Cox - Hot sex: how to do it

A nyone can be good in bed. Genital size doesnt matter. Looks dont matter. You dont have to have legs up to your chin, arms like Schwarzenegger, drive a sports car, or be rolling in it to be the best lover your partners ever had. But you do need a good, working knowledge of your subject. And thats easier said than done.

Nearly everyone talks about sex. Were always boasting about how fabulous so-and-so is in bed and hinting at the real reason why we look so tired at work (nudge, nudge, wink, wink). But its a rare person wholl confess details or talk specifics. Jane might well confide that Brad gives the best oral sex shes ever had, but she doesnt launch into a lick-by-lick analysis of whyand I bet you dont ask for one.

Thats why we buy sex booksto find out the nitty-gritty details about things were too embarrassed to ask friends or lovers. Trouble is, few deliver what we really want to know. Sex manuals tend to gloss over the practical bread-and-butter stuff and, instead, talk in generalitieslike how women need clitoral stimulation and mens butts are a veritable hot spot. Great advice but, if you havent got the foggiest of what to do with it, useless.

This is where Hot Sex is different. Instead of assuming you know everything, Ive assumed you know nothing and have dished up all the gory details in an easy-to-follow, step-by-step format. The only way I could have been more explicit and specific is to be there in the bedroom with you, guiding your hands and whatever else youre using (and, to tell the truth, Id really rather not).

Thats not to say the book only deals with the basics. Experienced lovers will get loads out of Hot Sex because there are enough advanced tips, tricks, and techniques to keep even Annie Sprinkle happy. But I do suggest everyone read the introductory chapters. Very often its the people who think they know what theyre doing who need educating the most. Sex is a bit like typing. You can get by using two fingers, but youll never be as good as someone who did the secretarial course and practiced every night. Going back to the grassroots level, even if its just to check youre on the right track, isnt a bad idea for all of us. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise: sex skills can be learned and we can all improve on them.

Ive written the book using everyday language for similar reasons. The correct, technical terms sound terribly authoritative but if you dont know that a wet dream is actually called a nocturnal emission, you wouldnt have a clue what I was talking about if I used this term. Sometimes, the words I use arent even accurate. Most people say sperm when they actually mean semen, for instance. But, hey, if thats what you call it, thats what Ive called it a lot of the time because I want you to relate to what Im saying.