Lucille Brown - Fighting Low Sex Drive in Women

FIGHTING LOW SEX DRIVE IN WOMEN: Addressing some of the non-medical causes and solutions for low sex drive in women.

By

Lucille Brown

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FIGHTING LOW SEX DRIVE IN WOMEN: Addressing some of the non-medical causes and solutions for low sex drive in women.

T his book is not being written as a medical guide and should not be taken as one. It is a book based on conversations with women who have experienced the problem of a low sex drive. How did they increase their sex drive? Did they have to make any changes to their lives? And if they did, were those changes easy or painful? Did any of them have to change their way of thinking about certain things? Each of the womens stories have been transformed into a letter format to fit the style of this book.

Many marriages are suffering because one member has a low sex drive which causes the other partner to feel rejected or unloved and dissatisfied with the physical intimacy. We can no longer be passive and watch our relationships wilt away!

It is time to explore some of the causes and solutions to the problem of a low sex drive, and time to learn from the journeys of other women, in order to find the solution that works best for each of us, to help us have a happier and healthier sex life.

Some of the causes of a low sex drive are the following:

1. Medical reasons
2. Depression
3. Stress
4. Relationship issues
5. Self-esteem
6. Lifestyle habits
7. Exhaustion
8. Eye Gates and Ear Gates

MEDICAL REASONS

A s mentioned already , this book is not medical in nature so I shall say only a few words under this topic in order to let you know that a low sex drive can be caused by both medical and non-medical reasons. Various diseases and prescriptions are known to cause low sex drive so if you only began to experience low sex drive after being diagnosed with a particular illness, or after beginning a particular prescription, you can discuss this with your doctor. Also, hormonal changes that occur in a womans body during Menopause, Pregnancy and Breastfeeding may affect some womens sexual desire.

DEPRESSION

D epression, is a factor that can affect your sex drive. When youre in the pit of depression and everything looks gray and miserable, there is usually no desire to engage in sexual activity. The solution, when it comes to depression, is to find the source or the root of these feelings because there is almost always a reason why you are depressed, unless your depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain or another medical reason.

If your depression is not being caused by a medical factor, then you must take time to be quiet and think honestly about what is causing you sorrow. You must be willing to be honest with yourself since the truth may not be pleasant to admit.

Julies story:

A part of me always knew the reason for my constant depression even though I didnt want to admit it to myself, but one day when my husband came home and said to me Julie, I just cant take this anymore! Youre always sad and I dont know what Ive done wrong. I cant take this anymore... I knew I had to deal with this. I went into our Entertainment room and curled up on the sofa with a book, pretending to read. I thought long and hard and I finally admitted to myself that the reason I was constantly depressed was because of my first boyfriend. We had dated from when we were 16 to about 19 and I really thought we would get married. But he met someone else in college. Even though I later fell in love with someone else too and got married, a part of me had never let go of my first boyfriend.

Having come face to face with the truth, I had to make a choice. Was I going to continue thinking about my first boyfriend, always wondering if we had make a mistake? Or was I going to accept that the great guy I had married was meant for me? After talking with you, I realized that I had fallen into the grass looks greener on the other side trap, where other peoples lives look perfect because you dont see all thats going on with them and you begin to feel as if your life is not so great! I came to a decision. My husband was a great guy who loved me and honestly I really did and do love him, and I did not want to lose him due to a stupid pining for an old love which may have never even turned into a great marriage! After this change/firm decision in my mind, my whole thinking and emotions began to change. I began to feel lighter and with time happier, and yes this has translated to me wanting my husband to touch me. I finally have a sex drive, lol!

STRESS

S tress is another factor that can affect your sex drive and it works in a similar way to depression even though it can make you very irritable unlike depression which usually leaves you listless and passive.

When youre dealing with financial stress or stress from problems at work or home, it is difficult for your brain to get relaxed enough to feel any desire for your partner. If the stress is something that can be alleviated without causing you trouble then it may be best to take that route. For instance if youre in a stressful work environment and you know you have a lot of savings and good working credentials to find another job without using too much of your savings, then you may need to leave that workplace. If on the other hand you are financially dependent on the job, you may have to find other means of alleviating the stress, such as exercising, massages, or talking to your spouse or other family member or a counselor about problems at work, since it is very therapeutic to let out your frustrations verbally.