Michael E. Reid - Dear Woman Written

W RITTEN B Y: M ICHAEL E . R EID

E DITED BY: M ELONI C . W ILLIAMS

Published by: Dreams On Paper Entertainment Publishing

www.dopepublishing.com

T HIS BOOK BELONGS TO:___________________________

Dear Woman,

This is YOUR book.

With it, comes the responsibility to be a better woman.

Also a better friend, better daughter, better mother, better wife.

Not everything will apply.

What does: take with you for the rest of your life.

What doesnt: make sure it never will.

This book comes with an obligation

An obligation to not only be a better woman,

but also to build better women around you.

Do not take this duty lightly.

One day, your daughter will need friends.

Someday, your son will need a wife.

The best way to make sure they have the best opportunity to find beautiful women is for you to do your part in helping to build them.

May these words bring you great pleasure, great peace and great hope.

Respectfully,

Michael E. Reid

From the moment she was born, the one title that could never be taken away from her was Woman. It would be her first gift from the world and also her largest cross to bear.

Every time a child is born, it is a gift. It is a sign that God has not given up on the world. A sign that life must and most certainly will continue. When God decides to make that child a woman, the gift becomes even more specialspecial because women at their core are the guardians of our existence, the facilitators of life and the rawest example of pure, unmanufactured, unadulterated beauty that we have the pleasure of encountering in the entire universe. As deep as it may sound, it is most certainly a true statement.

This beauty is displayed in many different ways. From a womans shape, to the way she feels, her physical features, mental capacity and most certainly her emotional superiority. A woman is the worlds most prized possession and must be treated as such. While this is a job that can only be achieved by women accepting and perpetuating the challengeand men acknowledging itthe foundation must be laid from within.

It is imperative that all women understand that no one, man or woman, can accurately love you, until you love yourself first and more importantly, love yourself most.

Being a woman is an opportunity to be fearless and feminine, brave and beautiful, strong and sensitive. All at once. As a woman, you have the power to be both the target and the missile in almost any situation or environment.

We live in a world that puts women first and last. Historically, men have always treated women as their subordinate. The irony here is that the share of decisions men make, both long range and day to day, are in some way, shape or form, subconsciously or knowingly, for women. The million-dollar question is why? Ill get to that. For now, understand this:

Whether it be for their mother, the woman they desire, the woman they have or the woman they bring into the world themselvesthe cars men drive, the clothes men wear, a mans physical appearance, their desire for social status and just about anything else a man does are almost all done to impress some woman. Thats not up for debate. This gives a woman the opportunity to achieve the upper hand in almost any situation where her femininity is matched by a male presence.

But women please note: with great power, comes great responsibility. A responsibility to yourself, a responsibility to the world, a responsibility to your worldand everything you let in it. This a responsibility for you to protect yourself from anything that threatens your happiness, challenges your womanhood or attempts to make you feel like you have to be someone different than who you are. Period.

Before you were anything

You were a woman.

Before friend...

Before lover...

Before girlfriend, partner, wife or other...

You were woman.

Let no title,

whether it be manufactured by society

to define your existence in the world,

allow you to change whom you permit in your world.

The title of woman came before,

will never change during,

and most certainly will remain after.

You must never lose that title while in search for

or trying to maintain any other.

Woman is the crown

The titles are merely jewels.

In a perfect world, a woman receives her crown from her father, and her mother shows her how it is to be worn.

As a woman grows, she becomes more exposed to the world: to its rawness, its realness, its beauty, its pain. Along the way, she learns how to be a woman in that world. In a perfect a world, this is done at home. By watching her mother and father work together and raise their young woman. Letting the love they have for each other set the example for how she is to be treated.

In a perfect world, how a woman learns to be a woman, is by first observing how her father treats her mother. This is followed by how her mother reacts and subsequently reciprocates that love, attention, respect, and admiration back to him. If done correctly, a young woman will get a birds eye view as to what love means, what respect looks like and would have most of the necessary tools to prepare her for the real world.

Sounds good, right? The truth of the matter is that, sometimes, our world is not so perfect. Many of us live in what society calls broken homes. I am not a fan of labeling these homes as broken because whether we realize it or not, sometimes subconsciously our mind accepts these terms in a negative way. Sometimes they may cause us to feel guilt or shame about our family structure. While some young women may be wise enough to understand, some may not. Even if one child develops insecurity or self-worth issues because of a label she had nothing to do with creating, we have a problem.

The last thing you want from a child, especially a woman child, is for her to begin life believing that she is broken or thats she is a product of something that was broken, especially when the break happened well before her arrival.

Since were not using broken, I would argue to call these situations alternative homes. Nonetheless, many women have not had, do not have, and unfortunately will not have the opportunity to witness both of their parents in the home, laying the foundation of how she is to act and be treated. There are many reasons why this doesnt get to happen. It could be anything from death and divorce to a change of heart. In any event, the person who hurts most is the child. My heart goes out to each and every one of you.

If no else has yet, let me apologize on behalf of those responsible for you falling victim to this unfortunate circumstance. Furthermore, Im here to tell you that while it is indeed unfortunate, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. In fact, there is light in the tunnel.

1. Understand that it is not your fault. The same way having children doesnt bring families together, it doesnt tear them apart either. No matter what you think or how you feel, they did not work because of themnot you.

2. You are not alone! While your path to the crown is not ideal, it is most certainly still possible to achieve and actually pretty common. The solution being, you may just have to give yourself your own crown, and teach yourself how to wear it. Hey, look on the bright side, at least youll know it fits!