Block - O wow: discovering your ultimate orgasm

O Wow!

O Wow!

Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm

by Jenny Block

Foreword by Betty Dodson

Copyright 2015 by Jenny Block

All rights reserved. Except for brief passages quoted in newspaper, magazine, radio, television, or online reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying or recording, or by information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publisher.

Published in the United States by Cleis Press,
an imprint of Start Midnight, LLC,
101 Hudson Street, 37th Floor, Suite 3705, Jersey City, NJ 07302.

Printed in the United States.

Cover design: Scott Idleman/Blink

Cover photograph: iStockphoto

Text design: Frank Wiedemann

First Edition.

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Trade paper ISBN: 978-1-62778-146-6

E-book ISBN: 979-1-62778-148-0

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For Lacey

The sexual hunger of the female, and her capacity for copulation completely exceeds that of any male. To all intents and purposes,the human female is sexually insatiable

Mary Jane Sherfey,
The Nature and Evolution of Female Sexuality

It cannot be denied that the design of the human females reproductive system is far from what the standard narrative predicts, and thus demands radical rethinking of the evolution of female sexuality.

Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jeth,
Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality

Contents

Foreword

Betty Dodson

WHEN CARLIN, MY BUSINESS PARTNER, told me she wanted to add another woman to our already full Bodysex workshop, I complained as usual. Its a lot easier to run a smaller group because I can keep track of the women in the circle much more easily. Aesthetically, its more pleasing, and, Ill admit, Ive become a bit rigid in my old age.

Carlin urged me to allow Jenny into the circle because Jenny was writing a book about womens orgasms. She went on to explain that Jenny was one of the few young women blogging for the Huffington Post about sex. My first thought was that she was most likely a spoiled brat with a rich daddy who had made a sizable donation to our foundation.

As it happened, Jenny was adorable, extremely smart, and, although she remains married to a man and is a mother, she thoroughly enjoys sex with women and identifies as a lesbian. So, I had to admit, whats not to love?

Although Ive done these workshops off and on for forty-some years, Im always experimenting. So nothing is etched in stone. With this one, I announced that during our erotic recess, when everyone focuses on having as many orgasms as they desire, any woman wanting personal attention could just raise her hand and I would pull up alongside. Ive done this before, and while it takes a lot more energy, I also know its very effective.

Forty minutes into the masturbation ritual, Jenny raised her hand. She was on the opposite side of the circle, and since Im into conserving my energy, I simply crawled across the room on my hands and knees.

As I sat alongside Jenny, I immediately saw her problem. As she got close to orgasm, she arched her back. Wilhelm Reich referred to this as the Hysterical Arch, an unconscious response to control strong sexual sensations. I became aware of this pattern during sex parties in the 60s. Back then, I simply observed and said nothing unless I knew the woman very well.

With Jenny, I placed my hand just above her pubic mound and pressed down firmly using my weight. Then I began moving the Vaginal Barbell to get her pelvic thrusting to match her breathing, which I modeled by breathing out loud. Then I moved my hand and made a fist to apply pressure to her perineum.

When I saw she was right in front of an orgasm, instead of moving along to the next woman, I stayed with her to make sure she came for the sake of her book. Jenny was so happy; she immediately assisted the woman across the circle from her. Perfect, I thought. Thats how the sisterhood spreads from woman to woman.

Although this might sound wild or far out to many, its actually similar to having a dance instructor take you in her arms to perform the steps with you. However, because Im dealing with sex, everyone puts far more scrutiny on it rather than seeing it as a regular, everyday activity. In this way, we make sex seem shocking. After all these years, Im very aware of whats happening on several levels: the individual woman, the group, and my role as facilitator. While I treat this seriously as a teacher, I do so in a casual manner, often using humor to help normalize whatever sexual activity is taking place.

Because the workshops are a group activity, I didnt spend any alone time with Jenny. Since Carlin organizes the groups, shes the one who deals with each woman and has individual contact with them via email. When Carlin said Jenny was going to write up her experience for the Huffington Post, I groaned inwardlyso few reporters ever manage to get the essence of a Bodysex workshop. Its usually underreported or sensationalized.

When I read Jennys review, I loved it. She seemed so young to be such an accurate observer and experienced reporter of what took place. Both Carlin and I agreed that it was one of the best workshop write-ups wed ever gotten. Also, it unleashed a rash of publicity, and our numbers soared. Thats when I question why I bother to sound like Greta Garbo I want to be left alone. What I really mean is, Stop bothering me while I answer more questions from kids around the worldmy current obsession. After all, we are in the business of sharing positive sex information for girls and women, boys and men from around the world. So why wouldnt I welcome publicity?

Before finishing this current book, Jenny sent her first one: Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage. So I read it before this newest one. I liked the comment on the flap: Open challenges our notions of what traditional marriage looks like, and presents one womans journey down an uncertain path that ultimately proves that open marriage is a viable optionand one thats in fact better for some couples than conventional marriage. When I received her most recent book, O Wow! Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm, it was every bit as honest.

I am very impressed with this young womans personal honesty and ability to experience, as well as research and then report back to her readers in a very clear, organized manner. The experiences of this brave, outspoken young woman mirrored my sexual explorations during Americas sexual revolution in the late 60s and early 70s.

At the time, we were a handful of freaks who were openly sharing our orgasms and exploring what non-monogamy might look like. This was happening in a world that fiercely came in twos, like Noahs Ark. For women, faking orgasms was seen as simply having good manners. Back then, we were concerned about protecting a mans ego even if it meant sacrificing our own.

Then I got it! Jenny is one of my spiritual daughters. More accurately, she is my spiritual granddaughter. We have traveled similar paths searching for sexual equality, fulfillment, and happiness. First with ourselves! Then we can pass this information and knowledge on to our friends and lovers. I welcome Jenny to the sisterhood of sex-positive feminist warriors who are creating a path for our sisters, daughters, and mothers to follow, paved with the knowledge that sexual pleasure and orgasms are not only our birthright, but the basis for our social, physical, and spiritual healing.

CHAPTER

Decoding Female Orgasm