Growth into Manhood

This is a terrific book, loaded with fresh insights and practical encouragement for the man struggling to move into the fullness of his manhood. It goes beyond any other books Ive seen for the former homosexual in painting a clear picture of what mature and godly manhood really looks like and how it can be attained. I highly recommend this wonderful resource.

B OB D AVIES , executive director,
Exodus InternationalNorth America

Alan Medinger is one of the true sages of the Christian ex-gay movement. His life has been blessed by a hard-earned wisdom. In Growth into Manhood the reader is given the chance to learn what Alan knows about the qualities of character that define a mature man, about the practical steps a man can take to grow into his fullest potential, and about the paradoxical truth that, in the end, real manhood is something we give away. I highly recommend this inspiring book as a guide for every struggler who, believing that he is really heterosexual, makes the decision to resume the journey into manhood.

J OSEPH N ICOLOSI , P H. D., president, National Association
for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality

In Growth into Manhood , Alan Medinger gives us a practical but never simplistic guide to the journey toward complete manhood. His approach is fatherlygentle and firm. Its effect on me was to engender greater clarity and courage as I seek to become more manly as a father, husband, and ministry leader. Alan makes a strong case for traditional manhood. He uses his story and decades of ministry to those overcoming homosexuality to substantiate his call. Resolving the same-sex struggle highlights the need for clarity in what real manhood is, how God helps us, and what we must do to grow out of immaturity and into the outerdirectedness that marks whole manhood. He tackles hard issues with sensitivity, forthrightness, and a peaceful authority. I will read Growth into Manhood again, intently, for my own becoming and will offer it unreservedly to any man wanting to grow up.

A NDREW C OMISKEY , executive director,
Desert Stream Ministries

Growth into Manhood
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All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Revised Standard Version of the Bible , copyright 1946, 1952, and 1971 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission.

eISBN: 978-0-307-56901-1

Copyright 2000 by Alan Medinger

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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Medinger, Alan P., 1936-
Growth into manhood : resuming the journey / Alan P. Medinger.
p. cm.
Homosexuality, MaleReligious aspectsChristianity. MasculinityReligious aspectsChristianity. Men (Christian theology). MenReligious life. I. Title.

BR115.H6 M43 2000
261.8357662dc21

00-037381

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To the women in my life who have blessed me beyond measure.
To be a son, a husband, and a father to you is purpose
enough for my manhood .

With thanksgiving for all your love and patience:
Enid, my late beloved mother,
Willa, my most precious wife,
and Laura and Beth, my beautiful daughters .

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