Christopher Canwell - Atomic Attraction: The Psychology of Attraction

ATOMIC ATTRACTION

The Psychology of Attraction

Christopher Canwell

Rampage Books

Atomic Attraction 2017 Christopher Canwell

This is a work of non-fiction. The information contained within this book is strictly for educational purposes. If you wish to apply the ideas contained in this book, you are taking full responsibility for your actions.

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Develop Attraction

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eISBN 978-1-9998722-7-4

First Published by Rampage Books in 2017

Throughout this book I have included many case studies to help provide a deeper understanding of attraction and how it works in real-life situations. These case studies are all based to some degree on events and scenarios I have witnessed. All names, locations, and personal information have been changed for obvious reasons. Any similarity to other people or events is purely coincidental.

Christopher Canwell has asserted his right to be identified as the author of this work in accordance with the Copyright, Designs, and Patents Act 1988.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Christopher Canwell is a psychologist who specializes in attraction and relationships. He works with clients around the world and is the founder of Develop Attraction (a popular website that shows men how to harness the power of attraction to get what they want in life and relationships).

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www.developattraction.com

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I owe a debt of gratitude to all the men Ive interacted with both professionally and personally over the years. Ive had the privilege to work with thousands of men, working together to help them solve their relationship problems. During this time, Ive seen both the best and worst of humanity. Ive seen men on the verge of suicide, Ive seen families torn apart, and Ive seen men restore relationships that in ordinary circumstances appeared broken beyond repair. Ive witnessed thousands of relationship problems, failures, and successes from which predictable patterns of behavior began to emerge. I came to realize that as humans we are all different yet we are all the same. We are plagued by the same fears, the same hopes, the same goals, and the same ambitions. Without the honesty and insight provided by my clients, I would not have been able to write this book. With that said, the case studies in this book are all based on true events. Only names, locations, and personal information have been changed with permission from the people involved.

From a little spark may burst a flame.

Dante

INTRODUCTION

As you read through this book, keep in mind that the information found within these pages is not for the faint of heart. Getting results is all that matters; and to get results, you must be willing to face reality no matter how uncomfortable that reality might be. And while love is an emotional state of being that is accompanied by feelings of comfort, safety, and warmth, youre about to discover that attraction is anything but safe or comfortablebuilding attraction is a process that is both challenging and unsettling. If, however, youre one of the few men who can summon the strength of mind to accept the truths buried deep within this book, your potential to get what you want in life and relationships is well within reach. And although there are many tricks and superficial strategies you can use to build attraction such as walking a dog, carrying a musical instrument, and even bearing physical scars to make yourself appear more attractivethis book is not about gimmicksthis book is about cutting through misconceptions to show you how to build real attractionattraction that leads to more dates, more sex, and more love.

With that said, there is the illusion that women need love and commitment for attraction to exist. Men assume they must court a woman and be sweet and kind to her to capture her interest and stand out from the crowd. There is the all too pervasive belief that women are non-sexual beings who only engage in sexual intercourse to please men. An outdated belief? Perhaps. But these misconceptions are still, to this day, propagated by millions of nice guys around the world. These nice guys live under the illusion that if they are just that little bit more supportive and kind they will be handed the keys to the kingdom and receive unlimited sexual access to women.

Furthermore, political correctness has without doubt taken a toll on modern relationships. We live in a world where men are now more afraid than ever to act like men. Over the past several decades there has been an undeniable shift in Western society towards political correctness, feminism, and the suppression of masculine behavior. You only have to look as far as Hollywood and the mainstream media to see evidence of this cultural shift on an epic scale. The message is clear: do the right thing; man up; be a nice guy; buy her gifts; buy her flowers; be chivalrous; women are more precious and deserving than men; men are the root of all evil; if men didnt exist, there wouldnt be any wars; if you want to have sex with a woman, youre both a pervert and a creep. Sound familiar? This refrain, sung en masse, has not only corrupted and corroded society, causing a massive gender imbalance, it has also given birth to a sociological phenomenon known as Nice Guy syndrome .

If you live in the developed world and youre reading this theres a good chance youre a nice guy. Youve been raised to honor and protect women. You dont want to hurt anyones feelings. You want a real and authentic relationship where you can love, honor, and respect a woman with the expectation that she will do the same for you in return. Theres only one problemyouve been sold a lie.

Men have moved so far away from their innate masculinity that theyve lost sight of what it takes to attract women and capture a womans interest. Its no surprise that approximately 50 percent of marriages end in divorce when the biological fabric of society has been ripped apart. When you stop behaving in a way thats true to your masculine self, you repel women and drive them away. And instead of falling for Mr. Nice Guy, that beautiful woman ends up in the arms of Mr. Not So Nice (someone less caring, less kind, but a lot more attractive).

Sigmund Freudthe famous Austrian neurologist and founder of psychoanalysisonce said, The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is what does a woman want? Now, thanks to modern research we can finally answer this question. What do women want? What turns them on? Who do they find attractive? And what makes a woman fall in love? We now have the ability to answer these questions, and, more importantly, understand what turns a woman on and off. Ever wondered why that beautiful woman keeps dating assholes and unsavory characters? The answer, which youll implicitly understand by the time you finish this book, is both surprising and counter-intuitive.

The world is full of misinformation and false prophets. It has become harder than ever to separate fact from fiction, especially where male/female relations are concerned. How do you deal with the inevitable tests, the unexpected withdrawals, the unresponsive behavior, and the inevitable loss of attraction that creeps into all relationships at some point in time? How do you meet a woman for the first time and generate attraction, and not only generate attraction but maintain it over the long-run? The purpose of this book is to answer all these questions by shining a light onto attraction so you can see it for what it is: your best friend or your worst enemy.