Lisa Phillips - The Confidence Coach: Take Control of Your Life and Wellbeing

THE CONFIDENCE
COACH

Take control of your life and wellbeing

LISA PHILLIPS

Thanks to Lisa Phillips wisdom and the examples that live among the pages of her book, you will begin to see a wonderful glimmer of growth, confidence and fulfillment. You will want to pass this gem on to your friends, clients and family. Im excited to see how this important writing will change your life!

Dianne Schwartz, author of Whose Face is in the Mirror?

The Confidence Coach is the perfect companion for anyone who wishes to increase their confidence levels easily from the inside out without struggle. Not only does this book include simple and practical ways to feel good, but it also supports the reader to understand what may have been holding them back in the past from being a confident person. Lisa has an approach to confidence which is leading edge, and I know from personal experience that it works! I have had the opportunity to see her work with people personally and was blown away by her expertise and passion in the field of confidence building.

Dani Pola, founder of The Self Esteem Team, breakfast announcer on Southern Cross Radio Australia

To understand other people, we need to understand ourselves. Lisa having trained under the worlds leading self-development experts has remarkable insight into human nature and how we can become masters of our own destinies. Under Lisas umbrella are presented many aspects of mind, including negativity, worrying, safe personal boundaries, developing confidence in ourselves, in public speaking, in relationships and in our career, and, above all, taking back our own power. The Confidence Coach is a virtual manual for enhancing quality of life through developing confidence in ourselves and in what we do.

Roger French, health director and editor, Natural Health Society of Australia

The Confidence Coach presents a prescription for increasing confidence with doses that go down easy. It asks the questions you may wish youd asked yourself. Dont miss out on discovering your answers!

Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship

The Confidence Coach is really like having your own personal coach encouraging you and guiding you toward greater self-confidence. In an easy-to-read format Lisa presents a step-by-step process that has proven successful for many, many people. She presents powerful action steps to help you with such confidence-robbing issues as negative self-talk and worrying about what other people think. One of her most powerful strategies is to help people to be kinder and more accepting of themselves.

Beverly Engel, LMFT, psychotherapist and bestselling author of 21 self-help books

Have you ever struggled a little or a lot with your feelings of confidence? Lisa offers an easy-to-read and practical guide to help you learn how to flex your confidence muscle. She clearly shows you how to navigate difficult situations, feel better about yourself and be a confident and assertive person. Lisa is a trusted authority in the field of confidence and personal empowerment and Im so delighted she has written this book so even more people have access to her knowledge and toolkit of resources. Lisa will inspire you to feel better about yourself with her excellent guidance in this lighthearted and reader-friendly resource.

Stacey Ashley, PCC Coach, ICF Australia; managing director, Ashley Coaching & Consulting

To my wonderful clients, for continuing to inspire me;
and also to my internal guidance system, for always
pointing me in the right direction.

Lisa Phillips is one of Australias most inspiring empowerment experts. Originally from the UK, she founded her Amazing Coaching business in 2001, after working in over 20 countries in senior management positions before deciding to follow her true passion and re-train as a coach and confidence expert. Lisa appears regularly on television, shares her advice in many business and lifestyle magazines and has been interviewed on numerous international radio shows. She has her own Confidence Coaching column in the UK press, while her popular Spiritual and Irritable radio show attracts both national and international self-development guests. Lisa is regularly asked to speak at large events in both the private and public sector. With her warm sense of humour and genuine, open style, Lisa inspires people to increase their confidence, stop being their own worst enemy, and trigger lasting change in their lives while enjoying themselves at the same time! In 2014 Lisa received the bronze Stevie Award for Women in Business.

Contents

PART ONE

Setting Key
Foundations for
Long-Term
Confidence

INTRODUCTION

WHERE HAS
MY CONFIDENCE
GONE?

Unless I am very much mistaken, you have picked up this book because you feel that in some way your life lacks that illusive magic ingredient: confidence.

Well, the good news is that you have arrived at the right place. As an experienced confidence coach, I have worked with thousands of men and women from a wide range of cultures and backgrounds, and I am delighted to inform you that, by completing the simple tips in this book, you, like thousands of others around the globe, will easily learn to build up what I call your confidence muscle so that it grows to be a strong and healthy part of your life.

I like to define confidence as a muscle because just like any other muscle in our body, confidence needs time and encouragement to grow and strengthen. It is not something that instantly gains strength overnight, but with consistent and steady care it will become a healthy and embedded part of who you are. Gaining confidence is a life-altering journey; you can gain so much just by making small adjustments to your thought processes and behaviours.

I am well aware that your confidence muscle may not have had a very good start in life, or that it might have been crushed over the years but from this moment on, you can learn to strengthen this muscle and consequently become a more confident, calm and courageous person.

I suffered from low self-confidence until I hit my mid-thirties. As a child I was bullied at school and as an adult I encountered bullying behaviour from a manager at work. I also spent far too long in an unhealthy relationship I didnt have the confidence to leave. All these experiences led to me feeling frustrated and angry with myself for allowing other people to walk all over me and take advantage of my nice nature. The occasional beating myself up and generally believing that everyone else in the world was somehow better than me, I took that all-important first step into nourishing and building my own inner confidence muscle. Thankfully, I have never looked back, and for the past twelve years in my role as a confidence coach I have helped other people to build up their very own strong confidence muscle.

Today I would like to accompany you on your own exciting journey into confidence. To ensure that your confidence muscle builds from a solid foundation, I have structured this book into three key parts.

In Part One we will focus on the psychological reasons for low self-confidence, such as negative beliefs and past programming. In doing this, we ensure that we set a firm foundation on which to build. This includes identifying any old self-talk or programming and uncovering some of the potential blockages that unconsciously prevent you from being confident. By focusing on these areas first, your journey into confidence will also feel much easier.

In Part Two we will take a more hands-on approach, in which I will share some exercises to help you build confidence from the inside out. These include setting confidence goals and creating a vision of a confident life.