Ban Breathnach - Something more: excavating your authentic self

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A portion of this work was originally published in Good Housekeeping: pages 4650; 6971; and 231233.

Copyright 1998 by Sarah Ban Breathnach

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The real power of this work lies in [its] unpretentious sincerity and raw immediacy. Writing not as a guru but as a friend who has learned to cherish her past, Ban Breathnach is a friend indeed.

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A potent metaphor for self-discovery [a] practical work of inspiration for women who habitually place others needs before their own.

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