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2018 by Mo Isom
Published by Baker Books
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Ebook edition created 2018
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ISBN 978-1-4934-1270-9
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Endorsements
Mo Isom is a light in the darkness with her new book, Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot . In a world consumed and equally confused by sexuality, she refuses to remain silent, boldly addressing sex through the filter of truth found in Gods Word. This book is a must-read for those tired of being pressured and deceived by cultures ever-changing view and ready to rediscover sex by its God-given meaning.
Lisa Bevere, New York Times bestselling author and cofounder of Messenger International
One of the things the church and our world need a lot more of is honesty, transparency, vulnerability, and truth all mixed together. Mo is that combination. She effortlessly blends her story with amazing truth found in Jesus. I cant recommend this book enough!
Jefferson Bethke, New York Times bestselling author and coauthor of Love That Lasts
Mo is a powerful voice rising in our generation. She tells the truth, and it kills shame and invites freedom. This book will not only speak to your story but remind you of the bigger story that God is writing with our lives and our sexuality.
Annie F. Downs, bestselling author of Looking for Lovely and Lets All Be Brave
Anytime you see the words sex and Jesus on the cover of a book, you probably need to ask yourself what in the world thats about. We certainly hope thats what happens when people see this book, because the content on the inside is even more valuable than the title on the outside. Mo Isom is more than just a voice in the current cultural conversation about sexuality, God, and the church. She is a force . She tackles two of the stickiest subjects imaginable (sex and religion) with grace and intelligence, managing to keep the conversation reasonable and measured. She speaks with personal experience, and thus authority, on an issue that has been used as a blunt instrument to inflict damage in the current cultural wars surrounding what is right and wrong, good and bad, acceptable and unacceptable, regarding sex and faith and the church. This is an important book. We urge you to read it slowly. And youll need a highlighter.
Clayton and Sharie King, authors of True Love Project and cofounders of Crossroads Camps and Crossroads Missions
Mo writes her books as she lives her lifewith authentic faith, courageous honesty, contagious joy, and a tenacious drive to make the world a better place! This book will renew your faith and reframe the way you think about sex, relationships, goals, and living life at your full potential.
Dave and Ashley Willis, bestselling authors and founders of StrongerMarriages.com
Dedication
To my humble husband, Jeremiah.
Thank you for choosing me.
Gods immeasurable grace comes to life in the most overwhelming ways through your love.
You stared at my past and took a knee for my future.
I am honored to be your bride.
You will always be my One and Only.
With love, your Only One
Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright Page
Endorsements
Dedication
Introduction
1. Lets Call It Like It Is
2. The Whys Where We Must Begin
3. Virginity, Purity, and the Gray Area In Between
4. You Are What You See
5. Wandering for Worth
6. In the Myth of Darkness
7. From Why Him? to Why? Him.
8. Participating in the Healing
9. Impurity from Impatience
10. Unrealistic Sexpectations
11. Sex Is Not a Sin: Gods Illogical Redemption
Conclusion
Acknowledgments
Notes
About the Author
Back Ads
Back Cover
Introduction
Sex.
I dont think were talking about it enough.
Sure, our culture is saturated with it. Our computer screens are pumped full of it. Our televisions ooze it. Our radios scream about it. Magazines and books and apps and social media outlets stream it down our throats.
Lust, body ideals, pleasure, foreplay, porn, adultery.
Were obsessed with it. Were fixated on it. Were entertained by it. We think were deeply all-informed about it. We boast in the freedom we have to do what we want with our bodies. We tally the number of partners weve had. Were convinced its necessary in a normal dating relationship. Were numb to the random hookups and one-night stands. We want to experience it, tease it, taste it, flaunt it, worship it...
But were not willing to really sit down and talk about it.
While society twists, perverts, cheapens, and idolizes it, wethe churchare relatively silent about it. Awkwardly stumbling around it. Running from it. Building desperate rule lists of dos and donts. And, as a result, allowing the sanctity of God to be stolen by the insatiable lust of the lost.
Somewhere along the way weve allowed ourselves to be drowned out of the conversation. In a halfhearted attempt to stay relevant and relatable, weve caved in to the narrative that sexthe most prominent and overwhelming focus of our entire societyisnt for us to really talk about.
Right?
Wrong.
Its our responsibility to talk about it. It is our calling, as the body of believers, to share the good news of the gospel of Jesus Christand every version of the holy Scriptures Ive ever read talks openly and candidly about sex. It is a topic fiercely close to Gods heart, a topic that flows from the pages of His Word. A topic laced with affirmation, guidance, and reproof. God, after all, is the inventor of sex. We were made, by Him, as sexual beings. So if its a topic fiercely close to His heart, it must become a topic fiercely close to ours.
I choose to speak up. Not as a preacher but as a pilgrim. A pilgrim who learned every hard lesson, every hard way. Who sinned time and time and time again in search of a pleasure I just couldnt find. Who has a mess of a testimony that was nurtured and redeemed by a King who makes our hopeless things holy.