Kate Burton - Confidence For Dummies

Confidence For Dummies, 2nd Edition

by Kate Burton and Brinley Platts

Confidence For Dummies, 2nd Edition

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About the Authors

Kate Burton (see www.kateburton.co.uk ) is an international Neuro-linguistc Programming master coach who challenges individuals and organisations to create lives that are sustainable and fun. Her business career began in corporate advertising and marketing with Hewlett-Packard. Now, she works with leaders and managers across industries and cultures to enable them to work at their best. Kate loves to deliver custom-built coaching programmes that support people to boost their communication skills, motivation, self-awareness, and confidence. She believes that people all have unique talents, abilities, and core values; the skill is about honouring them to the full.

In addition to co-authoring Neuro-linguistic Programming For Dummies, Neuro-linguistic Programming Workbook For Dummies, and Confidence For Dummies, Kate is the author of Live Life, Love Work (published by Capstone, a John Wiley & Sons imprint). Her latest addition to the For Dummies personal development range is Coaching with NLP For Dummies.

Brinley N. Platts is a leading executive coach, researcher, and consultant to FTSE 100 companies. He is one of the UKs leading authorities on CIO and IT executive careers and works with international companies on the integration of senior executive life and career goals. He is a behavioural scientist by training, and his passion is to enable large organisations to become places where ordinary decent people can grow and express their talents freely to the benefit of all stakeholders. He is a co-founder of the Bring YourSELF to Work campaign, which aims to release the pent-up talent and passion of todays global workforce to create the better world we all desire and want our children to inherit.

Authors Acknowledgements

From Kate: The seeds for this book were sown long ago, so Id like to acknowledge my teachers who got me curious about this elusive concept of confidence and Margaret who asked the powerful question I wanted to answer: So where do you keep your confidence?

Writing another book is like having another baby. It seems like a great idea until you are giving birth and then a joy when its safely delivered. My special thanks go to my writing partner Brinley who adopted this concept with me. To all my family and friends I appreciate your continual love and support. Bob youre a star.

To my clients, colleagues and coaches, thank you for the stories, inspiration and support. To Dan, Kathleen, Sam, and Jason plus all at Wiley, thank you for your cool, calm confidence over the hurdles.

Now its over to you the reader to make this book really work for you. Please take the baby now and run with it!

From Brinley: After a long and relatively conventional business career it is an amazing thing to reconnect with the passions and drivers of my youth and find them all as fresh as they were in the 1970s and bursting for their opportunity to be fully expressed in the world. This has been my experience over the last 45 years and I am grateful to everyone who has played a part in my awakening.

My mission now is to be an awakener to anyone who feels there should be the opportunity for a full and rich life that integrates home and work and which doesnt cost the earth.

My special thanks go to Kate for this opportunity to work with her, the Wiley publishing team, and to my wife Nicola, mother of our two young children. I also want to acknowledge my older children Loretta and Oliver for their wonderful inspiration and love over the last 20 years, and my parents who raised me to think for myself.