Scott Palmer - The 5 Money Personalities Guidebook

2013 by Scott and Bethany Palmer.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction and Contents

Session 12:Stop, Drop, and Roll

W elcome!

This guidebook will walk you through the 5 Money Personalities DVD-based study. As you work through each of the twelve weekly sessions, youll find yourself discovering new ways to think about your money and your relationship.

Heres how to make the most of this series:

1. As you watch each of the weekly DVDs, follow along in your guidebook, answering the questions as you go.

2. Interactive Discussion Pointseach session includes interactive questions designed for you and your spouse or group to discuss.

3. Weekly Activitiesthese are designed to give you short activities to do throughout the week to drive home the points of the session. For the first four days you do your activity on your own; then on the fifth day take some time to reflect on your week together.

Have fun, stay engaged, and connect like you never have before.

Make It Happen,

The Money Couple

Scott and Bethany Plamer

www.TheMoneyCouple.com

So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.

1 Thessalonians 5:11 (NLT)

I t all starts with the vows: For richer or poorer. We stand up at our weddings and recite those vows fully expecting that we will happily stand by each other, no matter what. We have big dreams about the life were starting with this person we love so much.

And then life happens. It doesnt matter if things go along just as you planned or if your plans get derailed early on. The bottom line is that life, no matter how great it is, pushes a lot of your hopes and dreams to the side. You have jobs. You have kids. You buy a house. You lose a house. Your parents get older. You find yourselves stressed out by the present and worried about the future. And over time, through no fault of your own, those dreams you had for your life together get put on the back burner and one by one, they start to dry up and disappear.

If you think about the dreams you had when you got married, most of them have some kind of money componentbuying a house, having children, getting a job, moving to a new city, traveling, spending time with friends. Money doesnt equal happiness, but money does play a part in whether our dreams turn into reality.

Theres a reason we take vows to stick together in richer or poorer. Money ripples into every part of our lives as couples. Thats why, whether you have it or you dont, money can test a relationship.

Because money trickles out of and into just about every decision we make during the day, its not surprising that couples clash over money. Its like a constant pop quiz, one youre bound to fail unless you and your spouse have a strong Money Relationship.

Your Money Relationship is not the same thing as your financial arrangement. Your financial plans, your debt, your investments, your taxes, your budgetthose make up one aspect of your life together. And thats not what this book is about. We want to focus on the relationship behind that part of your life, your Money Relationship. Thats the part of your marriage that involves all of those little, day-to-day decisions about money.

You and your spouse started your lives together with big dreams. So now its time to do what it takes to reclaim those dreams, to quit arguing about money and heal your Money Relationship.

1. What percentage of relationships end over money? _______

2. A Money Relationship is the decisions couples make where _________________ is involved.

3. A Money Relationship is NOT:

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4. A Money Relationship IS:

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5. You are learning how to bring ______________________ and _________________________ together.

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INTERACTIVE DISCUSSION POINTS

1. What are your expectations for the next 90 days?

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2. List one or two decisions you have made recently that involve money.

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3. List ten decisions you made in the last week that involved money.

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4. Now list one or two decisions that you didnt think of as money decisions at the time, but that you now realize had a money component.

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5. First Thessalonians 5:11 tells us to encourage and build each other up. Take a moment to tell your partner how you would like to encourage him or her over the next twelve weeks.

WEEKLY ACTIVITY

For the next few days, write down one decision each day that involved money.

Day 1: _______________________________________________

Day 2: _______________________________________________

Day 3: _______________________________________________

Day 4: _______________________________________________