Lisa Bilyeu - Radical Confidence: 10 No-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life

Radical Confidence

10 NO-BS Lessons on Becoming the Hero of Your Own Life

Lisa Bilyeu

ADVANCE PRAISE FOR RADICAL CONFIDENCE

Lisa Bilyeu inspires so much confidence in others, and this book is a blueprint for a stronger, happier, more authentic life. No matter how you currently feel about yourself, about life, or about your future, get ready for change and a whole new understanding of whats possible for you. A must-read for a more confident life!

Brendon Burchard, #1 New York Times bestselling author

This powerful book gives you tools you can apply to your life right now to gain real, radical confidence. As Lisa shares her raw, candid, and inspiring journey, she not only empowers you to believe in the possibility of your own dreams, she teaches you how to become the hero of your own life, too!

Jamie Kern Lima, New York Times bestselling author of Believe IT and founder of IT Cosmetics

People unconsciously judge you on the level of confidence they detect in you. Your success depends on this quality, and Lisa has distilled the art of having and projecting this aura into ten highly practical lessons. A must-read for anyone hungry for power in this world.

Robert Greene, New York Times bestselling author of The 48 Laws of Power

Radical Confidence is just the book to cheer and galvanize you when life feels hard and your dreams unattainable. Lisa Bilyeus sparkle and drive shine through every paragraph. She can spur you on, fire you up, and help you regain the conviction that anything is possible.

Martha Beck, New York Times bestselling author

Unfiltered and unafraid, Radical Confidence is the perfect book for anyone who wants to finally reach the success theyve always dreamed about.

Marie Forleo, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Everything Is Figureoutable

Lisa Bilyeu is a phenomenal storyteller. Her ability to reflect on her past experiences and translate them into empowering, transformative, and practical insights will provide readers the tool kit they need to build the lives they want.

Jay Shetty, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Like a Monk

If radical confidence scares yougood. You need this book. Lisa will push you through the fears that hold you back and show you that you are the only hero you need. The life of your dreams is within your reach. Lisa gives you a step-by-step guide to being the hero you need right now. Must-read. Smart. Fun. Actionable. Theres a superhero inside you; Lisa will help you learn to fly.

Mel Robbins, New York Times bestselling author and award-winning podcast host

In her book Radical Confidence, Lisa challenges the deep-rooted beliefs that prevent so many of us from knowing or reaching for our dreams. Lisa shares her raw and honest journey, with a healthy dose of humor, to inspire us all to find our own inner purpose and power. She provides the practical tools to help anyone feel empowered to create a life they truly desire. If you want a road map for how to get started creating radical confidence in your life, this book is for you!

Dr. Nicole LePera, the Holistic Psychologist and author of the New York Timesbestselling How to Do the Work

To anyone brave enough to pick up this book and consider change.

Radical (adj):

Turning something on its head by not giving an eff!

Confidence (n):

1. The ability to believe in yourself even when you have insecurities, are vulnerable, or feel like total shit.

2. A tool that can be strengthened, developed, orwhen necessaryfaked.

H i, Im Lisa, and I want you to know that you dont have to hit rock bottom to change your life.

If anyone had ever sat me down and told me, Youll spend eight years of your life as a housewife. It wont be that bad; youll just lose your confidence, lose yourself, and squash all your hopes and dreams, I would have run screaming from the room, leaving a Lisa-shaped hole in the wall. Maybe even going all Real Housewives and flipping a few tables on my way out. But guess what? Thats exactly what happened. I spent almost a decade living each day totally detached from my hopes and my dreams. I lost my confidence, and I lost myself. So, how the hell did that happen?

Let me tell you, it wasnt overnight. It never is, despite the clich of I blinked and all of a sudden Thats such BS. You never just blink. Ever. Major changes, good or bad, always come about slowly. The foundation gets laid little by little, bit by bit. A wrong turn here, a pit stop there, all may seem like harmless detours. All those little diversions come before the BOOM! It can be the smallest fender bender or a massive pileup. Either way, that airbag to the face makes you stop and realize that youre totally lost. How the heck did I end up here? you ask yourself. But while a big dramatic moment might be what it takes to get you to look around, the reality is that your dreams have been in your rearview for a while and you just didnt notice they were getting smaller and smaller and slowly disappearing out of sight.

My wrong turns were small choices and situations that didnt seem like a big deal at the time. Usually, I wasnt even aware that I was making choices. When someone asked how I was, I answered, Oh, you know, fine, and I thought I was telling the truth. I certainly wasnt doing bad. I had a roof over my head, food to eat, was married to the man of my dreams, and had puppies to scrum on. Who was I to complain? Sure, most days I felt a kind of numbing sadness that I couldnt quite pinpoint, but so many people suffer from so much worse than anything I was going through. How bloody ungrateful was I?

The truth was that I was thoroughly and totally stuck. A place I now look back and calldun dun dunthe Purgatory of the Mundane.

The Purgatory of the Mundane might be even more dangerous than hitting rock bottom. Rock bottom can jolt you into action, but the Purgatory of the Mundane just lulls you to sleep with a sweet lullaby and then keeps you right on snoozin. Youre comfortable, but youre not actually engaged. Your basic needs are met, but your hopes, dreams, and wildest desires are withering away faster than the Wicked Witch of the West at a water park. Poof! Gone.

The Purgatory of the Mundane is like an inner-tube pool floatyeasy to get into, even relaxing at first, but then its really frikin hard to get out (especially when youre trying desperately not to spill your drink or get your braids wet). The Purgatory of the Mundane motto is Its not that bad. And it isnt that bad, but believe me, its a sinister trick to fall for. The Purgatory of the Mundane doesnt want you to leave, and knows how to get you to stay right where you are, how to convince you that you dont deserve to go after your dreams, that youre guilty for wanting more, and that youre just being selfish and entitled to think that your life could be any better than it already is. But, guys, the truth is that unhappiness is unhappiness, no matter how you shake or bake it. Sprinkle on as many reminders as you want (At least Im not still single, At least I have a paycheck): That cupcake is still going to taste like boredom frosted with despair and baked through with paralysis.