls and text messages, all that stuff. But thats not happening. Nothing like that has changed. Its like were both living on autopilot, doing all the same things week after week, said Vicki.

So hes not cheating and I know you arent either or this would be a different conversation. They both laughed. How are things in the bedroom? asked Carole.

On a scale of one to ten, Id say a two or three. Its a routine now, its all the same moves and I swear its all over in less than five minutes. Sometimes way less. More laughter.

Im sorry, I dont mean to laugh but weve all been there, girl. Carole continued, So what are you going to do?

I dont know. Im getting so unhappy. I thought about an affair but its so wrong to do that and I would have the worst guilt for doing something behind his back. Maybe we should both cut our losses and get divorced. I dont know. I dont think Mike is very happy either. What do you think I should do, Carole? Vicki asked.

Do you still love him? asked Carole.

With no hesitation Vicki said, Yes. I do love him and I dont want to hurt him. I just dont think either of us is very happy; I know Im not.

Look, you guys always seemed like a good match and it sounds like Mike isnt doing anything really bad or unforgivable. I think if I were in your situation I would try to make it work before doing anything drastic. Sit down and talk about what is missing for both of you and what you can do about it. If I were to ask Mike whats missing from his marriage, what do you think hed say? asked Carole.

More sex. laughed Vicki.

Carole laughed, Right. Guys always say that. They never seem to want less, thats for sure. But if he wants more, why isnt he chasing you around the bed?

I wish I knew. Well, to be honest, Im not always interested so when he does try to initiate sex I dont always go with it. So he can tell I resist a bit. Maybe thats why he looks at porn more often lately said Vicki.

He looks at porn? asked Carole.

Sure. We used to watch a bit of porn together, you know, to get in the mood. Wed put in a DVD and watch some of the actors do their thing. I dont have a problem with that. Now we dont do it but I know Mike watches some on his computer. I guess its an outlet for him when Im not receptive. I feel guilty about that, but you know how it is, things need to be right to have good sex. Right? You know what I mean, dont you, Carole?

Sure. Its one thing to have a quickie with a one night stand, Carole said with a smile, But in a real relationship a woman always needs to know things are good between them for her to want lots of hot sex. She took a sip of her wine and added, But I have an idea. Why dont you take a look at exactly what kind of porn Mike is looking at? It might give you an idea of what he thinks hes missing.

Vicki looked puzzled, What hes missing? What about what Im missing?

Carole smiled, Look, its always a two-way street with these things. And if you discover what he craves or what he feels is missing in the marriage, you can use that as a bargaining chip to get what you crave. I dont mean it to sound like a business negotiation, but the fact is human nature is pretty easy to understand. In this case, a guy wants more or different sex than hes getting and if you can make that happen hell gladly give you what you want, as long as you know what that is. Do you Vicki? Do you know what you want out of your marriage?

Of course I do. I want what every woman wants. I want a happy, supportive, stable relationship said Vicki.

Carole smiled and gave her a steady look, Those are words, Dear. Tell me exactly what you want to be happy.

Vicki got defensive, I just told you. I wanta supportive and stable marriage.

Carole smiled, Look, I need to play devils advocate a bit here, thats all. Mike has a good job so he is supportive in a financial way and he doesnt play around so your marriage is stable. Just tell me exactly what he could do that would make your marriage better.

Vicki hesitated, then offered, He couldI dont know exactly. He could open up more.

Open up in what way? asked Carole.

Vicki seemed frustrated by the question, You know, talk about his feelings more I guess.

Carole reached across the table and put her hand onto Vickis, All Im saying is it sounds like youre not sure exactly what you want. So you cant really expect Mike to know what you want either. You two always seemed like a happy couple and a good match for each other. Maybe you shouldnt be thinking about giving up so soon. Maybe you should find ways to discover what you both want and then try to do whatever that is.

Vicki smiled, Carole, youre always so smart and sensible. Do you really think it could work?

Carole took another sip of her wine, Well, you never know until you try, but I think you have a good chance. Why dont you talk to him about the porn he watches and use that as a starting point to discover what hes getting from it? You two are both open-minded. There should be a way to sort this out and get what you want out of the marriage. If Im wrong youll still have the nuclear option of divorce.

They laughed. They finished their lunch and Vicki went back to work to mull over what they talked about. Caroles idea made sense. She had always been a good friend and had been through a rough divorce herself. Her ex was a real prick, though. He cheated and he got violent more than once. That was a divorce that needed to happen, so maybe Carole could spot a situation where some creativity and effort could save an otherwise good marriage.

The part about not expecting Mike to know what she wanted resonated with Vicki. How many times had she heard Mike say, Im not a mind-reader, you know? And what did she want? Could she write down in twenty-five words or less what would make her happy in her marriage? Happy. Stable. Supportive. Those were the words everybody uses but what are the actual things a person should say and do to make those part of daily life?