Cope Andy - How to Be a Well Being : Unofficial Rules to LIVE Every Day

1. Chapter 14
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Dr Andy Cope, Jim Pouli Pouliopoulos, and Sanjeev Sanj Sandhu

Illustrations by Amy Bradley

This edition first published 2020

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For Kat. You always said I should, and you always believed I could. Sagapo! Pouli

Hi family! Hi Tanya! Hi WORLD! (waves frantically) Sanj

For Lou. Thanks for letting me travel. From travel comes adventure. And this book. Andy

xxx

For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun?

And what is to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.

And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.

And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

From The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran

An Englishman, a Greek/American, and a Welsh/Indian walked into a bar

Growing up, Jim Pouli Pouliopoulos wanted to be a science fiction writer but he listened to his dad's advice and became an engineer because, You'll always have a good job, son.

Thanks Dad!

Two engineering degrees, an MBA, and 20 years later Pouli realized he didn't want a good job he wanted a fulfilling one, so he declared himself a recovering engineer and he hasn't touched a drop of engineering since.

Instead, Pouli has found true happiness and success as a senior lecturer at Bentley University, which he combines with delivering The Art of Being Brilliant in America. We figure Tony Robbins has had a good run but there's a new guy in town. Smaller and with better eyebrows, Pouli's expertise extends to all things wellbeing so if you have a conference that needs pepping up with humour and positivity, he's yer man.

And boy is he qualified! Pouli was born to tell stories, something that shines through in his three (yes 3) TED Talks.

Pouli lives in Westford, Massachusetts, with his wife, Katherine, and a bunch of dogs. He's most proud that his three adult children listened to his advice and chose paths where they found their career calling and purpose early in life.

You can find Pouli online at www.POULI.com and on Twitter at @jimpouli.

Sanjeev Sanj Sandhu is a one-off. Born in South Wales to English parents with an Indian origin, he was always going to be different. He studied accounting at a leading British university, worked for a couple of the biggest consulting firms on the planet, and then decided to put happiness first.

He is now thriving, working with his heroes at Art of Brilliance, spreading positivity across the world, and embracing the journey of life. Sanj delivers keynotes and workshops on themes of positive psychology, resilience, and mindset and is able to connect with audiences from age 6 to 106.

Sanj is an adventurer. Over the next 10 years he's focused on bringing The Art of Being Brilliant to India and the Middle East but he's keen for you to know that, quite frankly, he'll go anywhere on the planet.

Sanj is 30 years younger than his white middle-aged co-authors, which gives him a different perspective as well as boundless enthusiasm, freshness, and innocence that shine through in the pages that follow. And speaking of those pages, this is Sanj's first book but get excited because he is hungry for more

You can find Sanj at www.artofbrilliance.co.uk or follow him at @sanjeevssandhu.

In comparison with his co-authors, Dr Andy Cope has been around the publishing block. He started out as a children's author with his Spy Dog series running to 20+ titles. Then came a crunching gear change. Andy discovered the science of positive psychology in 2001 and loved the subject so much that he began a lifelong affair with it. Twelve years later he gained a PhD in Wellbeing and after 20 years, Andy and Happiness are still going strong.

Their love child is a company called Art of Brilliance, which comprises a ramshackle bunch of wellbeing mavericks who think they can change the world. Andy and the team deliver keynotes and workshops globally and, hand on heart, believe the content to be the best in the world. The magic sauce lies in the fact that the messages from the science of human flourishing are all fairly obvious. Happiness is hidden in plain sight. Andy's job is to re-connect people with who they really are and get them to re-remember what brings joy into their life.